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Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by mosura on Sunday November 08, 2026 @06:39PM (#50418934)
A significant proportion of the people I know that won the startup lottery ended up losing the money when the girl they were into at high school flies themselves at them, has their kids, then goes back to the dude they were with before with the kids and child support, and this is relatively small fry and without any possible gov involvement.

The people in here acting like they would be immune to all this are kidding themselves.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by Capricorn2481 on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:09PM (#50419198)
> A significant proportion of the people I know that won the startup lottery ended up losing the money when the girl they were into at high school flies themselves at them, has their kids, then goes back to the dude they were with before with the kids and child support

What in the world are you talking about? Most successful people you know get honeypotted by their high school crush? How did you determine it was a honeypot and not just a regular divorce? This doesn't come off like a genuine insight into how the world works, this looks like someone determined to only view women as temptress succubi.

> The people in here acting like they would be immune to all this are kidding themselves

Maybe speak for yourself.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by antonymoose on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:09PM (#50419205)
“If she’s a 10 she’s an (intelligence) asset”

That principle works for anyone with means to seize.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by skhr0680 on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:30PM (#50419389)
That's for other people. This time is different.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by bilbo0s on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:36PM (#50419878)
>That principle works for anyone with means to seize.

Believing that is the first step to a compromise. This principle works for anyone period.

Just think everyone should consider the possibility that no one really needs the head of R&D. For good intelligence agencies, the guy who does low level IT will do nicely thank you very much.

No one, man or woman, grows closer to being a 10 as they age. So if you work for some of these critical companies and your perfect man or woman shows up, you should be on your guard.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by anal_reactor on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:39PM (#50420328)
> So if you work for some of these critical companies and your perfect man or woman shows up, you should be on your guard.

TBH if I was higher up the chain of command, I'd actually give less fucks. If I have a mortgage I cannot afford to lose job or money so I'm on guard because I'm one failed marriage away from homelessness. But if I have ten million dollars to my name, and a Chinese spy shows up then what exactly do I have to lose? If the company kicks me out then good riddance, I can already retire to perfect comfort and nobody can take away the memory of spending a year with a 10/10 partner.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by TZubiri on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:52PM (#50420425)
If you know for a fact they are a spy, are we sure that they are the ones doing the finessing? can’t you just feed them false intel and develop a syncretic religion between their confucianism and my catholicism such that they don’t know who is brainwashing who?
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by anal_reactor on Sunday November 08, 2026 @10:03PM (#50420510)
I wouldn't care about giving out real intel in exchange for a passionate romance because that's something you cannot buy with money.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by WheatMillington on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:28PM (#50419370)
This does not sound like something you've ACTUALLY encountered multiple times.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by InsidiousWombat on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:50PM (#50419551)
40% first marriages in US end in divorce. Second marriages have 60%. 2/3 initiated by women

You just need to know few people to qualify for "multiple times"

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by tenacious_tuna on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:08PM (#50419686)
It's a large jump from "divorces happen a lot" to "many startup founders have their highschool sweetheart honeypot them for child support"
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by bilbo0s on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:27PM (#50419802)
In fairness, it seems like everyone is a startup founder. I can't tell you the number of CV's and resumes I've seen that have CEO of something I've never heard of on them.

Just saying that being a startup founder is not particularly rare or special the past twenty years. You don't even have to do particularly well with your startup. People probably get targeted for a measly 750K exit. I think on HN we get a twisted opinion of what is big money to most people.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by HaZeust on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:52PM (#50419993)
>" I think on HN we get a twisted opinion of what is big money to most people."

>"a measly 750K exit"

No kidding, lol.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by helterskelter2 on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:56PM (#50420027)
> 2/3 initiated by women

You say this like 2/3 of divorce is the fault of women, but IME they usually have good reason to do so.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by afavour on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:47PM (#50420390)
Agreed. If we’re talking inconvenient truths, I see far, far more husbands being useless married (and particularly parental) partners than I do wives. And I say this as a man.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by TZubiri on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:48PM (#50420401)
I’m assuming “initiated by” is an objective legal term for filing the divorce. which ironically is probably oppositely correlated to fault in divorces, i.e if the husband cheats, the wife files for divorce, and it was the husband’s ‘fault’ as they breaches the marital contract
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by missedthecue on Sunday November 08, 2026 @10:57PM (#50420903)
The figure comes from interview data of post-divorce couples regarding motives for divorce (and a few other questions, i.e. regret etc). It's not literal paperwork filing data.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by shdjhdfh on Sunday November 08, 2026 @10:31PM (#50420709)
I'm fairly sure they meant entirely the opposite.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by poilcn on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:54PM (#50420441)
There is no conspiracy in it

Divorce implies involvement of a government institution and women feel like a fish in water when it comes to bureaucracy, while men avoid it

That's why in same-sex pairs women are twice likely to call cops and file a lawsuit regarding house abuse and men half as often

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by com2kid on Sunday November 08, 2026 @10:09PM (#50420555)
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Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by irishcoffee on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:03PM (#50419653)
I sure have. I’m surprised you’re surprised.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by faangguyindia on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:42PM (#50419917)
People are missing the point; it depends on the "circle" you are in. Not all will have the same experiences occurring at the same frequency.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by mosura on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:56PM (#50420022)
This is how you know this is a male dominated forum: women would not be remotely surprised and in fact tend to be the only ones warning of it when it is about to happen.

And let’s face it, nerds are especially vulnerable.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by bardan on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:15PM (#50420140)
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Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by hansonkd on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:45PM (#50419503)
Sounds like you have little to no experience with people who won the startup lottery.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by InsidiousWombat on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:51PM (#50419558)
Sounds like you don't know that divorce rate is near 50% and mostly initiated by the woman
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by Timon3 on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:02PM (#50419636)
The divorce rate could be 99% without GP's situation ever happening. This stat says nothing by itself.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by rafram on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:22PM (#50420196)
You say “mostly initiated by the woman” like it proves something about women maliciously ending marriages to make off with their husbands’ earnings. Have you met men? Many are eminently divorcible. A lot of people have bad relationships that should’ve never started, and it’s not surprising that it falls to the woman to eventually call it quits.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by Revanche1367 on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:48PM (#50419527)
This sounds incredibly unlikely to happen to multiple people a person knows but “significant proportion” is vague enough for it to still be true even it’s just one. But, I think people are misreading that you’re suggesting these were honey traps rather than just high school crushes taking advantage of men they ignored earlier in life when they become rich and then abandoning them once they no longer are.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by v3ss0n on Sunday November 08, 2026 @07:48PM (#50419528)
That remind me of founder of a really good, Realtime NoSQL Database .. RethinkDB . And his wisdom that he hard earned still reminds me not to repeat his mistake.. ~Don't Hire a Hot young girl before you have product market fit.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by nozzlegear on Sunday November 08, 2026 @10:52PM (#50420870)
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Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by v3ss0n on Monday November 09, 2026 @12:00AM (#50421259)
its hard... u know ( no pun intended)
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by jongjong on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:16PM (#50419729)
They're patriotic women in both cases; in the former case, by stealing industrial secrets, in this case, doing their duty to help decentralize their nations' wealth though the court system.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by cgomez on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:23PM (#50419768)
This is why I refuse to give up reading HN comments. For absolute nonsensical gems like this.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by pseudohadamard on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:33PM (#50419857)
Dear world's intelligence agencies,

On the chance that I might one day become the CEO of a very important company, could you forward me my dream girl in advance? Thanks.

PH.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by zarzavat on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:52PM (#50419988)
Marriage and hyperindividualism are a dangerous mix.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by surgical_fire on Sunday November 08, 2026 @08:52PM (#50419989)
> The people in here acting like they would be immune to all this are kidding themselves.

People in here are probably salty that they are not valuable enough to be targeted by some sexy Chinese spy.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by in_cahoots on Sunday November 08, 2026 @09:37PM (#50420319)
This reads like someone with zero familiarity with divorces or people in general.

- anyone with enough money to be targeted like this has enough money to get a prenup.

- most states do 50-50 custody these days unless one parent gives up their rights. So any child support would be decent, but not life-changing. Doubly so if the guy is rich enough to be targeted, in which case he's also rich enough to hire a good lawyer. The woman in this scenario has less money, so she can't get as strong a lawyer unless she's gambling that he'll have to pay her legal fees.

- With 50-50 custody the woman can't fly out of state to raise the kids, the court frowns on uprooting them from their hometown / school system.

The only way this makes sense is if the guy relinquishes all his rights to the kid, in which case he's hardly a hero either.

This isn't even considering the ridiculous notion that this woman has a man on the side just waiting for her to get knocked up with some millionaire's child.

Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by UqWBcuFx6NV4r on Sunday November 08, 2026 @11:00PM (#50420920)
I guess that with AO3 being down people have to turn to HN to post their sick fantasies. This sounds like something straight outta Andrew Tate’s fear mongering playbook. If your worldview is such that you thought that anyone would believe this nonsense story then I’d hate to know what else you believe.
Re:Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair by arjie on Monday November 09, 2026 @12:14AM (#50421336)
Not my experience in SF. About the worst sin they’ve committed is moving to Walnut Creek to get a big house - which is admittedly fairly criminal an act.