This is what impostor syndrome looks like at an industrial scale.

I find the best antidote to that is live streams of people like geohot, a man at the top of his game who is an idiot more than half the time when coding - "No! You're missing a coma, this won't run!"

I would not assume they’re miserable because I probably would have the same reaction if I was them.

We have just been bombarded with so much technology and advancements in the past two decades that it really takes a lot to impress us. We’ve had ppl conputing, smartphones, electric cars, semi-autonomous driving, VR and ChatGPT. A tool that parses Parquet is very very low in the totem pole, compared to all the new tech everyone has been exposed to.

Add that to the fact that we’ve also been overpromised new shiny things that turn out to he disappointments (Google Wave, metaverse, blockchain, a lot of AI products) and its not surprising most people aren’t that impressed by lots of tech these days.

In comparison, 25 years ago, just seeing a webpage load in less than a second led to a Wow moment

It doesnt help that current quality of life is pretty grim, downright terrible if youre young, heck even if youre pushing into middle age. Possibly beyond but I dont have as much perspective for that demographic.

things that give you the mental resources to take the time to have fun with things are simply not avaliable to most of us these days. As a simple example, young folks have near no chance of ever owning a home, and it is sold as a personal failure. As it being a failure to grind sufficently. Natural human urges and desires, like having a family, are increasingly out of reach and are again sold as personal failures.

Everyone is grim, because the situation is grim. If we dont take the time to recognize how grim it really is, we will be in no position to start fixing it.

I don't know. It's not hard to buy a home if you're an American software engineer though, and aren't tied to the bay area or NYC. There are even places commuting distance from NYC where you can get a $250k single family freestanding home.

A few years ago I lived for a while in Tulsa, Oklahoma. It was pretty easy to find a $110k software job that was pretty chill and well, not so exciting or conducive for the ambitious. Numerically pay isn't what faang might pay in SF. But faang workers in SF claim they can't buy a house, yet this lower salary easily could have bought a mansion in Tulsa. They could have even cut my salary in half and it still would afford a nice average house.

Probably not a coincidence I saw a lot more families with children across all social classes there than in my prior NYC life. Hm.

So I don't think America has a cost of living problem, I think the bay area, core NYC and a few other major metros have a cost of living problem. That's bad, but those are two different things.

I mean, if I’m going to buy a house, I’d want to buy it in my hometown, but that’s very nearly impossible even at software developer salaries.

I’m now living overseas, where housing is also expensive, but at least within reach due to low interest rates and just plain building more smaller houses.

Low interest rates increase house prices.

To some extend, but not as much as much as high interest rates increase the amount I actually pay. I guess high interest rates are cool if you have the money lying around to buy a house outright?

I'm in Pittsburgh right now and struggling to buy a house. Everything on the market are estates and get bought within a week of listing. This past one I put an offer on was sold in less than 24hrs of posting...

I'm surprised to hear this, I would never think to lump Pittsburgh in with big metros. Are you being picky or something? Do you have kids and thus school district is a major consideration? Do you have a specific neighborhood you want?

Really, Pittsburgh of all places? I know a quick search from someone from out of town is kind of shaky and there's a lot of local knowledge you have, but are houses like https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/4411-Gladstone-St-Pittsbu... at $170k or https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/1404-Marlboro-Ave-Pittsbu... at $154k or https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/107-Lilac-Ave-Pittsburgh-... at $160k not good enough for you or something? Zillow shows hundreds and hundreds of decent looking houses under $200k within Pittsburgh city limits.

These are incredibly affordable even on a 5 figure household income. You are very lucky to live in a place with such a reasonable CoL. I've known people to move there from eastern PA for the sake of that.

If I'm missing something, I'd love to hear it, but I'm pretty sure what I'm gonna hear is that you're filtering out a lot of the affordable stuff due to some interesting self imposed restrictions.

Many rust belt cities are de facto segregated by class and race. I’m not familiar with Pittsburgh specifically but just glancing at those listings I suspect they may be in “the ghetto”.

I don't understand what this means. As in white people aren't allowed to live there? What's the problem with buying these houses?

As a white man living on a very black block in Philadelphia, it's extremely difficult for me to relate or sympathize. People move from here to Pittsburgh because of Pittsburgh's famously low housing costs.

Sucks to suck I guess.

PS: Regarding safety, I went back and looked at street view for all three properties. All three appeared to be surrounded by well-kept yards and houses, cars in decent condition, etc, which is a very good barometer for safety and basic neighborhood quality. These are nice suburban houses.

Just for clarification, I haven't marked off houses because I'm worried about "the ghetto". The third choice has come up in my searches a lot, it just requires quite a lot of work. West View is quite nice nowadays and plenty of areas in Pittsburgh are lively and safe, I'd say there's only a few exceptions.

That’s about the price range I’ve been looking but it’s been in the north hills - The third house you have listed there has come up many times.

It’s not so much being affordable (I’ve gotten approved for just under $300k on paper, but prefer to limit it to below $230k) it’s just the housing supply is bought up extremely quickly. Anything still on the market for a couple weeks is going to have a bad roof, water damage, no central air, etc.

Sounds like you're pretty close to getting to where you need to be then. Buy something with minor (not foundation issues or something) work needed then do it. Even better if none of the work is urgent, so you can spread it out.

For example, central air is obviously a luxury. I don't even have it, so it's hard to take that as a serious issue. You can get around to installing it some day.

And you probably already know to make sure to search first for houses posted today, to try to do that every day, to immediately call for an appointment the same day, and work with an agent who understands the need for urgency, and to put in an offer same day if you like it.

If you take it as seriously as a job hunt, in such a gentle market as Pittsburgh, you're bound to be happy as a clam pretty soon. I envy your position.

I'm scheduled to look at three tomorrow actually :)

I'm working with a realtor and the realtor's platform sends me emails immediately anything is posted within my search criteria and she is very very responsive.

Just to reiterate, it's not so much I don't find houses it's just they go so fast and seemingly quite a bit above asking. To that point the house I submitted an offer on in 24hr and was sold had 10 offers in that time. There's a lot of competition for the low supply.

Houses I'm looking at tomorrow: 1075 Warrendale Bayne, Wexford; 205 E Railroad St Mars; 221 Bernice St., Pittsburgh

Best of luck!

My offer was accepted on one :)

None of those are in Pittsburgh proper. Sure their addresses say Pittsburgh, but they’re all outside of the city. As someone who’s also in tahn and has been watching the market, if you want off-street parking and more than one bathroom in a decent neighborhood in the city proper, you better have $450k all-cash within hours.

I'm mid-20s and while it's not all shiny I'd hesitate to call it grim. Maybe it's naivety but my current lodging isn't at risk of being bombed.

> new shiny things that turn out to he disappointments (Google Wave, metaverse, blockchain, a lot of AI produc

To be fair, the more seasoned observers among us were not affected by most of those disappointments due to ha ing recognized the signs from the beginning they'd peter out.

Other than Google wave. We all thought that was cool at the time. But I think failure has more to do with Google's poor as usual execution. See also how they had near total domination of the chat market back when Gmail Chat was the most popular chat briefly and pissed it all away with constant reorgs and rebrands and refractors that went in a circle until facebook won.

For a lot of technology you know it's just a hype bubble that very loud people keep chanting about because they have money in it and you have to wait for it to go away, Blockchain I'm looking in your direction. But there are still small tech wonders to be found, it's just difficult keeping abreast of all the changes in the wider tech ecosystem.

> Add that to the fact that we’ve also been overpromised new shiny things that turn out to he disappointments

I was a young developer when Enterprise Java was the future, and the way you knew it was the future was that it used XML for _everything_, so I'm not sure things are so different in that respect.

I don't remember getting excited about the hyped new stuff that VCs were excited about. I remember getting excited about simple stuff, almost dumb stuff. I remember getting my mind blown by powerful programming concepts, but I also remember getting my mind blown that I could select text in emacs and run a shell command on it with a few keystrokes.

I guess when I learned these things I didn't automatically crush my excitement with thoughts like "you can't make a business out of this" or "other people already know this" or "there are bigger, higher-leverage ideas I also need to be pursuing" or "I might get laid off from this job and never be able to get a software development job again." I did have those thoughts -- after the dot-com bust, nobody was sure the programming job market would recover again -- but I had them separately. I didn't feel like I needed to crush the pleasure I took in small things to make room for the big things.

P.S. If you're burned out by grandiose promises, a tool like DuckDB is a refreshing change. It was probably built to solve a really hard problem for somebody, but for me it's a humble little tool that scales down nicely to annoying file munging problems that feel like they should be easier. If you have a CSV file and want to run a SQL query on it, or you want to write a query that joins a CSV file with a JSON file, it'll have you there in no time, no need to write a script or fire up a Jupyter session.

Certainly not everyone, but a lot of the people who have entered the field in the past decade are chasing the money. The never had the passion for it but they were and are good at it, so here they are.

The last remaining field is game dev. The pay is low and react kiddies cannot learn it in a week. I wish the pay was higher buy the passion remains there.

And if that ever feels too corporate/safe, there's also fan game development/modding. The lack of legal ways to monetise your work there means that everyone who'd only be interested in the field for money is quickly filtered out, leaving only those willing to plow a decade or so of their life into something for no financial benefit.

Plus if you go back far enough, you can work on something where there's no room to abstract out anything and your code has to be optimised for the bare hardware itself, which is always an interesting challenge.

Yes, game dev and developing software for personal projects. Corporate world is insufferable.

I’d say it’s because there is so much (free/open) code around these days that it’s not surprising there’s something that parses the file out there.

We have access to too much information about how to do things better and the tools to do those things, so the focus winds up on retraining and optimising rather than just dumping something out there and abandoning it.

Flash sucked but everyone knew it sucked and that you could kind of force it to do a lot of things.

For me the joy of programming is thinking and making the simplest thing which accomplishes my need, and the regular intervals of satisfaction from a sequence of jobs well done.

When I started by career ten years ago that was how it worked. Around 2019 I noticed a change.

At some point coding was replaced with "HERE LEARN AND USE THIS NEW TOOL" fourty times a week. It is all kitbashing now. Software development has been completely replaced with devops. Low level devops does not require brain usage. It requires bashing your brains against the wall for hours trying to figure out what about your yaml file is wrong. Your boss and your coworkers are forcing you to use this and ten other antitools despite you already knowing how to adequately and quickly solve the problem with the tools you have. They advocate for the tools despite having never used them because the tools have a fancy (disgusting) react website. I have extreme new tool jadedness. Usually I hate when poeple show me new software tech, because they will demand I use it and I have to pay the price. I will never become an expert of these tools. They will be replaced in six months. Only 3-5 of our 50 microservices will use each one. Many of them will be redundant.

Joined a new startup a few months ago. The ceo had would take me asside five times a week and tell me we had to use this new tool. Kubernetes, helm, and 100 other tools appeared. At first I enjoyed the experimentation but it never ended. Work never got done.

At some point I told him "This is just a basic crud app. what the fuck are we doing. Can we stop playing around and get this done?" He didnt listen. I quit. Fuck it.

This is exactly it. You could show me the best, simplest, most elegant tool ever and my first reaction is going to be to throw up in my mouth as soon as you say "hey, check out...", because the last 50 things shown to me have all traded 100 lines of code for 500 pages of bad documentation while everyone around me fucking gaslights me into thinking I'm an idiot because I find bad APIs and documentation harder to work with than code.

I still have loads of fun when someone introduces me to a problem and lets me actually write code to solve it. That just doesn't happen in 2024 workplaces though. If you want programming work to be fun again, you need to start there.

This spoke to me. I see it as putting tools before ideas.

My funnest one was a big flaming GIF at the top of our admin page that said "production". I believe it was from "cooltext.com"

last i checked it was still there 10+ years later

I’m pretty sure that fun never really disappeared but rather than developers team are now full of non "computer people", like, people who never cared about computers from the start.

I don’t say it like an insult, it’s just that for most people developing things is and have always been a career like any other. We shouldn’t blame people to not be passionate about their jobs. Everyone have to eat and if you are able to perform in this job without passion, you would be stupid not to.

But I agree that for passionate people, it’s pretty depressing.

And even for people who love this, writing SaaS apps 9 to 5 for years can easily shatter the joy of knowing cool things.

> I’m pretty sure that fun never really disappeared but rather than developers team are now full of non "computer people", like, people who never cared about computers from the start.

I think there is something simply due to aging. I grew up writing BASIC and machine code on a Commodore Vic20. Programming was inherently playing. Fast forward 4 decades, I do not write code for a living any more but I can see how senior coders I work with do not have that sense of joy. But it's not like the industry has became this or that way, it's that our lives have changed and we became old enough to understand that work is work, and playing is playing. As the lyric goes we have traded the maybe for the sure, we have filled our pockets with keys and responsibilities.

I still write code from time to time just to be slightly informed of trends, but my corollary would be: if your programming job makes you feel like you are playing, do not be afraid to enjoy it at all costs because that too shall pass.