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Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:41PM (#28091255)
My first thought when reading this was hoping that these types of articles will reduce the comments I see on the internet that try and compare Delhi/Mumbai squalor to LA.

Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto.

So either Westerners don't realize that people in these places are making less money in a month than the middle class person can expect to spend in an average afternoon, or there is some intermediate step of "let me compare this to what I know" that is happening. It's not really enough...you should experience it for yourself (there's also other issues, such as people claiming there's more homeless in LA than in Delhi, not realizing that a lot of effectively homeless people in India aren't classified as such - it'd be like saying you're not homeless in LA if you have a tent or a sleeping bag).

Reminds me of learning a new language, where beginners try to formulate thoughts in their native tongue and produce a direct translation, whereas those who are fluent can skip that step completely.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:31PM (#28092382)
Many years ago, I read of a study that measured poverty not in terms of income but with metrics like "How many meals per day do you get?" and "What kind of shelter do you have?" It concluded that less than 1/2 of one percent of Americans were poor by standards in India.

When I've repeated that online, on at least one occasion someone who lived in India got mad at me for supposedly promoting negative stereotypes and told me my info was out of date. They seemed outraged.

I spent some years homeless in America. I'm still quite poor and frustrated with that fact.

I don't know what the solution is for trying to promote better cross cultural understanding. I try to focus on how to get the word out in the US that lack of appropriate housing supply is a primary root cause of homelessness in this country. It's shocking how many people insist that lack of affordable housing has nothing to do with homelessness and homeless people are all just crazies and junkies who don't want to get better.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ramraj07 on Friday August 06, 2021 @10:34PM (#28095174)
Grew up in india, spent my twenties in the US, and now back in India. I can give you some potential explanation:

Even though the poor and lower middle class make abjectly low amounts of money, the upper middle class and the rich actually make money comparable to most developed countries. This is reflected in the real estate prices (Chennai, the fourth largest city, has prices comparable to Brooklyn). I can make 200k UsD a year and call myself upper middle class and no one will bat an eye.

While you can kinda isolate yourself from the real poverty, you’re never fully shielded from it. You will see people struggling if you live in India. Then, the only way you can convince yourself you’re not an evil person is by playing some Mental gymnastics. Thus you have people who refuse to accept how outrageous the wealth disparity in India is. Combine this with this misplaced cultural pride that seems comparatively excessive here, and you get people who become belligerent if you mention most Indians are poorer than dirt.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by Kakashi4 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:49AM (#28095782)
The upper middle class does not nearly make money comparable to most developed countries. If you make 200k USD a year in India you are strictly rich. I make 10x less than you and I'm still upper middle class. The average rent in a place like Anna Nagar in Chennai (which is probably one of the most expensive places to live) is about 50,000 INR a month or ~700$ for a 3 bhk apartment. In comparison, the average rent in Brooklyn for a 1 bedroom apartment is around 2000$ a month. Just wanted to clarify on the numbers, I do agree with everything else you've said.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ramraj07 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @01:48AM (#28096068)
The median price for a home in Brooklyn in 900k, which translates to 6 crores. That’s definitely not a median price in central Chennai but it’s also not very far away. There’s also a significantly larger discrepancy between rent and home prices in India so that’s there.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by buu700 on Friday August 06, 2021 @11:37PM (#28095469)
Then, the only way you can convince yourself you’re not an evil person is by playing some Mental gymnastics.

Does benefiting from severe inequality imply amorality? I don't see any inherent contradiction between personal financial success and supporting policies intended to uplift the poor (similarly to how some uber-wealthy in America publicly advocate for more progressive taxation).

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by elihu on Saturday August 07, 2021 @02:30AM (#28096279)
I think that if someone is well-off and yet they see a lot of people around them that aren't, it's pretty natural to feel uncomfortable about that. Like "why do I live in a house and not in a tent?" Luck plays a role, but that's not a satisfying answer. One way people deal with it is to construct a narrative to explain their success -- maybe they're smarter, or worked harder, or avoided the personal vices they see among the poor.

Those narratives aren't necessarily entirely wrong, and I don't see those people as particularly evil, they just might have a few blind spots. For instance, they might not realize that even though they worked hard for their success, they also had a lot of second chances when they failed and they might not have had some of the roadblocks to success that others had, such as serious health problems, or a bad family situation, or prejudice, or violence, or lack of education, or lack of leisure time.

I've never been to Delhi, so this is just based on my own observation of people in the United States. I assume this is probably one of those aspects of human nature that are more-or-less the same everywhere.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by austhrow743 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:31AM (#28095694)
What do policies have to do with anything? This isn't global warming where the big deal is only in the aggregate.

That there are X million people you cant help even if you do all you can doesn't undermine the fact that if you make hundreds of thousands of dollars you could change the lives of many forever with not much of a lifestyle hit for yourself.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by buu700 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:40AM (#28095734)
So, just to be clear, your position is that any >=middle-class person who doesn't donate the majority of their wealth to charity is "evil"?

What do policies have to do with anything?

I can't tell if this is a serious question. Policies are how we effect change at scale. Relying on countless people to each independently make the decision to follow your particular moral values isn't a practical solution for addressing inequality throughout the entire country of India.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by fdfsasd22323 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @01:39AM (#28096028)
I don't want to speak for the person you're replying to, but..

> any >=middle-class person who doesn't donate the majority of their wealth to charity is "evil"?

That is pretty much Peter Singer's position (who incidentally is Australian, and it appears the person you're replying to may be also), who is if nothing else at least providing serious and cogent arguments for such a position. You may disagree, but he argues fairly respectably, IMO.

I'm a bit on the fence on that one, but I think there's something to be said for the fact that there is at least some immorality happening if a person worth 100.000$ walks past someone worth 0$ and doesn't help them out at least a little.

If you're curious about this line of reasoning, here's a nice introduction: https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2013/12/giving...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by baybal2 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @04:34AM (#28096943)
> Grew up in india, spent my twenties in the US, and now back in India. I can give you some potential explanation:

What did make you to move back to India?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by baybal2 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @04:17AM (#28096854)
> Even though the poor and lower middle class make abjectly low amounts of money, the upper middle class and the rich actually make money comparable to most developed countries. This is reflected in the real estate prices (Chennai, the fourth largest city, has prices comparable to Brooklyn). I can make 200k UsD a year and call myself upper middle class and no one will bat an eye.

So true. People have very wrong expectation when "hiring poor Indians." India been a player in software development field for decades. People there know well how do they pay people in the US, not to say that most higher education in India automatically assumes some passable English.

The upper part of India society lives with one leg in the Western world, others not so much.

Mumbai may pass some times to a glass skyscraper city of the West, but drive 100km out of the city, and the reality will hit you like a truck.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:39PM (#28092486)
> I don't know what the solution is for trying to promote better cross cultural understanding.

I think that's just it: trying to promote better cross cultural understanding. That's something I tried with the GP here, but I could probably write up an article to be linked to in such discussions.

> metrics like "How many meals per day do you get?" and "What kind of shelter do you have?"

I think this is a good thought, a focus on qualitative differences in lived experience using quantifiable metrics. With that approach you're less likely to offend rather than inform. Might be best to skip the "less than 1/2 of one percent of Americans were poor by standards in India" since it seems to suggest that American poverty isn't "real" poverty.

I would even go so far as to say that communicating the cultural context is far more important than underlining the economics, the former of which TFA is attempting to do.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:53PM (#28092614)
I'm a former military wife. Just trying to explain how military life is different to other Americans was insanely hard.

I lived in the same country. I used the same currency. I spoke the same language. Yet my life was not like that of civilians I knew and their underlying assumptions and mine that informed our decisions just did not match up to such a degree that I eventually stopped trying to explain my life choices even to people quite close to me who simply did not get the context and that their decision-making matrix and mine were largely unrelated.

I wish you luck in trying to figure out how to do this.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by alisonkisk on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:35PM (#28093559)
It's not possible to make people understand. You can try it understand others, and some others can try to understand you, but you can't make someone's open their mind if they don't want to.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by wombatmobile on Friday August 06, 2021 @08:44PM (#28094530)
To help people understand something they've never experienced, stay within their own frame of reference. That's all they've got to work with, because they don't know what they haven't experienced.

To explain poverty to a middle class Californian, frame it in culture terms that are familiar, but which still reach the same class of emotional experience you want them to understand.

e.g.

Have you ever gone shopping at The Gap for jeans with a bunch of pals, and they take forever to decide which 12 pairs of jeans they're going to get, but you only take like 20 minutes because you can only afford 4 pairs? You know how that feels?

They'll catch on.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by asah on Friday August 06, 2021 @11:03PM (#28095313)
Well written novels help...
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by rendall on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:34AM (#28095702)
That's interesting. Would you mind giving an example of one of these disjuncts? Some decision you made as a military wife that others did not understand?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Saturday August 07, 2021 @04:24AM (#28096888)
I think the best example is actually from my divorce. A friend basically called me "stupid" for "trusting" my ex to pay me my support payments while on the phone and I basically politely hung up on her.

She was probably just worried sick about me because the stats for civilian Americans is abysmal. I think it's something like one third of men don't pay at all and one third only make partial payments, which routinely leaves women and their children in a real pickle. It can take months or years to get legal remedy, garnish his wages and get back payments -- if you get them at all.

But it doesn't work that way in the military. If he had stiffed me, I would have written his commanding officer and his wages would have been garnished post haste, much more quickly than what you typically see in the civilian world.

My friend apparently thought I was some naive little ninny who just didn't understand the cold, cruel world because I had such a sheltered existence as a homemaker. And that wasn't it at all. The rules were just different for me and I was in no danger of being left out in the cold like she was likely imagining was about to happen to me given how common that is in the civilian version of America.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by FooBarBizBazz on Saturday August 07, 2021 @04:58PM (#28101753)
A similar trick is used by some landlords. No rent? Call the CO. Makes military tenants very reliable.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Saturday August 07, 2021 @05:02PM (#28101793)
That street runs both ways. When asshole landlords were raising rent every three months on soldiers and their families, the general on the base threatened to build more housing and move everyone on base, gutting the local rental market.

The landlords quit their shit and cut a deal.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by FooBarBizBazz on Saturday August 07, 2021 @06:02PM (#28102288)
Sounds fair TBH.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by alarge on Saturday August 07, 2021 @03:44AM (#28096668)
I'm obviously not Doreen, but I was a military brat and military myself and can relate some of what I saw. First off, there's a sense of impermanence to everything. Your best friend is often someone you will only know for ~3 years of your life. You have to meet people and become friendly with them quickly or you will have no social contacts outside your family.

If you were a military spouse, you may have had a job, but rarely a career. You move at the whim of your spouse's job (every few years) to places you don't control. You generally don't get to pick your neighbors or even your friends - you just adapt to the situation that constantly changes.

Spouses of military members that go on unaccompanied tours have it even worse. They are at home alone, often for months at a time. My anecdotal observations of Navy spouses, for example, was that cheating was a standard practice - not because the marriage was necessarily bad, but because they were so lonely. This is based on limited exposure (I was Air Force, both as a brat and active duty), so may not be as universally true as I observed.

This can all sound horrible, but it really wasn't. Just different. Different enough that sometimes it is hard to explain.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by salynchnew on Saturday August 07, 2021 @03:46AM (#28096678)
The incentive structure in the military is completely different from normal American society. Imagine a parallel, "socialist" society that exists inside the U.S.A. That's the military in a nutshell.

It has its own government-run housing authority, its own government-run medical system, you don't always know where you will end up on your next tour, you may not be allowed to quit and leave the military when you would normally expect to under some circumstances, etc.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by FooBarBizBazz on Saturday August 07, 2021 @05:01PM (#28101785)
> a parallel, "socialist" society that exists inside the U.S.A. That's the military in a nutshell.

Perfect description, which I find hilarious. It's the best large-scale example of socialism that actually works. But the Right won't admit it and the Left thinks it's hell.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:18PM (#28093411)
Thanks...I think I'm going to give up before I even start. The gap is far wider than I had ever imagined.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by loopz on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:51PM (#28092595)
India has lots of villages, slums and people in between having very poor material standards compared to Western countries. But people are also much more interconnected, rely on each other and find ways to get by. So to get that culture, you have to spend at least 6 months and really get to know what family values are, and how things tend to work out. It's very different than the lonely individualist countries. Many Indians actually move back home to be with family and friends!

So superficial analyses may just not be very recognizable to the population, because of very different value systems and nuances.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by euske on Friday August 06, 2021 @09:38PM (#28094886)
Personally, that's the biggest lesson that I got from traveling in India. There's no question that people's living standard needs to be improved there, but I saw something that's lacking in a developed country (especially in the country I live): mutual help, or the "love your neighbor" mindset. I hope that tradition last long.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by altantiprocrast on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:14AM (#28095634)
As someone who immigrated to the US from India, and was a 'stereotypical nerd' (being on HN duh) nosy neighbors seem nice on the outside but it can get old really quick. (Unless you're perfectly average for the community you live in). I much prefer making friends at work or other common interest places rather than neighbors or family who randomly happen to be next to you.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by fakedang on Saturday August 07, 2021 @05:16PM (#28101905)
Tbh anyone nosy. Every time I visit my parents back home, I realize how exasperatingly nosy they are. They can't stick to minding their own business, and honestly it's something that they picked up with age - I guess to be a part of the general "community". And the amount of mental gymnastics they perform to analyze trivial mind-numbing stuff....

I guess it's something that's as ingrained in the Indian psyche as turmeric is in Indian cuisine.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by loopz on Saturday August 07, 2021 @05:59PM (#28102267)
Same with age here in Europe. I believe they call it family, ugh! ;)
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:28PM (#28092957)
That's very true, but I think it's possible to a) have a fact-based approach without being superficial, and b) communicate cultural context without having to plumb the depths of the human condition.

Were it necessary to cover the subtle nuances of Eastern and Western culture, it would be hard to get anywhere with prose. I think it's sufficient to convey enough information to demonstrate that the value systems and lived experiences are fundamentally different.

The goal is not to "level the playing field" in terms of where people are coming from, but to foster more meaningful discussions by explicitly taking context into account.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by fragmede on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:46PM (#28093121)
But it takes the plumbing the depths of the human condition to realize that we're not actually a that different, and that the fundamentals are the SAME. Airy eloquent prose may not have the same effect on the data driven as hard metrics, but comparing $20,000 (US) a year to the equivalent of $1 US a day, without capturing, in prose, that person in the US below the poverty line may be going hungry more days a week, and is more exposed to the elements, and more likely to be harrassed by police/others and more likely to die, is superficial.

Prose is what's needed to communicate effectively. Tables and charts simply can't do that by themselves. Even they need a legend and labels to be useful.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by wil421 on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:03PM (#28092719)
There’s someone on YouTube I sorta watched from time to time when the pandemic hit. He’s located in Venice beach, German in Venice. He was exposing the homeless issue and lack of government response.

Fast forward to now. The city offered everyone a free place to go and many took it. There were still a lot of people who refused. Now the garbage trucks and police evicted them. The garbage people packed a lot of stuff and put it into storage.

What’s your take? They were offered housing while they get back on their feet and chose not to take it.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:13PM (#28092798)
First, some people took it and some did not. Yet you are trying to suggest we judge all homeless based on those who did not without knowing any further details. Damn them all to hell because some were offered housing and said "no."

A lot of services offered to the homeless are really terrible. I never stayed in a shelter while homeless. They have rules that make it just shy of being a form of prison, they tend to not be safe and they often have serious mold problems, among other things.

They also offered me no option to continue living as a family with my adult sons. Every service I spoke to urged me to take shelter as a single woman and to wait-list my sons for shelter as single adult men. There were zero programs to help us find shelter as a family of three blood relatives who still need each other to make our lives work.

I have done a lot of writing about homelessness and housing issues over the years. I could direct you to several of my blogs if you actually are sincerely interested in my take. I doubt that you are. That's likely a rhetorical device.

I am doing what I can to continue researching the issue, to provide useful information for small communities to use, etc. I don't know how to get traction and I don't know how to adequately monetize my work which makes it difficult to keep writing about it in hopes of other people benefiting because I need to eat and pay rent too. I'm certainly not independently wealthy.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by wil421 on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:03PM (#28093285)
I’ve done outreach and volunteer work before. Not sure how you interpreted my reply but it was not a negative question.

These topics are of interest to me.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:17PM (#28093406)
I took it as negative because you closed with this:

They were offered housing while they get back on their feet and chose not to take it.

It's full of implicit accusation that the homeless are difficult, uncooperative, causing their own problems and you can't help them because they are irrational pains in the butt.

I interpreted it that way in part because many homeless services are so bad they help keep the problem alive rather than helping to solve it.

As just one example: Most homeless people have serious health issues. It's an underlying cause of their financial problems and a barrier to employment.

But if you go to a soup kitchen, you are exposed to other sick people, plus cigarette smoke and marijuana smoke. I eventually quit going to soup kitchens and just worked at finding other ways to keep myself fed because my health issues are my number one problem making my life not work, so anything that makes it harder for me to take care of my health is a very serious problem.

I think we should lower the barrier to food stamps in the US. It's a good program that allows you to access food from normal middle class venues which are actually clean etc. I think we should do all we can to cut the bureaucratic costs and as much as humanly possible say "If you want food stamps, here you go" without asking people to prove they need them.

But I don't expect anything like that will ever happen. Talk of UBI appears to be code for "And now rich people can say Shut up. You are getting a check, you ingrate." rather than a genuine attempt to give meaningful relief to poor Americans.

Cutting a check is an easy answer to a hard problem, so likely won't solve anything.

I've listed my blogs elsewhere in another comment if you genuinely want to know more about what I think about homelessness, housing issues and community development.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by zamzoid on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:59PM (#28093749)
I am wondering why you think a basic income check wouldn’t help anything, because it seems to exactly solve the issue you describe. You sign up for the check (or a lot of the times, get it automatically from the IRS), get it regularly, and buy food with it. Very little bureaucracy compared with food stamps. I agree that one must not call those who rely on the checks entitled and refuse them any further assistance. I think the best thing is to do what we can to help people get back on their feet or at least in a stable situation, and a basic income check would be only one (albeit major) element of that.

I concede that distributing the checks may be difficult to those without stable mailing addresses. Then it may help to for example allow distribution in cash at the local post office.

The pandemic stimulus checks appear to have had a tremendous impact in reducing poverty, see https://www.marketwatch.com/story/this-government-program-cu..., at least based on the studies there. I don’t know what the path is for this becoming regular policy, but the proposed child tax credit is projected to greatly decrease child poverty (although it has its own problems, it’s tough to get people to understand it exists and how to use it).

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @07:13PM (#28093873)
The amount they are proposing for UBI wouldn't even cover rent in some parts of the US. Or it would barely cover rent in some places with little or nothing leftover. Online conversations about UBI frequently include comments to the effect that "If you had UBI, you could move someplace with lower rent."

It amounts to the latest version of putting homeless people on a bus and shipping them elsewhere so they stop being a local problem.

If rent is lower, it is probably because services are less available. If you need those services, such as specialized health care, telling you "Here's a check. Move someplace where it covers rent." is essentially a big fat fuck you.

We have torn down more than a million SROs and largely zoned out of existence the ability to build new Missing Middle Housing in mixed use, walkable neighborhoods. So you not only need to cover a high rent, you also need to have a car which is another huge expense and another big fat fuck you if you simply can't drive for some reason (as is true for me -- I am handicapped and no longer drive).

If we pass UBI, I believe it will only get harder to convince people to build SROs and Missing Middle Housing and walkable neighborhoods. That would be an important part of actually solving things.

We also need universal healthcare coverage in the US. Medical expenses are another huge hardship in the US.

If it were possible to find cheap housing, live without a car and get medical care without it being a hardship, that would make it possible to live on very little and then most people could make their lives work even if they only worked part-time. Currently, if you can't work full-time at a well paid job with benefits, you can't make your life work and we aren't creating enough jobs of that sort. We are increasingly moving to gig work which would be fine if you didn't need a job with good benefits to get medical care and if you could find a cheap place where living without a car really worked and you mostly can't arrange that in the US.

Throwing money at the problem doesn't fix those systemic issues and likely just makes people in power feel like they did something and don't have to feel guilty while they shirk on dealing with resolving the hard problems because actually fixing anything is hard work and painful and no one wants to actually do that if they can find an easy out like "I cut you check. Stop bothering me."

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by zamzoid on Saturday August 07, 2021 @01:24AM (#28095965)
I truly appreciate the insight you gave on zoning, housing, and healthcare. But I feel we are talking past each other, and you are attacking a strawman. I never implied UBI would be a catch all solution to the problem of homelessness. You are attacking the people who treat it as such when I said explicitly it is only one of several remedies.

I simply meant 1) it seems like a good solution for replacing food stamps, and it seems like you dropped this point entirely. I also think 2) it can be helpful in a wider sense. It is certainly easier to give people basic income checks than to rearchitect the entirety of American society away from cars, employer-based healthcare, and suburbia. While I agree with you that we perhaps should be on this more effective path, such a radical reorganization would take decades and massive political will that just isn’t there yet. Not even the New Deal, Great Society, or Eisenhower highway programs reached anything near this scope. UBI is something that has already had a test shot, and the data shows it has had a huge effect in reducing poverty during the pandemic. Unless I’m missing something big, it seems like a good way to start.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Saturday August 07, 2021 @01:30AM (#28095994)
The stimulus checks aren't actually a test of UBI. A global pandemic isn't business as usual by any stretch of the imagination.

I'm all for doing more for families with dependent children. You didn't ask me about that. You asked me why I think UBI doesn't work. I answered that.

My reply is not argumentative at all. It's just a reply to a question I was asked. That's all it is.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by zamzoid on Saturday August 07, 2021 @01:47AM (#28096064)
Okay, I’m really trying to have a good-faith conversation about this, maybe my questions weren’t super clear. I am very interested in your opinion, as you seem to have experience and also have thought about this a lot (and I think many of us on HN appreciate the unique perspective you have to offer). I am just having a hard time seeing the difference between “reducing barriers to food stamps in the US”, as you said and “giving regular checks to people”. Could you elaborate what this would look like? And how is it possible for checks to “not solve anything” when they have demonstrated effectiveness in decreasing poverty in the real world? Is the pandemic really that different a situation in this case? Maybe your definition of a solution here is different than mine?

EDIT: And of course I also don’t want to burden you with endless questioning. If you have written about this I would be happy to read links. You just have a lot of websites and a lot of content so it is difficult for me to find your writing on this particular topic.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Saturday August 07, 2021 @02:35AM (#28096302)
The stimulus checks aren't a test of UBI in part because we were told they were one time relief for an emergency, not an entitlement you can count on forever. People spend money differently if they are told "it's a one-time gift" versus "you can expect this for the rest of your life."

Historically, when you inject money into a system without increasing availability of goods and services, the result is inflation. If you start giving people UBI as a regular thing, the value of those checks will promptly go down due to inflation.

All welfare programs have a long history of failing to keep up with inflation. Even food stamps tend to last only about three weeks out of the month. I see no reason to believe UBI would somehow magically escape this pattern.

Making college loans readily available didn't fix things. It didn't mean that everyone had equal access to a college degree and now ordinary people could readily pursue the career of their dreams. Instead, it resulted in tuition skyrocketing and students having trouble getting a professional job with which to pay off their student loans, so people are waiting tables, putting off marriage, putting off homeownership, putting of having kids, putting off their lives to try to pay their loans.

I see no reason to think UBI would somehow go differently. I read that they tried something somewhere and the result was the landlords just raised rent and it didn't provide real relief for poor people. It just enriched the landlords.

Two-thirds of lottery winners are bankrupt within five years and they are at dramatically increased risk of being murdered, among myriad other terrible fates. The money doesn't solve their problems. They trade poor people problems for rich people problems and they don't have rich people coping skills. It often has very ugly results.

If, instead, you give people access to food and medical care and you make smaller homes in walkable neighborhoods where it's possible to live cheaply, then people can manage their problems and make their choices and find a path forward. People aren't likely to eat ten times what they need just because you are willing to pay for it. People aren't likely to get ten times as many x-rays and surgeries as they need just because you won't bill them for it.

Covering basic needs and guaranteeing you can eat and see a doctor is fundamentally different from cutting a check and telling people to spend it any way they want. It's an important form of social safety net that helps when things go wrong and isn't as readily abusable as cash is whether through innocent mistake, ignorance or even willful irresponsibility.

If you go nuts and spend like crazy and can still eat, well you might survive long enough to learn better. If you piss away all your UBI and then people say "Nope. No food stamps. We ended that program to fund UBI. Go starve." you've got a serious problem and so does society.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by wil421 on Friday August 06, 2021 @07:42PM (#28094107)
Doreen,

I only asked the question because I wanted your input from your experience. Most of the people who didn’t want to leave were in various stages of addiction and alcoholism. Addiction is something I know about from my life. Not a fan of UBI. I worked endless hours in the Restaurant industry until I was 27 and got into IT and software development. Not trying to compare to your situation.

Food stamps and health care assistance should absolutely be raised. I have family who struggle with both costs.

Thank you for your blogs and your time.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @07:43PM (#28094116)
Sorry, I'm not trying to be difficult. Sometimes people just have incompatible communication styles and it doesn't go well. (Or it just doesn't go well. Because life.)

Best.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ptr2voidStar on Sunday August 08, 2021 @04:57AM (#28105200)
I feel your pain - even though I've never been homeless, am male, from an entirely different country and demographic.

You are early, a good writer - and were able to convey the feeling of frustration and helplessness whilst maintaining your dignity.

Could you perchance share the links to your blogposts on here?

I'm sure there are many on here who would like to help in some way if they can.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by lapsed_pacifist on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:23PM (#28092901)
I'm interested in reading more of your writing. I worked with TANF recipients, many of whom were homeless (although few of them were unsheltered) and would like to hear more of your perspective because I have some exposure personally, and also because there is a serious problem with providing services to a large number of homeless people in my local area.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:30PM (#28092981)
https://streetlifesolutions.blogspot.com/

The sidebar links out to other things by me:

Write Pay, Pocket Puter, The Genevieve Files, What Helps The Homeless, San Diego Homeless Survival Guide, r/GigWorks

I also run r/CitizenPlanners and I'm the author or Eclogiselle.com and Project: SRO and The Butterfly Economy

http://www.eclogiselle.com/

http://projectsro.blogspot.com

http://butterflyeconomy.blogspot.com/

Things don't get updated as frequently as I would like in part because I don't have traction, so I don't get the kind of feedback I need to help me figure out what to talk about and because I don't get enough from tips and Patreon to focus on these projects instead of on trying to come up with enough money to survive, but I have done a lot of writing over the years.

That list is not comprehensive. It's just stuff that has more than a few posts and most of that stuff is still being actively developed, just slowly.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by vkou on Friday August 06, 2021 @07:32PM (#28094035)
> What’s your take? They were offered housing while they get back on their feet and chose not to take it.

If you are, say, addicted to drugs, and your options are 'Live in sober housing' and 'Live in a tent', is it that surprising that #2 is more appealing?

And before someone suggest 'They should just stop using drugs'. I'd also like to point out that we don't have a miracle cure for addiction, and that there are millions of upper and upper-middle class people with every service and support network, both professional and personal, who are unable to deal with their drug problems. What chance does someone sleeping rough, with nobody in their lives who gives two shits about them, have?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by 908B64B197 on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:28PM (#28092961)
> It concluded that less than 1/2 of one percent of Americans were poor by standards in India.

I have no trouble believing that.

Same thing with the software industry really.

Source control has been mainstream since the 90's, build pipeline, automation and so on. But there are still shops around where they'll look at you funny for suggesting using git, that swear copy-pasting executables in a GUI is an ok way to upgrade and where the versions of languages used are at least old enough to have a legal drink. Not a lot, but they still exist. You won't find any overlap with what's going on in SV over there.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ajmurmann on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:55PM (#28091411)
> there's also other issues, such as people claiming there's more homeless in LA than in Delhi, not realizing that a lot of effectively homeless people in India aren't classified as such - it'd be like saying you're not homeless in LA if you have a tent or a sleeping bag

Sorry, I really cannot avoid going on a tangent because of this.

We seem to talk quite differently about informal housing if it's in the US or west vs. in a poorer country. We have non-profits push for sanitation in "slums" to improve health outcomes. Yet nobody is pushing for bathroom access or garbage removal in "homeless camps". I recently read about a homeless camp in a park in Oregon where the inhabitants cut down trees for materials and fire wood. When does it become a slum and we start treating it like we'd expect poorer countries to treat their slums?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by cheriot on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:48PM (#28091951)
In America, slums and informal housing is destroyed by the city government. See LA's Echo Park for a recent example https://abcnews.go.com/US/police-protesters-clash-sweep-echo...

We have 350m people, 0.5m homeless and lack the political will to build more housing. They are expected to stay out of sight or the municipality will destroy their shelter and often trash their belongings.

Humanity is more cost effective, but doesn't allow us to moralize https://scoop.me/housing-first-finland-homelessness/

/rant

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by hilbertseries on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:08PM (#28092164)
I think there’s a little more nuance to what happened in echo park. Echo Park lake has always had some homeless people living there, but it was nowhere close to 200 prepandemic. There was also some attempt to relocate everyone, it’s the city of LA so obviously no one really trusted them. But it’s weird to me see a public park that’s meant to be used by everyone taken over and then when it’s taken back. LA is destroying informal housing?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:42PM (#28092526)
> it’s weird to me see a public park that’s meant to be used by everyone taken over

That's what a majority of urban poor in India live on - public/unclaimed land (i.e. informal housing). They're not counted as homeless as a result, unlike in LA.

That's how LA can appear to have a comparatively larger homeless population, even if it's a lot smaller in reality.

In India this type of housing is illegal and can be destroyed by the government, but that rarely happens because the situation can be leveraged for votes (there's a lot of poor people).

Yay democracy.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by captain_price7 on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:51PM (#28093673)
I'm hesitant to call the slum population "homeless". We have people in the parks, footpaths too, and that's very different from people living in many of these slums.

Here are a few facts: some of these slums are 100+ yrs old. A lot of them have "permanent" homes, something lot harder to uproot than tents. And lastly, if the government attempted to destroy them, it won't be just poor people, almost entire society will be outraged. Something similar happened here in Dhaka.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Sunday August 08, 2021 @02:59AM (#28104765)
That they are 100+ years old doesn’t change the fact that that they remain illegal (and thus available for political leverage).
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by Talanes on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:37PM (#28093046)
>but that rarely happens because the situation can be leveraged for votes (there's a lot of poor people)

There's a massive difference hidden in that statement alone. Here the politicians just assume those people aren't voting.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by justicezyx on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:00PM (#28092089)
Note that Indian people are suffering way more than than their western counterparts. The homeless in US lives a considerably better life than Indian homeless.

This is not justifying one or the other. But if one always start with humanity as one's subject of discussion, than there probably is no meaningful progress to be made at all.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by aerovistae on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:16PM (#28092260)
Can you explain how it's better in the US? Seems to me like it's pretty hard to get worse than sleeping on the pavement and eating out of the trash.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by macjohnmcc on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:32PM (#28092401)
I'd say that it being your life from birth to death is worse and your parents and grandparents likely suffering the same back who knows how far.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by jimbob45 on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:21PM (#28092307)
It’s not about building more housing. There is enough housing to house everyone in the US and then some.

Homelessness is not just about finding/funding a home. You need food and transportation for a job. If the solution were as simple as throwing money at the homeless, California would have long ago solved their homelessness issue.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by bakuninsbart on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:40PM (#28092493)
My experiences with homeless people in California are very limited to my trip there 10 years ago. I did have a really good conversation with someone giving me some tips about SF for a dollar, and I was robbed by someone else while walking home late at night.

Neither of those guys seemed mentally ill, but if my own country is anything to go by, a lot of these people have serious mental issues to deal with, and sitting them in a flat isn't gonna solve the underlying issues.

One of my best friends is a social worker for re-integration of homeless people, and getting them a flat is actually the very first step. A particularly illuminating example he told me about is that he often has problems with landlords, because the people he is trying to house do not shit in the toilet, but will do so in the hallway or somewhere else on the property.

There's a lot of work necessary from social workers, psychologists and doctors to help people who were homeless for a longer preiod of time, and it has to be a longterm commitment.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by hellbannedguy on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:13PM (#28093362)
The ones who can't use a toilet are a handful, and will never get off the streets.

Most homeless I have known whom are homeless just want a piece of land, with a outhouse, and maybe some fire pits so they can cook.

They want a piece of land where cops don't ticket, or get harassed.

Homelessness is just going to get worse. It's time to open up available federal, state, and local land, to free camping.

I've given up on housing. It's too expensive, and comes with too many rules.

Most of these guys just want to pitch a tent, and live the rest of their short lives out with a bit of false dignity.

And the drug use?

I once heard a homeless guy say, if you had to crawl into Scothbroom, after a day of being harassed by cops, and looking for food; you might want a stiff drink too. Let's not forget about the amount of self-medicating going on either.

(I know it's easy to throw your hands up, and lump all of them together. They are all very different. There are some professional beggars out there too. I've noticed a lot of foreigners working sympathy beg. Foreigners with jobs. Every American homeless person I know would never think about begging if they had a roof over their heads.)

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by heavyset_go on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:56PM (#28092641)
The vast majority of homeless people in the US are homeless for economic reasons[1], and not because of mental illness or addiction.

[1] https://nlchp.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Homeless_Stats_...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by DoreenMichele on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:41PM (#28092512)
Homelessness is not just about finding/funding a home. You need food and transportation for a job.

In some sense, you are correct. We've torn down about a million SROs and largely zoned out of existence the ability to build Missing Middle Housing in mixed use, walkable neighborhoods.

This is a primary root cause of lack of affordable housing in the US. You need a car to get anywhere from the suburbs and it drives up the baseline cost of housing.

There are myriad other issues with our housing policies, but no it not just enough to build more housing, though studies show simply building more helps. It's also about building the right kind and we aren't doing that which is helping fuel various trends, such as living in RVs, the Tiny House movement and other alternatives people are pursuing in the face of cities simply not creating the kind of housing they need.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single_room_occupancy

https://missingmiddlehousing.com/

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by pm90 on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:35PM (#28092440)
> It’s not about building more housing.

It actually is. From: https://www.npr.org/sections/money/2021/06/08/1003982733/squ...

> By the 1980s, homelessness emerged as a chronic issue. There were many factors, including the federal government deciding to slash the budget for affordable housing. By then the California state government had significantly cut taxes and gutted social programs, including for state-funded mental institutions, resulting in thousands of people with mental illnesses and other difficulties struggling to make it on their own.

> Yet the core reason for the crisis boils down to supply and demand for housing. As regions like the San Francisco Bay Area became magnets for highly paid professionals in the computer-driven economy, they failed to build enough new units to keep up with demand.

> A 2016 study by McKinsey Global Institute estimated that California needs 3.5 million new housing units by 2025 to deal with its chronic housing shortage. Yet new housing construction has only slowed since then, despite Gov. Gavin Newsom's campaign promise to lead an effort to produce those 3.5 million units. Even before the pandemic wrought havoc on the construction business, California was constructing only about 100,000 new homes per year, way below the minimum 180,000 per year that analysts say the state desperately needs.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by wahern on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:59PM (#28092671)
> Gov. Gavin Newsom's campaign promise to lead an effort to produce those 3.5 million units.

He is leading an effort. Whether he's spending enough of his own political capital is another question. But one of the problems in California is that the state constitution guarantees municipalities "home rule". That means very little can be accomplished without local cooperation, including local zoning board cooperation. It's like federalism at the state level--the central government can ban practices relatively easily, but it can't force positive action, only coerce through tax revenue incentives, which has its own constitutional restrictions, not to mention political barriers.

California is a NIMBY paradise, legally speaking.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by cheriot on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:51PM (#28093676)
> California is a NIMBY paradise, legally speaking.

100%

However the state has and can overrule cities. First ADUs were legalized and next, if SB9 passes, duplexes. It's baby steps, but it's possible and probably the only way forward.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by babesh on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:08PM (#28093321)
In California, it initially was because Reagan closed mental institutions. We had the housing (the mental institutions). Also, housing back then was affordable. You can’t chalk it down to housing till close to the 2000s.

Now you have this toxic brew of people with mental issues, drug addicts, people with family issues, and economic issues all feeding into each other.

Housing is then only a start. Also, any city that gives homeless more services than other areas just attracts more homeless.

It is monstrously expensive. Look at what SF is spending and watch what happens when the COVID-19 funds and state IPO windfall run dry.

Both the left and the right are at fault. Some of these people need to be institutionalized. Cities need to be cleaned up. Housing should be provided. Shipping homeless to other cities is not cool.

No city is probably willing to pay what it truly costs. It is probably roughly how much we pay for the criminal justice system.

https://nicic.gov/assign-library-item-package-accordion/stat...

$146K per person for the criminal justice system and then multiply it by 2 or 3 for social services, mental health services, drug treatment, etc…

Roughly 250 billion a year. You need to make the underlying institutions more efficient but institutional capture has already occurred. In other words, in a few years it is more likely to be 500 billion a year and the problem would be just as bad.

Of course if you wanted to turn around the criminal justice system as well, then you immediately jump into the trillions.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by paxys on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:28PM (#28091737)
The one in Portland has a couple dozen people living in it and has existed for maybe a year. It is routinely cleaned up/moved to different locations as well, hence a "camp". The population of a single slum in Mumbai (Dharavi) is over a million and has existed since the 1800s. Are you really concerned that they don't receive the same international attention?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by kbenson on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:23PM (#28092321)
I think the point being made is less about international attention, and how we (as in U.S. citizens) see our own poor compared to the poor other places. The impression, which I think has some truth to it, is that often our own poor are viewed much more unfavorably than we view the poor in other places. When it's the poor across the world, they get our sympathy, but when they're in our backyard we just want them gone.

It's not about which one is the greater humanitarian problem, it's about the hypocrisy.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by bingidingi on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:34PM (#28092432)
it might go back to the american superiority complex; african and asian homeless people are different and distant enough to make us feel good about ourselves (poor foreigners), american homeless are “like us” so they shouldn’t have an excuse (just get a job like i did)
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by derefr on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:46PM (#28091933)
Slum buildings get addresses, are subject to zoning, have mail delivered to them, etc. It’s basically a matter of government recognition of the slum as something that won’t go away.

Though also, much of that recognition comes from the fact that people in a “homeless camp” don’t tend to think of their living arrangement as permanent or the space they occupy as theirs by right; whereas the people living in a slum, do.

If you live in a camp and you’re offered public housing, you’ll usually take it, because the camp wasn’t where you wanted to be.

If you’re living in a slum, you might hold out for city to just improve the slum, because your dwelling in the slum is your home, for better or for worse.

This is where things like the “container house” movement come into play: that demand is mostly driven by people who think of a slum as their permanent home, who want options for improving their dwelling in that slum into something they can be proud of.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by azernik on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:00PM (#28091469)
Interestingly, my family, coming from a recently-developed country, does compare them to slums.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by asdff on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:24PM (#28091700)
At least in a slum like a favela you have sturdy cinderblock walls, a door that locks, some sort of a latrine situation solved, running water, and electricity, rather than a nylon tent and some debris on the sidewalk with no plumbing.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by fennecfoxen on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:27PM (#28091729)
That can't be allowed in this country; such structures violate zoning laws and are not up to code.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by Aunche on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:44PM (#28091905)
Plenty of people live in tents in favelas and Indian slums as well.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by jimbob21 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:00PM (#28091475)
Did you actually read that comment about Toronto? He immediately prefaces it by saying it isn't in the same realm, but can relate because he's poor in his area as well.

I don't think that YOU realize that it is okay to relate to common feelings without being the most of that thing. The guy from Toronto doesn't have to be the most poor person in the most poor area in order to understand their feelings and talk about his.

You're gatekeeping being poor. What a weird thing to be elitist about.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chinchilla2020 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:28PM (#28091742)
He is not gatekeeping being poor. He is pointing out that being poor in Toronto is not the same as being poor in Delhi.

You are trying to lump two things together into a category that are not even remotely comparable.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by derefr on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:53PM (#28092008)
There are two distinct experiences being discussed here: the experience of living in absolute poverty; and the experience of being down-and-out in a city you can't afford the cost-of-living of (i.e. "relative" poverty — the kind you could in theory get away from by "moving somewhere cheaper", but where for various reasons people don't tend to do that.)

Both the poor person in Toronto and the poor person in Delhi are in relative poverty, and have the lived experiences of relative poverty in common.

And also, the lived experiences of relative poverty are usually what someone means when they talk about "being poor." If you live in Dubai and make $50k/yr, but that doesn't even get you a crappy apartment two hours away from work, so you have to sleep in your car; and all your money is going to paying for groceries in a city that has to import all its food, and for car insurance that costs more than your car, so you don't have any savings — then you're poor, by most people's definition!

But of course, only the homeless person in Delhi experiences absolute poverty. They have two problems: relative poverty, and absolute poverty.

But the homeless person in Delhi will still commisserate with the homeless person in Toronto over the lived experiences and troubles that come from relative poverty — a problem they both share — even if the homeless person in Toronto doesn't know anything about what living with absolute poverty is like. They both still get their meagre possessions stolen if they stop watching them for a few minutes. They both sleep rough and have to actively think about how to not die when there's a heat wave or a cold spell. They both probably have a fungal infection somewhere on their bodies from their clothes being damp all the dang time. Etc.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:23PM (#28092317)
> But the homeless person in Delhi will still commisserate with the homeless person in Toronto

Perhaps, but it's worth pointing out that these experiences are qualitatively different.

In India, being poor (especially if you're a certain caste) is tantamount to being non-human. You can be jailed, raped, mistreated, killed without consequence. Even the middle class is afforded little human dignity, the underclass have no real hope. The homeless in Toronto can still get some government services without bribery.

On top of that, there's the whole matter of caste which won't go away even if you win the lottery.

Someone else here is saying that dating poor in Switzerland is the same as in Delhi...that comes across as unbelievably tone deaf. Perhaps they missed the part in TFA where this couple has to date far away from the home. You can get beaten up or killed for being seen with the "wrong person" (in this case same gotra), and it does happen - quite often.

So it's not as simple as absolute and relative poverty in my opinion (though that is a good thought and is definitely part of it).

Risking another bad analogy, I would perhaps compare it to being the lowest class of worker in a Walmart versus being at the bottom of the org chart in Netflix. You can both commiserate on how bad your managers are, but your lived experiences are not remotely the same.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by derefr on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:41PM (#28092516)
I feel like that's conflating yet a third kind of poverty: having no societal respectability. Having no social "credit." No https://en.bitcoinwiki.org/wiki/Whuffie .

Being in poverty but of a high caste in India, is pretty-standard "absolute poverty."

Meanwhile, being well-off but of a low caste in India, is more like being a recently-freed black slave in the ante-bellum southern US.

That experience is really nothing like absolute or relative poverty. It's its own kind of horrible. (It's an orthogonal poverty, one could say.)

It does lead to a vicious cycle that connects it to absolute/relative poverty, though, since having no societal respectability means people aren't willing to offer you any opportunities to better your situation, because they think badly of you and expect you to squander them.

But I would say it is nevertheless best to think of a low-caste homeless person in Delhi as having three distinct problems: relative poverty, absolute poverty, and poverty of societal-respectability.

I would note that, while a regular homeless person in Toronto might not know anything about the sheer inhumanity of being of a low caste in India, a drug-addicted homeless person working as a prostitute to feed their addiction would actually understand it somewhat. In both cases, for example, if someone in these groups gets murdered or otherwise wronged, the police don't even bother to investigate — so they have no access to justice. The low-caste homeless in Delhi and the crack-addicted streetwalker in Toronto would see the same looks on people's faces, and understand them to mean the same thing.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:07PM (#28093310)
I agree that the caste issues are orthogonal to the others and that these three kinds of poverty come close to encompassing the problem being discussed.

And if this were to be the complete picture, why can't it express the sheer inhumanity of being of a low caste in India?

Take the case of a "drug-addicted homeless person working as a prostitute to feed their addiction" in Toronto - this person arrived here by their own choices (some amount of agency), but you can be born into that situation (with the awareness that your children will follow the same path) in India. [0]

You can't worry about societal respectability when you have no basic human dignity. Perhaps that is a fourth kind of poverty.

[0] https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2016/11/28/the-indian-cas...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ptr2voidStar on Sunday August 08, 2021 @05:15AM (#28105279)
Very well constructed, logical response - whilst still being respectful.

It is this kind of robust but respectful exchange of viewpoints, that keeps me coming back to HN (and unfortunately, spending hours on the site!)

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by RHSeeger on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:40PM (#28092494)
> You can both commiserate on how bad your managers are

And that's all the person you were replying to was saying. You can have things in common to talk about, and also have things that are so different you can't even comprehend them.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by jacquesm on Saturday August 07, 2021 @02:27AM (#28096265)
Minorities in Toronto definitely risk being jailed and mistreated without consequence.

Killed or raped, probably not.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by beiller on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:34PM (#28092433)
I do agree with the broader point that they are not comparable, but one interesting caveat with Toronto is that come winter time, you're dead due to extreme cold and being homeless.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by bserge on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:02PM (#28093276)
Why are these people seemingly just accepting their fate? What would it take for them to riot?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:25PM (#28093478)
I grew up in Delhi (as may or may not be obvious from this thread), and once witnessed the aftermath of a home having been burgled.

The policeman on the scene summoned the watchman of the gated community and physically assaulted him (drawing blood), accusing him of having been negligent.

You can bet there was not a single consequence of this. The watchman was one of the underclass, and this is just what's expected.

I can't claim to know why things are like this, but there's rarely any justice for anyone in India, unless you're one of the elite or ultrarich. The judicial system is in shambles and the poor are just not afforded much humanity.

What do you think these people could do? Here is an example of what happens when the people try to change things in a "democracy" [0].

As a bonus, here are some choice videos of Indian politics (the second one is relevant to the story in footnote):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAOUmnSs5VA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5s4quyO2W0

[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2020–2021_Indian_farmers'_prot...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by bserge on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:34PM (#28093548)
I'm just wondering, if things are so bad, why are there no riots? Doesn't seem like there's much to lose tbh.

In my home country, they stormed the parliament and burned parts of it because the wrong party gained power (by fraudulent votes). If they were killing low class people, there would be riots, bombings and murders all around.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by captain_price7 on Friday August 06, 2021 @07:04PM (#28093788)
Because things aren't so bad.

I live in Bangladesh, now, and I don't think we're much improvement over India (except the caste problem). I once witnessed the aftermath of a policeman beaten by public because he assaulted a shopkeeper. So while people doesn't have much legal recourse, they aren't exactly powerless either.

Similarly rich & powerful evade justice, but I wouldn't go as far as saying "there's rarely any justice for anyone". The state may fail to provide justice, but people find their ways, and that sort of keeps the worst impulses of the powerful in check.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by strken on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:14PM (#28092230)
Why was he pointing that out? It wasn't in question: everyone involved in this conversation knows how poor Delhi is on a factual level, since it's literally in the article we all read. Half the Toronto post wasn't even about poverty, it was about how the author would go on dates to far away parts of the city so his family wouldn't find out he was gay.

Why wouldn't they be comparable? They can be compared easily. You're comparing them right now.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by OJFord on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:04PM (#28092723)
The article isn't even really about absolute squalor though (even if the subjects are destitute it's not about that) - by my reading anyway the focus is more 'trying to do things when you're among the poorest in your city', or, 'dating in Delhi when you're poor'.

I'm not from Delhi nor by any relevant measure poor, so perhaps I'm not allowed an opinion, but having just read the article, and not yet the Toronto comment, I find this thread surprising, and think an anecdote about being in a similar - similarly among the poorest in the city - situation in a different (richer, poorer, no matter) city would gel perfectly with the article.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ReptileMan on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:56PM (#28092043)
They are totally comparable when it comes to dating since social status is relative. The poor person in Switzerland has shittier dating life than the middle income in Botswana even if he is making more in absolute terms.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by markdown on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:37PM (#28092465)
Probably worse in Toronto where you could have food in your hands but die from the cold.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:12PM (#28091607)
> Did you actually read that comment about Toronto?

I did. Now that you have that information, perhaps you can actually read what I wrote.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by jimbob21 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:30PM (#28091765)
Sure.

> will reduce the comments I see on the internet that try and compare Delhi/Mumbai squalor to LA

You want to reduce comments comparing your city's poorness to another city's poorness.

> It's not really enough...you should experience it for yourself

You're saying I can't talk about poor areas I know about because they're not as poor as your city. That's gatekeeping being poor, plain as day. But more than that, it totally shuts down all conversation about why your city might be so poor. What is happening in your advanced poor city that isn't happening in other cities?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:37PM (#28091826)
> You want to reduce comments comparing your city's poorness to another city's poorness.

Not exactly. My bad, perhaps I should've provided an example of the kind of comment I'm talking about. I can't be arsed to go find that comment right now but it's about this video:

https://www.news18.com/news/buzz/video-of-man-eating-animal-...

The comment I'm talking about begins with (iirc) "The same thing is happening in LA..."

I don't know what chip you have on your shoulder about this "gatekeeping" but I wish you luck and hope that these things aren't happening in your cities, but of course you have the freedom to say that they are regardless.

I want to add something: I'm just against saying that these things are the same. I'm not saying anything about better or worse or that poverty isn't poverty. Given a choice I might rather be the average homeless person in India as opposed to LA, because at least I wouldn't be as likely to be there due to crippling addictions or mental illness.

That's why I compared it to languages, I don't think one established language is objectively better or worse than another, but direct translations rarely work well.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chinchilla2020 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:22PM (#28091687)
Those of us that grew up in the third world know how ridiculous Americans can be when it comes to these comparisons.

Anyone can get a minimum wage job and earn a relatively high living in the US. In the third world, you can work your ass off, be incredibly successful, and still live in squalor.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by thebean11 on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:44PM (#28091287)
Not disagreeing with your overall point, but amount of money (based on currency exchange rates) is a bad way to compare poverty levels across different areas. It doesn't take into account cost of living which makes a huge difference.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chinchilla2020 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:25PM (#28091707)
Even with cost of living comparisons, an American making minimum wage can easily afford a mobile phone, particularly a cheap $25 phone.

In many parts of the world that mobile phone will require substantial budgeting over several months to afford.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by RHSeeger on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:48PM (#28092569)
> an American making minimum wage can easily afford a mobile phone, particularly a cheap $25 phone

It's probably worth noting that "easily" probably doesn't belong in there for a lot of people.

This is a really good read, if you're interested https://residentcontrarian.substack.com/p/on-the-experience-...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by b9a2cab5 on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:28PM (#28092963)
Notice that most of this guy's problems come from rent. Getting decent housing is expensive, having a long commute is a byproduct of high rent, etc. That's caused by rampant NIMBYism preventing the construction of new housing, and not anything related to American minimum wage. If you increased the minimum wage 200% rent would also increase 200% because housing is inelastic. This exact trend has played out in the SFBA, Seattle, and many other west coast cities over the last decade. You can't legislate your way out of supply and demand.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by pm90 on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:54PM (#28091405)
Except that cost of living is also pretty high in Indian metros (especially Delhi). This is why most of the residents live in slums: they can't afford permanent/legal housing. From the article:

> But nearly half of the city’s population lives in slums without basic services and facilities like drinking water, garbage disposal or a proper drainage system.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:46PM (#28091314)
I'm not talking about the American middle class in the comparison I make in the GP.

I actually have no idea what you're talking about, because I didn't mention any amount of money at all.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by thebean11 on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:59PM (#28091466)
> So either Westerners don't realize that people in these places are making less money in a month than the middle class person can expect to spend in an average afternoon

You are making a comparison between two sums of money (the amount middle class people spend in an afternoon, and the amount poor people make in a month).

Obviously I misinterpreted who the middle class people were, but I doubt I'm the only one. I thought you meant middle class Westerners.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:53PM (#28092004)
i am still confused why that makes a difference. to me the comment only makes sense if the middle class in india is more affluent than the middle class in the US.

https://yourstory.com/2018/03/exactly-indias-middle-class-an...

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by commandlinefan on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:16PM (#28092257)
I read it the same way you did.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by devoutsalsa on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:44PM (#28091283)
The mother of a friend on mine in Pakistan was hiring a part-time housekeeper for ~3 hours per day. One housekeeper asked for $40 USD/month, and the mother thought that was too expensive.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by captain_price7 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:04PM (#28091518)
Here in Dhaka, we pay around 45usd/month for 1.5hr of work per day.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by baybal2 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @04:26AM (#28096896)
Captain, did you move back to BD from the West?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by captain_price7 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @06:07PM (#28102327)
No, born and raised in BD, never left.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by baybal2 on Saturday August 07, 2021 @08:40PM (#28103179)
How is the industry doing these days?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by kshacker on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:57PM (#28091435)
Well it depends on 1) the local price and 2) the ability of the mother to pay. She may not be able to afford help with an American minimum wage.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by flemhans on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:07PM (#28091551)
In Mumbai, our friends were pretty well off and had a housekeeper who came 2 x 2 hours daily (preparing lunch and dinner, doing laundry, and cleaning around). The housekeeper, being paid pretty well, had her own housekeeper so she could have time for all these housekeeping gigs.

The well-off friends had never tried their aircon because it "was not that hot" (35 degrees C) and rummaged around to find the remote. It was so hot, I couldn't imagine that they just accepted it.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by 908B64B197 on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:16PM (#28092839)
> The housekeeper, being paid pretty well, had her own housekeeper so she could have time for all these housekeeping gigs.

Sounds like her housekeeper should get better customers.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by s5300 on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:40PM (#28093608)
She may be fair skinned, her housekeeper may be dark skinned. In India, something as simple as that can determine how much you may make as a housekeeper. Sucks, right?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by throwthere on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:53PM (#28092613)
Yesterday someone posted admonishing billionaires who live lives without the sort of day-to-day experiences the rest of us do. They cited their concerns— finding enough free time to do activities, getting along with co-workers, etc. It’s just this great disconnect you run into online— people don’t realize a great deal of the world would see having those [working-class] types of concerns as luxurious and disconnected from their own. It’s just a gap you see a lot of here, you really have to work to remember how bad billions of people have it.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by retrac on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:25PM (#28093488)
I am sorry if my comment was presumptuous or inappropriate. It was not intended to be. I prefaced it with a disclaimer trying to contextualize how I was trying to relate to the story. I am aware I live in a rich country, that food and medical care as such are not an issue by comparison, even as a very poor person. I saw that the woman in the article earns barely a third what I received from the government in social assistance, on top of what I could earn. I try to be aware of that. I have only seen true slums from afar. Perhaps I have failed in that awareness. What I saw was a human story, about trying to find love with little resources and not much social standing. It is a universal theme and I tried to relate to it in that way, to feel what those people feel seeking love and companionship. I'm sorry if that was uncalled for and trying to turn the focus back on my relative privilege and material comfort. It wasn't intended to do so.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by sombremesa on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:50PM (#28093658)
I apologize for calling your comment out, it was not exactly the kind of comment I wanted to address. I should've provided a better example.

My comment was actually not about your comment specifically, but about making these comparisons without the appropriate cultural context taken into account. I'm not passing a moral judgement or saying it's inappropriate, I'm just expressing a desire to have these comparisons be more meaningful by explicitly acknowledging the context.

I have an issue with making a direct comparison as in "X phenomena is the same as Y phenomena", because it glosses over a LOT when you compare countries like India and America.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @02:58PM (#28091454)
i would not consider someone who can spend $100 on average in an afternoon to be middle class.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by paxys on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:22PM (#28091690)
Middle class means different things in different cities, even within the US (and in some cases between cities in a single state). You simply cannot classify someone based on a number alone.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by yarky on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:34PM (#28092428)
I'm not an expert statistician, but why can't you classify people's economic class based on the quantile their revenue falls in? You can assume a distribution based on the data (probably normally distributed) or go all non-parametric based on empirical quantiles.

I don't see how this cannot be easily understood with a number. Sure, you can never predict one observation, but the average in some quantile is quite standard modelling.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by paxys on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:38PM (#28092470)
> based on the quantile their revenue falls in

Are you calculating this quantile with respect to their neighbors' revenue? The rest of the city? County? State? Country? Or the entire world? You will get a different answer for each of them.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by yarky on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:43PM (#28092531)
That's part of your modelling. If you're interested in the neighborhood's income distribution, then use the neighborhood's data. If you're interested in the world's distribution, then use world data.

This depends on how you want to look at the issue, but it comes down to a number yes.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by paxys on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:45PM (#28092553)
That's my entire point. You need a (number, location) combo to many any reasonable deduction, not just a number.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by yarky on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:59PM (#28092662)
Sure but that's true about any number, I can't think of any number which adds any value without some context. In statistics, your population is your context and all inference/conclusion depends on the population (local, city, world,etc). For social classes, I'd say the more local the more representative your number, which doesn't mean there isn't a number to represent the middle class.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by 0_____0 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:03PM (#28091508)
If that's $100 per half day, integrated over a month that comes out to monthly expenditures of $6000/mo, which is solidly middle class. Not working class, but certainly within reach of a low/mid level Facebook employee.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:07PM (#28091546)
i expect spending here to mean cash you spend while enjoying your free time outside. from that 6000 you need to subtract rent/mortgage, and any other living expenses. if you then still have enough money that you can go out and spend $100 in an afternoon on average, then you are no longer middle class i would say.

the "problem" here is the average. sure, a middle class income can afford to spend $100 in an afternoon once in a while. but unless you limit your discretionary spending to only these afternoons, you'll spend money on other things too. hobbies, travel, etc. if after all that you still can afford $100 every afternoon (even if only on weekends that's already $800 a month), you got to earn enough that you simply never worry about money.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chrisseaton on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:17PM (#28091654)
> then you are no longer middle class i would say

Well what are they then?

You can't seriously claim that having just $100 a day of disposable income makes you part of the upper class?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:26PM (#28091716)
if you have $100 a day of disposable income, you are not going to spend all of it every afternoon. if you do, your actual disposable income is much higher.

money for discretionary spending is not the same as disposable income.

https://www.investopedia.com/terms/d/disposableincome.asp defines disposable income as net income, that means after taxes but before living expenses.

https://www.investopedia.com/insights/americas-slowly-disapp... defines middle class in the US as a disposable income from 35k to 106k a year.

if you spend all your discretionary money on going out with your friends and not on any other hobbies, traveling, gifts, etc, then maybe you can spend $100 every weekend afternoon.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chrisseaton on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:26PM (#28091723)
Ok... but this still isn't even within orders of magnitude of 'upper class', is it?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:48PM (#28091949)
EDIT: i used the terms middle class and upper class, when i should have used middle income and upper income.

middle class and middle income are often mixed up. upper class and upper income less so.

old text:

well if the definition of middle class ends at 106k income per year then anything above that must be upper class. the problem here is that obviously upper class has a very wide range which skews the perception of what makes upper class.

of course definitions are just that. the reality is not so clear cut.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by benjiweber on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:27PM (#28092350)
Upper class means different things in different cultures. In UK more of an association with https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Landed_gentry than a level of income.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by chrisseaton on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:54PM (#28092017)
Upper class starting at around 100k would give America an upper class of around a third of the population! I guess we're meaning entirely different things since an upper class of a third of the population seems like a contradiction in terms to me!
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ImprobableTruth on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:08PM (#28092171)
I assume they're talking about 100k individual income as opposed to household income?
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:55PM (#28092634)
household of three. the 106k number comes from data from 2010. in the same article the range for 2016 is $45,200 to $135,600 annually for a household of three.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by verall on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:19PM (#28092289)
The upper class doesn't need to work for their money. Of course the line draws different in every location, but the difference between the upper-middle class lawyer and the upper-class lawyer is that the upper-class lawyer could quit and still pass this privelege onto their children.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by em-bee on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:58PM (#28092650)
what often gets mixed up is middle income vs middle class and consequently upper income and upper class.

apparently, middle income and middle class are often used interchangeably even though they don't mean quite the same thing, while arguable upper income and upper class are much more different.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by geodel on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:35PM (#28092439)
Well I will call them Lower-Upper-Middle class.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by ummonk on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:39PM (#28091852)
A low/mid level Facebook employee is very well off upper middle class, not middle class.

And most such employees still will save most of their income rather than wastefully splurge it on $100 meals.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by lsiebert on Friday August 06, 2021 @06:00PM (#28093267)
Generally my sense is that people are not good at measuring their expertise about topics. We infer a lot of data into our world views based on paltry facts and analogy to our own experiences. We think we understand because our minds paper over the lacuna of our knowledge. The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know, and how quick people are to believe that other people's experience is much like their own.

That's why I ask people to cite sources often, or listen to their personal stories, so I can learn more.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by johncena33 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:29PM (#28091757)
> Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto.

> [...] Reminds me of learning a new language, where beginners try to formulate thoughts in their native tongue and produce a direct translation, whereas those who are fluent can skip that step completely.

Immigrant brown man living in Toronto here. I don't have any dating life. Because dating a brown man is stigmatized, thanks to racism and media representation. My upper-middle class white therapist couldn't believe that I am at the bottom tier in the dating market.

So it's not just some language or cultural barrier. People have hard times understanding the predicaments of people from lower socio-economic strata even when they live in the same city and speak same language.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by 908B64B197 on Friday August 06, 2021 @05:18PM (#28092846)
> Immigrant brown man living in Toronto here. I don't have any dating life. Because dating a brown man is stigmatized, thanks to racism and media representation. My upper-middle class white therapist couldn't believe that I am at the bottom tier in the dating market.

What did your therapist think was the real issue?

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by moistly on Friday August 06, 2021 @10:24PM (#28095113)
> Then I read the first comment on this HN thread, which is directly comparing this to Toronto.

Canada should provide its youth an opportunity to visit a third-world community. Every G7 nation should be giving their citizens that experience. It would make a big difference to how our future plays out.

Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by spoonjim on Friday August 06, 2021 @04:02PM (#28092102)
Yep - if you see a guy riding a rickety bicycle with a goat slung over his back... think about how he might be one of the wealthier people in his community.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by erikerikson on Saturday August 07, 2021 @12:57AM (#28095823)
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by 762236 on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:28PM (#28091738)
When comparing, don't compare in absolute dollars, but the purchasing power in the local economy.
Re:Dating in Delhi when you're poor by snambi on Friday August 06, 2021 @03:53PM (#28092010)
There is a difference between the "slums" in India versus the ones in USA. The indian slums are just poor with no infrastructure. you will find the people in the slums to be genuine, kind and hardworking. of course there are exceptions.

The slums in USA are exactly the opposite. The slum dwellers are scary to even look at. They don't work and they are anti social. They disturb the society.

The slums are happening in USA, despite plenty of jobs, government programs and NGOs trying to help them.

I am not one country is better than the other. simply pointing out the differences.

Article such as this are written to make Americans feel good about themselves at the cost of others, while providing absolutely no solution or help to those suffering.

so, either you should help or just shutup.