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Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Siddarth1977 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:32PM (#32252626)
It would be great to see this happen in the opposite direction.

The next time someone intentionally misinterprets something as offensive when that clearly wasn't the intended meaning, or goes searching for ever more obscure terms to deem problematic, or tries to silence and shame people who try to do anything other than fight for social justice, we all just reply with "We don't do that here".

Someone starts to lecture you about how referencing "winter" is non-inclusive to Southern Hemisphere readers? "We don't do that here". Someone says you need to rename your firewall "whitelist" of IP addresses? "We don't do that here".

It would be glorious. Everyone could treat each other courtesy, grace and assume positive-intent. Instead of walking around on eggshells and always worrying about what the most cynical, negative interpretation of a word or phrase could be, everyone could relax, treat one another as friends and allies and focus on solving real problems.

Or, we could continue down our current path of Orwellian new-speak, where a new group of religious extremists deem ever more language as blasphemous and everyone joins the witch-burners for fear of being labelled a witch themselves.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:48PM (#32252851)
> our current path of Orwellian new-speak, where a new group of religious extremists deem ever more language as blasphemous and everyone joins the witch-burners for fear of being labelled a witch themselves.

I think you perhaps do not understand the text of 1984, never mind the subtext. In the novel, Newspeak is a part of intense and total historical revisionism in support of a coherent government agenda enforced by a powerful central authority, not a decentralized and gradual change in the language people use "enforced" only socially.

> Someone starts to lecture you about how referencing "winter" is non-inclusive to Southern Hemisphere readers? "We don't do that here".

This is a very interesting example. If you're a global company and you make your product, say, snow-themed globally during the Northern winter, it's simply inaccurate for Southern hemisphere users. I don't really see how that's a political correctness or language issue as much as a factual correctness issue.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by RajT88 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:02PM (#32253060)
> I think you perhaps do not understand the text of 1984, never mind the subtext. In the novel, Newspeak is a part of intense and total historical revisionism in support of a coherent government agenda enforced by a powerful central authority, not a decentralized and gradual change in the language people use "enforced" only socially.

Misunderstanding 1984 is extremely common. Especially amongst people who haven't read it.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Nadya on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:25PM (#32253430)
> If you're a global company and you make your product, say, snow-themed globally during the Northern winter, it's simply inaccurate for Southern hemisphere users. I don't really see how that's a political correctness or language issue as much as a factual correctness issue.

If you're a global company then you should already be used to localizing products for various cultures and/or regions. Political correctness would be criticizing the North American branch for selling winter-themed products in the North American Winter months - and variations of that criticism do happen. People doing X in X country where X is normal get criticized because it is not normal in Y country despite taking place in X country where it is normal.

A small, loud, and extremely obnoxious group has mistaken speaking alongside minority groups to help advocate for them and make sure they are heard as speaking for minority groups even if it means speaking over them. They take the far extremes of everything and pretend that's the norm. It's been especially common for people without dyslexia to speak on behalf of those with dyslexia about a particular "puzzle" (Enter the Nth Word of the Nth Sentence of the Nth Paragraph to prove you've read this.) And as someone with dyslexia phrased so well: "I'm dyslexic. Not illiterate and unable to count. I don't think you realize that you come off as patronizing and condescending wanting to "dumb down" the puzzle for me. More likely I think it is because you failed to read and now feel stupid. Please don't speak for me or people like me in the future."

For some context - the "puzzle" occurs when you fail to follow directions on how to continue setup. If you read the instructions - it tells you to hold CTRL while clicking the "continue" button. If you fail to hold "CTRL" while you click it will give you a 2 minute timeout, remove the "continue" button, and provide you a message to please read all of the instructions in order to proceed or you will need to solve an obnoxious and time consuming puzzle. Failure to do so will result in the obnoxious puzzle where you must enter three randomly selected words from the setup instructions to make the "continue" button visible again. Failing to follow instructions will repeat the puzzle over-and-over until instructions are read and followed. There have been no complaints from any dyslexic users about this puzzle in the support Discord - but several complaints from people who do not have dyslexia speaking on behalf of those who do who "might" struggle with the puzzle that would never be encountered in the first place if people followed the setup instructions.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:35PM (#32253607)
> A small, loud, and extremely obnoxious group has mistaken speaking alongside minority groups to help advocate for them and make sure they are heard as speaking for minority groups even if it means speaking over them.

I agree completely with this, but I really do not think that this is what most "anti-woke" people are criticizing, including GP.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by rougka on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:40PM (#32253693)
Stalinism might had a top down approach to ideology, but what would get you in a gulag is the people around you reporting you to the kgb. This made oppression including linguistic also bottom-up

Newspeak is actually a very similar approach to what’s going on currently because it removes words that allows communicating ideologically problematic concepts. What’s going on with the entire blacklist/whitelist issues is based on the assumption that removing a word that describes a perceived injustice will remove that injustice from the world. It is an approach that is completely blind to the real meaning a word has taken, and tries to folk etymologically hack a different interpretation. This is why the real insulting words are never these that debated.

Both Newspeak and "rightspeak" think that language creates reality rather than the other way around

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:05PM (#32254120)
> Stalinism might had a top down approach to ideology, but what would get you in a gulag is the people around you reporting you to the kgb. This made oppression including linguistic also bottom-up

Snitching on your neighbors to the state secret police because they criticized the state is not a bottom-up movement. It is possible only when there is a coherent, centralized state agenda.

There are no woke police. There is no woke Stalin. The analogy is utterly inapplicable here.

> the real insulting words are never these that debated.

I'm curious about this, do you have some examples?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by rougka on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:09PM (#32255217)
In a corporate environment you do have an investigation department that enforces such language. However, my point is that in a totalitarian environment people treated you as a pariah for non conforming, as they would not want to face a similar fate. This is a similarity to the taboo of advocating against such an ideology.

about the examples, if you would take extreme slurs against minorities, these are not used in a professional environment already so they are never these that are discussed

The words that are discussed are such that are established for a different connotation. that connotation is completely metaphorical and does not carry any real insult, yet some insist on literalizing those, or finding hidden meanings

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by david422 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:25PM (#32253413)
> This is a very interesting example. If you're a global company and you make your product, say, snow-themed globally during the Northern winter, it's simply inaccurate for Southern hemisphere users. I don't really see how that's a political correctness or language issue as much as a factual correctness issue.

I mean, it's also inaccurate for people in Florida, or when it's brown out etc.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by iratewizard on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:03PM (#32253079)
1984 might not have had the subtlety of what is happening today, but isn't that true of most literary evils? It was written post-communist takeover of Russia. Post-Weimar Germany. It abstracted much of what actually happened and what was being attempted throughout the world as power struggles erupted under instability.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:12PM (#32253213)
My argument here is that centralized, top-down, authoritarian, and violently enforced changes in language are a different and separate issue from decentralized, gradual, and unenforced (or, at worst, socially enforced) ones, since that's how language has usually changed.

> Post-Weimar Germany.

Very post. 1984 was written in 1948, notably after the fall of Nazi Germany. It was about the dangers of authoritarianism and how authoritarians can use their control of the academy and the media to increase their control on the rest of society, not the dangers of people asking their coworkers to change the name of a Git branch.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by traverseda on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:26PM (#32253440)
Right, it's the standard "racism is privilege+power" argument? 1984 is (this particular toolkit for controlling how people behave)+power? Am I understanding that correctly?

Because if I am, I'd say that you're building tools for your enemy to use. There's no reason the alt-right can't use the same tactics on LGBT teens as you'd want to use on alt-right nutjobs. There's no inherent reason why these tools can only be used on the guilty. That's why fairness in discourse is important (to me at least). Think of it as a social Geneva convention. Once you start thinking "the ends justify the means" and using saran gas you're giving the hated enemy permission to do the same.

Take a look at the playbook of the trump subreddit before they got banned as an example.. They learned most of those plays they used to dominate the front page and silence outsiders from leftists, often even using automated moderation tools that were initially created explicitly for leftist subreddits.

"We don't do that here", if it becomes a normalized part of the discourse, will be used by the hated enemy once they're powerful enough to do so effectively.

Enlightenment and free speech are the Geneva convention of discourse. I really don't think it's in anybody's best interest to erode those protection, but I suppose time will tell. Still, it feels like the left is building the social infrastructure for fascism that the right will inevitably figure out how to co-opt...

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:32PM (#32253557)
> 1984 is (this particular toolkit for controlling how people behave)+power? Am I understanding that correctly?

What I'm saying is that it's _not the same toolkit_ because it doesn't include state power or historical revisionism.

The problems LGBT people have (speaking about the US right now because that's where I am) are with the application of state and state-aligned media power against us, not the application of social power.

Social power is important, but it is much less likely to be deadly without state power at least tacitly supporting it.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by traverseda on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:48PM (#32253821)
Does "much less likely to be deadly" mean it's not a problem?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:25PM (#32254449)
It means I'm much less motivated to solve it when there are deadly concerns to deal with, yes.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by traverseda on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:46PM (#32254785)
I think that it would be easier to support the idea of the far-ish left in power if you were concerned about it. I don't think that the left will abandon those tools when they do gain control of state media and state power.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:25PM (#32255464)
Since I'm an anarchist, talking about what would happen with someone like me "in power" quite literally makes no sense. I'm interested in removing the power of the state, not turning it to my own ends.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by iratewizard on Thursday July 28, 2022 @01:26AM (#32260771)
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/613948-hitler-has-grasped-t...

Orwell's thoughts on Hitler don't line up with your convenient framing of his book.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mananaysiempre on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:48PM (#32252846)
I’m sure it’s fun to fantasize about turning a conversation-stopper back onto a habitual wielder of such, but like with any other tool whose effectiveness is unconnected to the validity of your point (from universally condemned things like violence to fairly common and unpolarized ones like emotional-appeal PSAs), it seems to be vaguely hypocritical and self-defeating in the long run.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ineptech on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:01PM (#32253052)
> Or, we could continue down our current path of Orwellian new-speak, where a new group of religious extremists deem ever more language as blasphemous and everyone joins the witch-burners for fear of being labelled a witch themselves.

We don't do that here. If a belief or position or ideology is bad, you should be able to skewer the actual position rather than an exaggerated strawman of it.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by nvahalik on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:03PM (#32253074)
Who is exaggerating?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ineptech on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:18PM (#32253316)
Do you think the people OP was complaining about would say, "Yes, that's a fair summary of what we think"?

This is how you turn a useful discussion into a pointless shouting match - you caricature and exaggerate your outgroup's position. "You're a bunch of religious extremists!" "Well you just want to be biased and get away with it!" "Stop trying to be thought police!" "Stop being so racist!"

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by concordDance on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:27PM (#32253450)
Do you think prohibitions on "whitelist" etc are a strawman?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ineptech on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:30PM (#32253518)
I quoted the part I was referring to. I think it was a reasonable comment until OP had to throw on some kerosene at the end there - that's the thing we (I hope?) don't do here.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by concordDance on Thursday July 28, 2022 @04:43AM (#32261813)
Oh, yeah.

While each individual bit is mostly true ("new-speak", a group that shares many religiosity traits deeming more and more parts of language bad and people joining the witch hunters out of fear of being labelled witches (I'm guilty of this)) the extra adjectives and hyperbole are harmful to discourse.

Have an upvote.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:46PM (#32252817)
Yup yup yup.

"Using a weapon gives your enemy explicit permission to use it against you." ~Me

I'd love to live in a world where we speak to the average most reasonable person in the room instead of the most sensitive, easily offended, and brittle person in the room. But that might be my age showing.

And that's the tension between the majority and the minority, an ageless tension.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ROTMetro on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:33PM (#32254570)
It's not your age showing. Coming from a guy who comes off horribly from his posts online, if you are self aware enough to put a disclaimer (might be my age), maybe uhhh ????

This person proposes the OPPOSITE of a weapon. A constructive tool to disarm potential issues in the workplace to redirect focus to the task at hand is not a weapon. That you view it as such might be a flag for yourself to look at how you view workplace discussions.

You want it to be ok to STEAL the effectiveness/contributions of MARJINALIZED people from the company for irrelevant purposes. These people were not placed ( placed, these are not your friends who can choose to hear your funny quips, these are co-workers just trying to do their job) to work with you to give you opportunity to offend, they were placed there for a business purpose. Why do you want to STEAL potential contributions from the place you work while at the same time reducing quality/effectiveness instead of just being, you know, professional?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @04:17PM (#32256290)
A weapon is a tool used to injure. A tool used to heal or comfort is medicine, or something like that. Right? Still, it's a tool. There's no such thing as an opposite of a tool. Anyways, again, it's about intent.

Your first paragraphs seem fine. Your second reiterates my last sentence. Your last paragraph seems unhinged. There's no need to yell or put plans in my mouth, that's just poor arguing.

Most tools never stay in their original places of use, they drift.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by olsonjeffery on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:26PM (#32253439)
Your comment is sufficiently vague and mealy-mouthed so as to be useless.

All the I see here is you complaining about shifting social mores. Toughen up.

Maybe if you weren't so "sensitive, easily offended, and brittle" then the notion of a window of acceptable social behavior, that changes over time, wouldn't be so radical and hurtful to you.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:30PM (#32254520)
Ah, the "no-you" gambit, classic.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by olsonjeffery on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @04:32PM (#32256486)
Your inability to articulate a meaningful response is all about you, not me.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Thursday July 28, 2022 @01:16PM (#32267370)
Ah, a one note debate technique. Reminds me of the clatter of a train going by.

I had nothing to respond to, hence the lack of meaning.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by benlivengood on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:23PM (#32253398)
The average most reasonable person in the room cares about other people's feelings and life condition and tries to not insult or hurt them with what they say.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:29PM (#32254496)
Depends on what you means by "cares"

Cares, like will bend over backwards to prevent any possible perceived insult? No, that's not reasonable. We don't need to revamp our language. Intent, not language, should be the focus. For example master and slave are perfectly fine terms for the relationship between pieces of hardware or software. No actual slave in this world would care. No actual person descended from slaves should care. If someone is truly insulted by language and not intent they need to grow up.

Cares, like makes reasonable accommodations, sure. That's what handicap parking places are about. That's why there's ramps on sidewalks in cities. That's why there's a push for accessibility in software for colour blind people.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by trs8080 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @04:26PM (#32256425)
> If someone is truly insulted by language and not intent they need to grow up.

Spoken like someone who's never had to hear a slur about them in a joke. "But I was just joking!" - oh, then it's okay?

Maybe the person using slurs should grow up? In the article, the author specifically discusses a case when a new hire used a pejorative.

Intent doesn't matter. What you say and do matters. "Well I just wanted to get home safe and to bed" isn't a good defense when you get into an accident while drunk driving.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Thursday July 28, 2022 @01:25PM (#32267524)
> Spoken like someone who's never had to hear a slur about them in a joke.

"Personal argumentation on the internet is the bastion of the shallow." ~ Me

I cannot prove over this medium if I had experienced that or not. You cannot verify either way. Your use of this argument saddens me. You could have just left it out and strengthened your apparent position.

> Intent doesn't matter.

Mens Rea doesn't matter? There's more than a few hundred years and dozens of generations of judges and lawyers from around the world that would like to have a word with you.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by trs8080 on Wednesday August 03, 2022 @08:58PM (#32338196)
> "Personal argumentation on the internet is the bastion of the shallow." ~ Me

If you believed what you're saying above, then why respond? Also, you don't need to quote yourself; you can just write the sentence.

> I cannot prove over this medium if I had experienced that or not. You cannot verify either way. Your use of this argument saddens me. You could have just left it out and strengthened your apparent position.

It was rhetorical. Someone who's actually experienced this doesn't take the attitude you're taking.

> Mens Rea doesn't matter? There's more than a few hundred years and dozens of generations of judges and lawyers from around the world that would like to have a word with you.

I'm talking about racist jokes and being a decent human being, not legal precedent.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by benlivengood on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @07:37PM (#32258524)
> Intent, not language, should be the focus.

Changing the language with good intentions isn't a problem if intent should be the focus instead of language.

What is not ok is demanding that people be mind-readers and pull the "good intent" out of the people's heads who use harmful language widely identified as unacceptable. Language changes over time, except for dead languages.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Thursday July 28, 2022 @01:15PM (#32267343)
> ... good intentions isn't a problem

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

> harmful language

No such thing.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by cudgy on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:11PM (#32253204)
Is it ageless? Or is it a sign of a jaded societal class living during an era with relatively few hardships?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:33PM (#32254568)
No, it's ageless. It's why the United States has a Congress and a Senate. It's why the Jews left Egypt. At some times some minorities will truly be oppressed by a majority. That's not just human nature, it's nature.

The trick is always eschewing pareidolia.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by cudgy on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @07:13PM (#32258302)
Calling a person a pronoun they don’t like probably is not why the Jews left Egypt; they were persecuted with far more than words. Congress was created to allow for representation for citizens (wealthy land owners) within a Republic and was not addressing minor infractions like pronoun disagreements or backlash against disagreements over debatable events.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by kleer001 on Saturday July 30, 2022 @09:53PM (#32292406)
You've missed the point. But that's okay, it seems like you didn't want to understand me.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:44PM (#32252797)
I think that's a good idea.

No politics, you come to work to work, as long as you treat your colleagues with respect.

Companies shouldn't be changing the political landscape anyway, that would be a scary world.

I'm C-Level, so I can hopefully instil this as culture.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:49PM (#32252867)
> Companies shouldn't be changing the political landscape anyway, that would be a scary world.

I'm curious as to how you think lobbying works in the present day and the past four decades or so.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:50PM (#32252893)
I'm not American, lobbying is corruption and that it's fully legal is one of the scariest things when looking towards America.

BTW: I'm a big fan of your work. :)

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:58PM (#32253012)
> lobbying is corruption and that it's fully legal is one of the scariest things when looking towards America.

Wow, I guess I need to move to Sweden. That sounds extremely nice. And in that context, I _absolutely_ agree with your statement that corporations shouldn't try to shift the political conversation.

> BTW: I'm a big fan of your work. :)

Aww, thanks!

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:52PM (#32255904)
Is taking out an ad for an unrelated candidate legal? Can a person or a business do it simply because they like the candidate's policies?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by karpierz on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:53PM (#32252933)
Where is lobbying illegal?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:57PM (#32252991)
Well, campaign donations are fully illegal in the UK election process... not that our politics is better.

Sweden has not yet decided what to make illegal, but lobbyists are avoiding doing anything that violates rule 0: http://www.aalep.eu/lobbying-landscape-sweden

Rule 0 is "Don't act in a way that makes me create more rules", in most old online communities.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by phkahler on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:36PM (#32253612)
>> Rule 0 is "Don't act in a way that makes me create more rules"

I love that!

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by blamestross on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:04PM (#32253091)
This is a little complicated to answer. "Lobbying" as a word without cultural context just refers to presenting issues to representatives, which is critically important in democracy. In the US it comes alongside "Buying time" via gifts and hosting and political donations which would be considered bribery and corruption anywhere else with a functional democracy.

Basically, where it is illegal, they don't call it lobbying.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by bcrosby95 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:56PM (#32252978)
> No politics, you come to work to work, as long as you treat your colleagues with respect.

Does respect include calling them what they prefer to be called? No matter how you answer this question, a large portion of the population will say you're being political.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by aliqot on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:16PM (#32253287)
I think it is respectful to address someone by the name they go by. I have a friend who's named William and would get annoyed if someone kept calling him Willy, and goes by Bill. People also get married, and it's respectful and customary to address them by their new name.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't want someone making what is probably a tough situation more difficult and hassling me about a name change if I were in that position. I have a really long name, and I'd be annoyed after a while if someone kept addressing me by that name, rather than the shorter name I choose to go by as an adult.

None of this is political, it's just being a polite southerner. You treat folks how you want to be treated.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:06PM (#32253132)
Whatever it says on your employee ID and internal directory is fine, or you have to ask to have it changed.

Whatever your employment contract says is what goes into the employee directory, and should be consistent with the tax office.

If you’re referring to pronouns then I don’t have a good answer honestly. I have a personal opinion that pronouns are not important. If you want to call me mister or miss or Mzzz then that’s not going to cause pain, unless you do it with malicious intent.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:36PM (#32255664)
"I have a personal opinion that pronouns are not important."

The point of respect is that your personal opinions are not important; the opinions of the person on the other end of your communications are.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @04:12PM (#32256208)
Not sure, status quo in the office has always been that people passing as male are he/him, people passing as female are she/her and everyone else is they/them (including groups of people homogeneous and heterogeneous alike)

That we’ve managed to conduct our society so far without using alternative pronouns such as “xi/xir” is a strong indication that it’s a neo-political construct and, while I might be sympathetic to the person who prefers to be called by those terms, I will not go out of my way to force everyone in the company to - they’re also usually referential (without the person present) and I will get them wrong myself too.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by elldoubleyew on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:00PM (#32253037)
I don't think that calling someone what they prefer to be called is a political issue.

I personally don't know any right-wingers that wouldn't call you by the name/gender that you request them to. These people probably exist but it is a very small group.

Theres a difference between disagreeing with the concept at a societal level vs disrespecting someone on a personal level. Far fewer people do that.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Shared404 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:12PM (#32253228)
I have met people multiple times who will call someone the opposite of whatever's on their pronoun pin (if they have one)

Even to cis people.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by corrral on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:46PM (#32253792)
> their pronoun pin

That's... a new one for me. Ah, they're all over Etsy—if anyone else was thrown by that, they're exactly what your first guess would be based on the name: a big round pin with your preferred pronouns printed on it. Interesting.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by a1369209993 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:21PM (#32254400)
> the opposite of whatever's on their pronoun pin

Well, yes, obviously? They have a pronoun pin. That's not a matter of disrespecting that person (as you note, we do it to everyone); it's a matter of disrespecting pronoun pins on principle.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:43PM (#32255756)
"That's not a matter of disrespecting that person; it's a matter of disrespecting pronoun pins on principle."

Pardon me, but what? You expect the persons wearing the pin to not feel disrespected? Or that the pin will be emotionally damaged by the disrespect?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Shared404 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:48PM (#32254824)
"Well how was I supposed to know your pronouns?"

"Well, pronoun pins are dumb"

Pick one.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:18PM (#32253318)
Could you please specify the country, so I don't accidentally move there?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by jmugan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:45PM (#32253776)
As a counterpoint, I live in Texas and I have never seen this.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Shared404 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:05PM (#32254119)
It's a big place.

While I'll readily admit I don't like a lot of the political environment here, there are also a _lot_ of amazing people and places.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:57PM (#32253994)
Thank you!
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Shared404 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:21PM (#32253351)
Texas unfortunately.

Doesn't happen all the time or everywhere, but I've seen people brag about doing this.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:27PM (#32253451)
Thank you!

I find it personally helpful to get points of data like this.

Living in Switzerland, the cultural standards are sometimes astonishingly different between countries (e.g. I still regularly see job application forms that require both a headshot of the candidate and a date of birth).

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:45PM (#32255782)
Well, yeah, but that's so you don't hire someone unattractive, or worse the wrong kind of person.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Thursday July 28, 2022 @12:26AM (#32260475)
Sometimes, when I can tell during a hiring process that it's just not working out, I do ask companies why they ask for a photo and a date of birth.

The answers generally are:

- "We've always done it this way" - Well sorry to hear that, but that's not a reason

- "Everybody does it this way" - Well, I'm a candidate and I can tell you that no, only 10% of companies are doing it this way

- "We want to get a first impression of the person before we invest time to look at them closer" - The first step in your application process is a 15min call with an HR person. Do you really need a step before that to reject someone based on age or ethnicity or gender?

So far, no one has reacted with any kind of understanding.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by nvahalik on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:05PM (#32253119)
> I personally don't know any right-wingers that wouldn't call you by the name/gender that you request them to

I've never been faced with this problem personally, but what I can say that is that if you've known someone for any length of time say "Bill" and then one day "Bill" wants to be called "Jill" there is an ask that extends far beyond what is ordinarily reasonable.

That's why I think "deadnaming" is totally stupid. That name isn't dead. You just don't like/prefer it. But it was there and people know that name. They know you—and you just changed your mind. That's not their problem—that's yours.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:14PM (#32253253)
Imagine I read your comment and didn't think of a trans person, but a Ms. Jones who had married a Mr. Smith and was now Mrs. Smith.

Is your opinion the same?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by nvahalik on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:28PM (#32253485)
Yes.

Marriage is a union where two people make a lifelong commitment to each other: their identity is now united. This is a normal and good thing.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by rhines on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:45PM (#32253772)
While it's hard to shift, as long as you're making an effort it's fine. If you slip up from time to time, especially early on, that's understandable. But eventually you should learn it. You were willing to call them by what they asked to be called originally, rather than just calling them "big guy" or whatever, so I don't think it's unreasonable to respect their wishes on what they wish to be called in the future too.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by nvahalik on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:01PM (#32254058)
There is a big difference giving someone a nickname vs. assenting to a reorientation of outward identity.

Someone wants a nick-name? Sure. No problem.

Someone who was a guy/gal and now claims to be something else? Especially if he/she is actively known in a space as something before and _then_ changes? That's a HUGE demand that honestly shouldn't be something anyone is comfortable asking others to do.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ROTMetro on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:49PM (#32254834)
I do this too, but with people who change their phone number. No, that number still exists, and I associate it with them. They choose to change it? That's their problem.

Edit: Guess I should put a /s. Is there a tag for highly passive aggresive /s?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by nvahalik on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:26PM (#32255484)
Perhaps it should be /sa should be for /[s]trawman [a]rgument.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by iratewizard on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:50PM (#32252889)
It's much appreciated. I try the best that I can to do the same from an EVP level, but the layer above me is intent on imitating the big 4 in every respect.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by projectazorian on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:51PM (#32253886)
But someone has to decide which topics are political. That is a political decision. Which means there are still politics, regardless of what your policy says.

For example, I might say that calling me by my preferred pronouns isn't political, it's a matter of basic respect. Other people might think this is an act of political coercion, and report me to HR for violating the "no politics" policy. Resolving that dispute is a political act.

Moreover companies are political entities granted a charter by the state, and don't hesitate to have positions on political issues that directly affect their business.

So "no politics" doesn't mean "no politics" at all, it means (charitably) no discussion of politics beyond things the prevailing political consensus deems as apolitical, or (uncharitably) no discussion of anything that makes the dominant group uncomfortable.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:58PM (#32254010)
You can always make the argument that everything is everything else, everything can be traced back to religion, or monetary gain or trying to improve social standing; that’s not interesting because it’s extremely easy to make everything relate to everything.

So, while I appreciate greatly the attempt to politicise the world and make this topic greyer than it needs to be: it’s a little at odds with reality unless you’ve entirely internalised the notion that everything is political always.

This is the same argument as “silence is violence” but even that movement acknowledges the reason they consider it violence is because it supports the status quo.

The status quo should not be considered political. In order to be apolitical one must live within the status quo; only excluding the inherently political things like protesting or denouncing/promoting politicians or parties.

Similar to how theism doesn’t preclude denouncing other faiths or supporting any: whatever the current climate is with regards to the dominant theism; is what is usually understood to be normal by atheists wherever they are based- with the obvious exclusion of inherently religious things like going to a place of worship or praying.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @04:05PM (#32256092)
I've noticed people often have bizarre notions about "politics".

Politics is simply the way people in groups come up with decisions. How you and your friends decide where to go for dinner? Politics, whether it's voting or someone's birthday preference, or because your one friend Ayn really has to be the one to decide or else she throws a fit.

The status quo? Well, yeah, it's not political, in roughly the same way that a paper mill is not political. But like you say yourself, it becomes political when someone wants to change something. If someone wants to build a paper mill in the middle of your neighborhood, you'd best get your political hat on and start doing the political boogie because you don't want to live near the smell and chemicals. If someone wants to change the status quo, say because they think the current treatment of Xs by Ys is unacceptable, then you can bet that both supporting and opposing the status quo will become political.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by projectazorian on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @02:34PM (#32254593)
> So, while I appreciate greatly the attempt to politicise the world and make this topic greyer than it needs to be: but it’s a little at odds with reality unless you’ve entirely internalised the notion that everything is political always.

No, not everything is political, but many things are, especially when we're talking about how to govern corporations, which are political entities with a charter from the state and often have a great deal of power over their employees and the communities in which they operate.

> The status quo should not be considered political. In order to be apolitical one must live within the status quo; only excluding the inherently political things like protesting or denouncing/promoting politicians or parties.

And who defines what is "within the status quo"? Doing so is a political act.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by cjsaltlake on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:54PM (#32252940)
Companies are entities with political interests like any other. The only way you can curtail their influence politically is through regulation. It is reasonable for entities to pursue their goals through any legal means.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by dijit on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:00PM (#32253039)
Companies by definition are collections of people with disparate opinions, the only unifying political ideology that can exist in that circumstance is continuance of the company as an entity unto itself and maximise its own profits.

it's unethical, then, to allow them to make policy as they're considerably more powerful than the individual, much less empathetic and optimise for extremely self-serving behaviours.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by cudgy on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:21PM (#32253352)
Seems that a privately held company can hold a political ideology as it is owned by typically a limited number of owners, but a corporation is an organized charter within the society owned by an unknown and ever-shifting population that should discourage or ideally eliminate political ideologies within the scope of its charter, especially the type of issues “wokeness” elevates.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by cjsaltlake on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:56PM (#32252979)
The only people I hate more than woke people are anti-woke people.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by matthewmacleod on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:56PM (#32253958)
I think in my whole professional career I've experienced a colleague being annoyingly "woke" literally once – and even then, it was someone talking about a view that I thought was silly, rather than any kind of demand.

Conversely, the number of times I've sat through people losing their shit about some trivial perceived "wokery" is way higher. YMMV.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by bityard on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:25PM (#32253418)
Best policy is to hate everyone equally, right?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by scrozier on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:04PM (#32253094)
I used to agree. Now I'm not so sure. :-)
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by balentio on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:47PM (#32252837)
I think a simple "This is against our discrimination policy" would be fine. Of course, it could not be applied just for "gay" people, but potentially anyone--including--gasp--Conservative Christian discrimination.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by Shared404 on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:58PM (#32253010)
E: Removing inflammatory language, and rephrasing.

While this is true, that means that you can't discriminate against someone for how they believe. If they act in an unacceptable manner - for whatever value of unacceptable is used for am environment- then putting a stop to that is not discrimination.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by ThePadawan on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:31PM (#32253530)
I'm not the author, but I can imagine one problem I would personally encounter, were this my employer, would be that there is no discrimination policy.

So now you've lied to the speaker. Or you have to write that discrimination policy yourself, pushing it through HR and C-level.

And as the author says, that's what they would prefer, if they had all the time and energy in the world - and the sentence "We don't do that here" serves to say "Please don't make me have to write down a rule that says we don't do that here.".

It's like seeing a sign "Please don't pee in the washbasins in the 3rd floor mens' room". There's a reason someone had to put down that rule in writing.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:50PM (#32252888)
> "gay" people

What do the quotes signify here?

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by balentio on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:51PM (#32252898)
What the article referenced.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:56PM (#32252968)
The article used quotes around gay to signify that it was discussing the adjective "gay" as a noun. You _used_ it as an adjective while surrounding it with quotes. Do you mean "people who are attracted to people of the same gender", or something else?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by balentio on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:05PM (#32253110)
The article provided two potential definitions of the word. I mean the term to be inclusive of the whole situation the article described as a concept which encapsulates both meaning of the word--hence why I quoted it and referenced discrimination policies which usually address both definitions conceived of in the article in the workplace.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:06PM (#32253124)
That makes sense, thank you for clarifying.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by swayvil on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:12PM (#32253223)
Maybe he's distinguishing it from light-hearted.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by camdenlock on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:06PM (#32253125)
Like the article author, you sound like a self-elected cop of sorts. Have you considered channeling your energy elsewhere?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by NoraCodes on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:13PM (#32253229)
I was asking for clarification and got it. What's the problem with that?
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by camdenlock on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @07:02PM (#32258218)
Seemed to me that you were attempting to sniff out some heretical speech.
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mitchdoogle on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @01:38PM (#32253651)
The crimes of religious extremists and witch burners are imposing religious law, imprisonment, and murder. And now you want to claim that someone asking you to change "whitelist" to "allowlist" is equivalent? Give me a break.

Either you agree that language matters and so we should be considerate about how our language affects our thinking, or you think it doesn't matter, in which case it shouldn't bother you when someone wants to update terms to be more accurate or inclusive.

Re:We don't do that here (2017) by smrtinsert on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @12:57PM (#32252985)
Way to misinterpret the post under a cloud of perceived oppression
Re:We don't do that here (2017) by mcguire on Wednesday July 27, 2022 @03:30PM (#32255547)
dang routinely does so when moderating things here in HN. It's explicitly in the guidelines.