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Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by jaredklewis on Monday April 07, 2025 @04:44PM (#43615747)
> - And yeah, you guys, it's time to buy a suit.

Others have already commented on this, but do you work in tech? IME getting interviewed by directors and even VPs in t-shirts is the norm. I’ve worn jeans to work my whole career. If anything, I think people in tech have a strong prejudice against people in suits (ie “obviously this person isn’t a real software engineer, they’re wearing a suit.”)

Anyway, probably not good career advice to wear a suit unless dress codes at tech companies are suddenly subject to drastic changes.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by drivingmenuts on Monday April 07, 2025 @05:48PM (#43616312)
The general rule seems to be if you’re not customer-facing, then no suit is needed. Just wear clean, neat clothes and that’s usually enough. If a suit or uniform is needed, that would be noted up front.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by sethammons on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @04:56AM (#43619647)
The general rule is to dress one step up from those in the role. Everyone in hoodie and shorts? Wear pants. Everyone in collared polos? Go business casual with maybe a blazer. Showing up a level lower makes you look unprepared. Showing up some levels higher, like in a suit to a hoodie shop, shows lack of research and reading a room.

In start ups, I have seen candidates nearly rejected just on a suit alone. Def started them on the wrong foot impression wise.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by j1elo on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:16AM (#43619734)
That's the point. One of my first interviews in tech was with a CEO who dressed with an Iron Maiden t-shirt. That settled to me the question about whether I would need to worry too much about looks at the office! :)
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by dagw on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:07AM (#43620322)
whether I would need to worry too much about looks at the office

'Uniforms' can go both ways. Would a person who only owns white Oxford shirts and monochrome dress pants have to go out and buy a new wardrobe he would feel very uncomfortable in if he wanted to work there? People who wear 20 year old band t-shirts can be every bit as judgemental about looks as people who wear tailored Italian suits.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by alabastervlog on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:11AM (#43622011)
Tech uniforms: instead of spending $2500 on four Brooks Brothers suits (seasonal sales), spend $2500 on fancy Nordic hiking clothes that you'll mostly wear sitting at a desk, as if an Arctic expedition might suddenly break out at the office and you'll need to at least have your base and mid layers ready.

Hipster/lumberjack can also work. Make sure the jeans are $400 Japanese raw selvedge to really get it right.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by crabbone on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:35AM (#43620495)
Erm... no?

The highest ranking person I ever shook hands with was the GP Morgan head of futures department. He came to talk to the whole company to prep for acquisition. So, it wasn't a super official "ceremony", but it was in front of some fifty men, including senior management of the said company. He was wearing a polo shirt, jeans and a pair of sneakers. I don't know if this is how he'd show up to his office in the bank. Likely not (but who knows?)

Also, nobody in that room was wearing a suit.

Maybe your advise works for other places. For vast majority of programming jobs showing up overdressed will raise more questions about your sanity than score any points on preparedness.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by sethammons on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:23AM (#43620878)
What is wrong with the advice? You are saying nobody was wearing a suit. I said dress a step up (for the interview). Sr. Management in graphic tees? Wear a polo shirt. Or sport your best conversation-starter graphic tee. And if the CEO wears a tee-shirt and all the rest are in some other category of dress, base your interview attire based on everyone else.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ljm on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:18AM (#43622087)
> Or sport your best conversation-starter graphic tee.

I recommend a t-shirt with a tuxedo design printed on the front. The very definition of smart casual.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by sethammons on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:44AM (#43623112)
I hired a guy who did that :) If you're on, hi Minh :wave:
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by crabbone on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:55AM (#43621830)
Mmm... because I'd prefer the approach of Donald Knuth: wear dashiki to special events (like interviews)? I don't mean I endorse West-African style literally. Just either wear something that says something about you, if you are into that, or be neutral and approachable. No need to plus one anyone.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by borroka on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:42AM (#43622367)
A few months ago, the 60-year-old CEO of the previous company I worked for, employing 100,000 people, showed up at our satellite office with other senior executives and EVPs for an official visit.

He was wearing some sort of jeans and polo shirt combination (the same as the other executives) and it looked terrible to me (the proportions were wrong, the jeans were too long--he looked like a clown) and I thought his attire was disrespectful. The people there, who cared about looking presentable given the importance of the event for the 200-person satellite office, looked much better than the power-ups.

In my opinion, this doesn't show that he only cares about the work and not silly, old-fashioned dress codes, but that he's too good for us to take the time to look good.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Terretta on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:03PM (#43627327)
> the GP Morgan head of futures department... I don't know if this is how he'd show up to his office in the bank

In case you mean JP Morgan, here's the CEO, Jamie Dimon, on cover of annual shareholder letter, back in ... 2015:

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/jamie-dimons-style-telling-jp...

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by baketnk on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:44AM (#43621080)
is it bad form to just like, ask your HR screener what the general dress code/vibe is like?
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by yencabulator on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:57PM (#43627289)
These days, the screener is often external to the company and has never visited the office.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by siva7 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:08AM (#43618795)
I wouldn't take that advice seriously. Suit in tech would be awkward (even for most mgmt roles). Tech pioneered the concept that you don't need a suit to get the pay of a suit. You can be yourself.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by _blk on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @03:03AM (#43619075)
As I learned, you can also be yourself, never wear a suit on the job and still wear one for the interview. First impressions count. Once people know I can wear a suit they just don't seem to mind me in shorts anymore.. So I might have a social skill after all :D
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by tuvang on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @04:19AM (#43619469)
First impressions do count but I think the above poster has a point, a suit can actually harm your chances in an environment where no one wears suits.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by roenxi on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @04:46AM (#43619602)
I'd want to see some actual hard evidence before I believed that. The usual way social cues work is they are devastatingly effective even if people claim they are not. Much like how most interviewers are honestly convinced that their approach is unbiased but in practice they tend to hire people who are like themselves.

My expectation is that turning up in a suit would get better results. The effect is probably smaller in hard-skill roles but I'd assume still present.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ljm on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:45AM (#43619895)
Rather than thinking about the suit itself, I’d consider the dress code or culture of the company you’re interviewing for.

Turning up in formal business wear isn’t going to be a positive social cue if everybody you interact with is dressed casually.

The social cue you’d be giving off is that you stick out like a sore thumb and probably didn’t do your research on the company before you showed up.

Literally no different than turning up to Lloyd’s of London in a Hawaiian shirt and Bermuda shorts.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by noodlesUK on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:54AM (#43620249)
I agree, but I suspect that you’d have much better luck if you wore something that was superficially similar to the kinds of things other people wore, but was much better fitted and higher quality. For instance, if you showed up in a nice pair of chinos and a tailored buttoned shirt (of appropriate formality), that might come across as being really put together rather than ignoring subtle social cues by dressing in something that stands out by not fitting in.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by khazhoux on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:40AM (#43619866)
Wearing a suit to a tech interview in silicon valley would without a doubt send the signal that either (a) they have absolutely no clue about SV work culture, or (b) they’re a “look at me” guy who dresses odd on purpose
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:38AM (#43621027)
If they're young it can also be because that's what they've been told to do, if they're from a different culture (even an American one) it may be shockingly weird not to wear a suit to an interview, and there are even people who wear suits all the time because a well-made suit is very comfortable, with no more showing off involved than dressing up any other way. An interview is not a regular work day, best not to summarily judge people like that.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by khazhoux on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:02PM (#43623294)
> If they're young.... if they're from a different culture...

These are just instances of my point (a): not having a clue about SV work culture.

> there are even people who wear suits all the time

Not in silicon valley tech. I mean, sure, maybe there's one guy and the number is not zero.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:10PM (#43623371)
My point is that even knowing the work culture of SV does not mean that people necessarily believe it applies to interviews too, or that a suit will be a negative point, rather than good or neutral. There is a strong culture of looking smart at interviews that overrides knowledge of day-to-day attire. If you really care about people being in casual clothes, mention it in the invite, rather than looking down on them for doing what has been ingrained to be appropriate.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by anal_reactor on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:18AM (#43620386)
The problem is that when someone who doesn't usually wear a suit puts it on just for one day, it's blatantly obvious he's uncomfortable.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by wavemode on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:03AM (#43621920)
> in practice they tend to hire people who are like themselves.

So then by your own admission, the best way to come dressed is the same way your interviewer tends to dress.

Which is essentially what most people in this thread are arguing for - dress to match the company's culture.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by thruway516 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:35PM (#43623667)
I don't know where you live but for most tech jobs here even outside of sv its almost as bad as putting your photo on a resume. Even for very senior non-technical roles you're better off showing up in slacks and a blazer than the whole enchilada
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by dagw on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:41AM (#43619875)
First impressions do count but I think the above poster has a point, a suit can actually harm your chances in an environment where no one wears suits.

There are many ways to wear a suit. If you walking in wearing a suit that doesn't fit, doesn't suite (no pun intended) you, and it obviously makes you feel uncomfortable then that could count against you. But you walk in wearing a suit that fits, makes you look good, and that you are comfortable wearing, then I have a hard time seeing how it will count against you.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by atq2119 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:00AM (#43620672)
Wearing a suit to a technical interview is an immediate red flag. Everybody knows you don't wear suits in this industry, so what's your motive? Your ability to wear a suit is irrelevant for the job, so what weaknesses that are relevant are you rather clumsily trying to hide?
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by malfist on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:21AM (#43620854)
It's a red flag? Come on, if I wear a suit it's because I want too and has no impact on my skills as a software engineer.

Being hyper judgemental about the clothes people wear isn't productive

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by el_memorioso on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:50PM (#43625249)
I would go as far as to say being this hyper-focused on clothes rather than if the person is sociable and competent is a red flag itself. It is rather superficial. Vague platitudes about "culture" might get thrown out, but are we engineering and building things or are we putting on a fashion show?
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by atq2119 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @04:54PM (#43626357)
Calling it a red flag may have been too harsh. It's certainly not an immediate no.

However, like it or not, it is a signal because it means you deviate significantly from the mode of the distribution. And a sober application of Bayes suggests that if anything, all else equal that signal is a negative one.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by grues-dinner on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:28AM (#43620925)
I've gotten a job offer from every technical interview I ever took in a suit, so it Worked For Me. And none of the jobs that I took I ever wore a suit to again (except for conferences or trade shows, and occasionally when I was going out after work to somewhere posh, which did provoke fun "Omg are you interviewing" questions!) Which I actually have found a bit of a shame because I do quite like a chance to wear a suit, though I'm also grateful not to have to iron infinite shirts.

Admittedly I thankfully wasn't in the SV bubble where people are wound this tightly about it!

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:41AM (#43621054)
An interview is not a regular work day. If only things relevant to the job were required in an interview, no one would be talking about whiteboard exercises.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by throwanem on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:06AM (#43619987)
Intimidating a potential hiring manager right up front isn't usually a great play.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by grues-dinner on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:11AM (#43620777)
With reference to the GP about awkward people, if an adult hiring manager is intimidated by an professional applicant wearing a suit to an interview in good faith (after all, it's widely seen as mark of taking the interview seriously), I think it is perhaps not the applicant who need to learn the social skills.

If an interviewer can't tell the difference between a flex and show of good intent, they probably should go back to jobs where they don't need to make judgements of character.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by throwanem on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:36AM (#43622308)
Oh, I agree unreservedly. But if I still need to decide how to dress for the interview...
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by WJW on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:51AM (#43620231)
If there is a de facto dress code and you knowingly go against it, even if you look good in whatever you do wear, it makes you look like you don't understand the prevailing norms. This could lead to worries you might not align with other team norms either.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:43AM (#43621068)
If it's so important, the interview invite should mention that casual wear is expected. Like it or not, most people take interviews seriously, and have been taught that you show you take the interview seriously by wearing a suit.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by WJW on Thursday April 10, 2025 @04:48AM (#43642016)
Tbh, people who blindly accept what they've been taught without considering the situation at hand don't make good engineers anyway (software or otherwise). It's not like programmers not wearing suits is some well-kept secret only accessible to the inner circle. Quite the opposite I'd say.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Friday April 11, 2025 @05:56AM (#43652196)
It's well known that programmers don't wear suits in the office in the SV. It's less obvious they shouldn't wear one in the interview either, because that's not a regular work day. It's not obvious at all to someone from a formal-dress culture like France (Italy? India?). Google's own AI recommends erring on the side of caution and wearing a suit for an SV interview. Yes, people should look up the specific company they're interviewing for... if it even comes to their mind, it's that obvious interviews require suits in some cultures.

If you forgive me the analogy, and assuming you're American, would you think of checking the etiquette of entering into a shop? In the US, the concept itself is weird, you go in, buy stuff, and leave. In France, you must greet the shopkeeper right as you go in through the door. In Hungary, you must wish the shopkeeper a good day in reply to their greeting. It's simple... if you know it's even a thing you should check.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by borroka on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:31AM (#43622243)
Which is actually funny, because weren't we in the tech the people who aspired to “think different”? But then it didn't become think-different for the individual, but for the tech in-group against the square out-group. And since the world is becoming increasingly informal and any group worth its salt needs to differentiate itself, tech people might be the first to return to wearing suits and ties (or dresses) to work. I'd like that.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by WJW on Saturday April 12, 2025 @07:14AM (#43663405)
"Think different" was a marketing slogan used for Apple products from 1997 to 2002, back when Apple was aimed chiefly at video editing professionals. It was never aimed at techies.

As long as suits and ties remain the uniform of politicians and managers, I don't think techies will ever willingly adopt it for themselves as well.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by exe34 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:15AM (#43620031)
can you just ask them before the interview? "is it okay to wear a suit, or do you guys have a stick up your..."?

I personally dress like a hobo when I'm out and about, and wear a uniform of jeans and a blue shirt when I go into the office, so I really don't care about the suit either way. I'm wearing it for your benefit, so if you don't like it, just tell me upfront - don't make me guess if the job isn't about mindreading.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by graemep on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:36AM (#43619842)
It has spread to other industries and circumstances other than suits.

I now have no idea how I am supposed to dress for most things other than formal occasions like wedding, funerals, or formal dinners.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by schnable on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:17AM (#43622799)
Yep. The great thing about the expectation of suit is always knowing what to wear.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Terretta on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:59PM (#43627301)
> I now have no idea how I am supposed to dress for most things

Can't go wrong with “smart casual”

// not sure that helps :)

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lo_zamoyski on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:27AM (#43621558)
"Be yourself"? What does that mean?

What if wearing a suit is "being myself"? You'll be penalized in tech for that.

Not everyone views the wearing of suits as some kind of punishment.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by zelphirkalt on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:37AM (#43623036)
Seeing someone wearing a suit for a dev interview would make me think one of the following:

(1) This person really really needs the job. Probably is in a bad negotiation position, due to this urgent need.

(2) Are you here to impress people with looks, or with your skills?

(3) They take looks way more serious than they should, maybe not focussing enough on the technical side of things.

(4) Hopefully this is not an "EnTeRpRiSe software" developer, and if they are, hopefully they don't work on my team and if they are, hopefully my next up manager does not get blinded by fancy clothes, instead of technical reasoning.

That said, I would try to keep an open mind about the person, but they would be initially sorted into the category of managerial or close to management, rather than close to the other engineers, which is not a positive signal to send.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by triyambakam on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:45PM (#43623780)
Sad because I /like/ wearing a suit, even to the grocery store. I know I must look weird, but I feel more comfortable with and confident in myself.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lgas on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @03:24PM (#43625566)
You probably wear suits that fit and the confidence probably shows through. Not to stereotype, but I suspect a large number of developers have one or two suits they wear for job interviews, weddings and funerals, and they bought them long enough ago that they are too loose or too snug by now, and consequently feel uncomfortable when wearing them. At least this used to be me.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by zelphirkalt on Wednesday April 09, 2025 @08:36AM (#43631361)
Personally, I feel uncomfortable in any suit, not because of size or fit, but because I must be wary not to make it dirty at all, otherwise cleaning is a pita. Say you want to go for lunch with coworkers and someone orders spaghetti/pasta. Great ... I rather wear something simple, so there is no problem, if something unfortunate happens.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by amrocha on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @01:25PM (#43624252)
This feels like such a narrow view of the world. Not necessarily discriminatory, but on the path to get there.

So what if a candidate wants to look good? How you feel about your looks affects your confidence, and you want to be confident in an interview.

And like, if a candidate came in with a well groomed beard would you think “he probably spends too much time on his beard, he must be a bad programmer”? I bet you don’t.

I’m not trying to criticize you too much, but this just feels antithetical to everything that tech stands for. You get judged on your merits, not on anything else. This way of thinking is how you create an environment hostile to women and minorities.

Our industry in north america is known for lots its egotistical slobs, but I thought that was changing.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Kirby64 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:05PM (#43624717)
> So what if a candidate wants to look good? How you feel about your looks affects your confidence, and you want to be confident in an interview.

Like it or not, if someone needs to wear a suit to feel confident that says something about them. It may just be a personality quirk of them unrelated to their skills, but it often is not. There’s no reason you need to wear a suit to feel confident.

> You get judged on your merits, not on anything else. This way of thinking is how you create an environment hostile to women and minorities.

How often does tech discriminate for “culture fit” reasons? Someone’s personality fit is often a huge point of contention, and wearing a suit is part of someone’s personality and choices.

I’m not advocating for it being an absolute state, but you certainly have to give some consideration to the fact that dressing up far more than is needed implies you don’t culturally understand. It’s as simple as that.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by zifpanachr23 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:34PM (#43625067)
So not only do you like to be a slob, but your also a dick to anybody that that wants to look nice and doesn't derive their confidence from thinking they are the smartest person in the room.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Kirby64 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:44PM (#43625178)
Wearing jeans and a T-shirt doesn’t make anyone a slob. Also, there’s ways you can be a slob even in a suit.

I’d suggest you reacquaint yourself with the comment guidelines, as this just is a simple ad hominem attack on me, despite not even making any claims as to what I wear to work.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by amrocha on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:02PM (#43627943)
You do see how discriminatory your statement is right?

Replace “wearing a suit” with literally anything else unrelated to programming skills. Wearing a dress. Having a particular speech pattern. Being old.

As soon as you start judging people for anything other than their performance you fucked up. People’s personality comes through in the interview process. By the end of an hour working with someone you should have a pretty good idea of what working with them is like, suit or no suit.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Kirby64 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:24PM (#43628052)
No, I don't. Like I said at the end:

> I’m not advocating for it being an absolute state, but you certainly have to give some consideration to the fact that dressing up far more than is needed implies you don’t culturally understand. It’s as simple as that.

I'm not saying you immediately throw a candidate out for wearing a suit. It's entirely possible I'm wrong and my mind can be changed by their performance, but it is something that would make me take a closer look.

I'll give you another example I experienced recently: a candidate who would not stop drumming their fingers on the table throughout the interview. Is that specifically related to their performance? No, not really. Is it annoying, a bit disrespectful, and shows a lack of restraint? Yeah, it is. This candidate had other flaws that made them disqualifying, but their finger drumming didn't help them at all.

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Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by tomhow on Wednesday April 09, 2025 @01:17AM (#43629098)
Be kind. Don't be snarky. Converse curiously; don't cross-examine. Edit out swipes.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by amrocha on Wednesday April 09, 2025 @05:14AM (#43630284)
I understand and respect your decision to moderate my comment, and I’ll be more careful going forward.

But I would like to point out that a rule that allows someone to openly state they discriminate during interviews but forbids a strong reaction to that statement might require some examination.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by Kirby64 on Wednesday April 09, 2025 @09:22AM (#43631774)
Respectfully, what I’m describing is not discrimination in the hiring sense. Discrimination is unfair treatment related to immutable characteristics about a person such as race, age, gender, etc.

You could just as easily argue that people “discriminate” against candidates by making them do leetcode, when leetcode is unrelated to performance at the job. Leetcode is a performance some people look at during interviews, just like how you socially meld in an interview is a performance people look at during interviews.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ViktorRay on Saturday April 12, 2025 @05:53PM (#43668204)
Maybe the person you interviewed was on the autistic spectrum (or had ADHD) and the finger drumming was a form of stimming?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stimming

I have no idea since I wasn’t there when you interviewed that person but it is something that came to mind.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by tomhow on Thursday April 10, 2025 @10:22AM (#43644090)
You’re welcome to disagree with people and present your opposing view, but we just need you to do so without escalating into hostility and personal insults. This site exists to be a place of curious conversation, not a battleground.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by zelphirkalt on Wednesday April 09, 2025 @08:40AM (#43631396)
> So what if a candidate wants to look good? How you feel about your looks affects your confidence, and you want to be confident in an interview.

But that is also a narrow view of the world, no? Who says a suit looks good? What if I think pajamas looks good? I am exaggerating of course, but I often think suits don't look particularly better or anything. It is just some random norm, that society has ascribed to that particular piece of clothing. I often find simple, one color only, no writing on it, clothing looking better.

> And like, if a candidate came in with a well groomed beard would you think “he probably spends too much time on his beard, he must be a bad programmer”? I bet you don’t.

I don't, but I do get a sense of them possibly being a bit vain. But more importantly, I think about why I don't wear such a beard. It is annoying when eating, and I don't want my beard in my food. So I will be a little bit baffled by their choice, but it is their choice anyway. I don't have to like it.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by amrocha on Thursday April 10, 2025 @05:00AM (#43642084)
Sounds like we mostly agree. You don’t have to like or agree with anyone’s personal choices, but you do have to respect them and treat them fairly.

Especially if you’re an interviewer.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ChrisMarshallNY on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:24AM (#43619773)
I was once turned down by Microsoft (in the 1990s), because I wore a suit to the interview. They made a point of mentioning it.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by michaelt on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:30AM (#43620108)
So tech got rid of the suits, but kept the desire to judge people at interviews based on their clothes?

Great. Fantastic job everyone /S

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ChrisMarshallNY on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @06:37AM (#43620148)
I remember reading, when IBM turned "business casual," that everyone adopted the same outfit: Khaki slacks, and blue polo shirts.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by hylaride on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:13AM (#43622036)
As a 25 year hoodie-wearing tech person, I'd pick suits over Khakis and polo shirts any day.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lo_zamoyski on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:16AM (#43621453)
Reverse snobbery is like slave morality. It transmutes a high standard into a perverse mirror image consisting of intolerant, intentional, celebrated mediocrity.

At least requiring a suit requires something aesthetically better and more worthy of human dignity. Reverse snobbery demands you dress worse and beneath it.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by causalmodels on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:27AM (#43622191)
It's just a different set of in group // out group signals, not some sort of moral failing. You're well within your rights to not like the signals though.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by yks on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:49AM (#43621763)
Please explain from the first principles, why a suit is "aesthetically better" and more dignified than a t-shirt/jeans combo.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by borroka on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:24AM (#43622161)
In human dynamics, very little is based on “first principles”. Some words are considered vulgar and others are not. Why? Aren't they just a sequence of letters? They certainly are, but those sequences have been assigned a meaning that does not derive from any “first principle”.

In the Western world, for a long time, at least 100 years, a suit was considered the proper attire for men. Then expectations changed and now some, many even, consider jeans and a t-shirt as aesthetically pleasing as a suit. Maybe in a few years, you'll go and talk to your lawyer, who will turn up to an hour-long meeting that you'll pay 500 dollars for in a tracksuit and it'll be perfectly fine, you'll even find the attire aesthetically pleasing.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by 9rx on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:12AM (#43622735)
> In the Western world, for a long time, at least 100 years, a suit was considered the proper attire for men.

Traditionally, it was a suit and hat. Going suit alone was already "dressing down". It is funny that we now consider that to be the paragon of male fashion.

> Maybe in a few years, you'll go and talk to your lawyer [...] in a tracksuit and it'll be perfectly fine, you'll even find the attire aesthetically pleasing.

It seems we'll question why he isn't wearing jeans and a t-shirt like a dignified man.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by yks on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:33AM (#43622262)
I absolutely agree, humans are creatures of context, that's why GPs opinion that not wearing a suit is a "perverse mirror image" and "mediocrity" is out of touch.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by rafterydj on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:25AM (#43622180)
Firstly, what we call a suit is a highly varied outfit of clothes that are designed to look good on a male silhouette. Deriving from that, yes, the suit is aesthetically better- to disagree is to discount both the entire field of custom tailoring and also the rest of wider society surrounding tech.

Most people off the street would agree that a suit is more dignified, and it's not without reason. Wearing a suit indicates a level of discipline, effort, and intention about the way that you look that simply wearing a t shirt with jeans does not.

To contrast, the historical reason for the t shirt / jeans combo is practicality and convenience; tech as an industry got away with it at first, because techies were not interfacing with clients directly or simply because they're working class.

You can argue about the elitism and class differences surrounding suits versus t shirts and jeans, but I think it's a bit ridiculous to say that suits aren't aesthetically better just because of the media image for hacker types.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by yks on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:41AM (#43622354)
Most of the popular outfits are "designed to look good" to a high degree, and then humans are quite bad at fitting the garments on average. Poorly fit suits that don't look good on a male silhouette are absolutely a thing, and I'd posit that an unkempt male wearing a poorly fitting cheap suit looks "lower status" than a fit and well groomed male wearing a stylish t-shirt/jeans combo.

So all we have is the tradition that "high status males" in the traditional power roles wear suits when in public, which is true and valid, but it does not translate into the inherent superiority of this garment.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by filoleg on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:51PM (#43623837)
100% agreed. I’ve seen way more than enough people in poorly-fitting expensive suits to last me a lifetime, and it is just painful to watch.

The main benefit of a suit is that it can be easily tailored to fit a person perfectly, which isn’t the case with tshirts/hoodies/jeans/etc. I mean, you can tailor those, i guess, but that’s very uncommon.

For non-suits, the pro-tip is to just focus on finding ones that fit your shape the best (or changing your shape; unless you are one of the unlucky few who has a non-conforming shape, e.g very tall), and that’s their main downside.

Well fitting casual clothing > poorly fitting suits any time. Beyond that, it is situational.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by dahart on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:01PM (#43624672)
Hehe explain aesthetics from first principles sounds like demanding the equation that proves Mona Lisa is a good painting.

I mean you can argue aesthetics, but it’s a fact that in the western world, a suit is considered by everyone, more or less, to be more formal than T-shirt and jeans, and more formal is widely considered to be more dignified than casual wear. The first principles that matter aren’t aesthetics, they are more likely customs and class (socioeconomic status).

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by 01HNNWZ0MV43FF on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:56AM (#43623233)
At least t-shirts and stripey socks are comfortable
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by kklisura on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:23AM (#43620879)
[in NYC accent] What, you think you're better than us
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lo_zamoyski on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:10AM (#43621394)
[in a Mid-Atlantic accent] No, I know that I'm better than you.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by anonym29 on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:54AM (#43622504)
[chuckles in Texan]
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by mathgeek on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @09:43AM (#43621694)
Too real. I once got turned down by the Apple Store for a retail position because I wore a collared shirt to the interview (after being told in advance not to wear anything formal). Interviewer let me know I came off as too formally dressed to get their vibe. The discrimination/bias was real.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by noirbot on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:09AM (#43621982)
I mean, if they said not to wear something formal, that doesn't really seem like bias as much as just not following instructions. If I showed up to an interview where they said to wear a suit and I was in jeans and a polo, I'd expect to get turned down too.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by kevin_thibedeau on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:32AM (#43622252)
A button up shirt isn't formal.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by noirbot on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:41PM (#43625148)
I'd mostly agree, but with them specifically calling out "not anything formal" as part of the expectations for interview attire wouldn't be the time I'd want to be riding the line of "is this too close to formal". This isn't a job at a tailor or stylist. You're not being tested on your understanding of the roles of various garments in different levels of fashion over time.

Presumably OP had seen/visited an Apple Store before and knew what employees wore there, so it's not a mystery what the uniform is, and therefore what is probably meant by "don't wear anything formal". It's not some kind of gotcha.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by mathgeek on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @05:10PM (#43626506)
We might be getting a but pedantic about what “formal” meant at the time, but you would have had to be in that Apple culture circle to consider a button down formal. Seems normal today, but it was not back then in most parts of the world. Today I would agree that folks would already know the expectation.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by mathgeek on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:29PM (#43625000)
A button up shirt without a jacket, at the time, was business casual at most. What they wanted was a t-shirt and jeans. Even Walmart, when I’d worked as a teen, expected a collar and appreciated a sports coat for interviewing. Different times for sure.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by noirbot on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @02:45PM (#43625188)
Sure, but t-shirt and jeans is also what everyone working at an Apple Store wears. It'd be one thing if they didn't say what to wear - then I'd totally understand going a bit above, but if they specifically put in "not formal", then it seems reasonable to assume they mean "match the uniform generally".
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by mathgeek on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @04:50PM (#43626323)
They didn’t say what to wear, they said a vague what not to wear. Almost all interviews at that point in time expected attire a step above your intended position. I personally think it was just a silly test of whether you already know what they expect. “You are a great hire but you dressed too nicely for the interview” is certainly a thing that I chuckle at.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by ar_lan on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:05PM (#43623323)
I didn't wear a suit, but in 2012 I wore slacks, tucked in collared shirt, and a tie, and got the same response from Microsoft. It was for an internship which is hilarious.

I interviewed elsewhere and one other time I wore an Oxford. I passed the university interview but the hiring manager told me for the on campus interview to not wear that again, or I'll stick out too much. I wore a plain T-shirt and have been happily employed for 10 years here :)

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by zeroonetwothree on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:13PM (#43627388)
I was hired by MS wearing a suit in the 2000s
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by crabbone on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @07:28AM (#43620451)
The only programmers I've ever seen wearing a suit to work were the ones working in a bank. Not sure if that was a requirement or just a local tradition. Just saying that it happens, but seems very rare.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by lores on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:45AM (#43621093)
It's not unusual in Europe - but then Europeans tend to dress smarter than Americans in general too.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by barbs on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @08:24AM (#43620893)
I wore a suit to my very first tech interview on the advice of my well-meaning but ill-informed mother.

I got the job, but was then told "don't listen to your mother"!

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by cruffle_duffle on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:59AM (#43622567)
Very close story here as well. lol. “You can always underdress but never overdress!”

Thanks mom!

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by hnbad on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @12:00PM (#43623274)
Take it to the limit and show up to an interview in full white tie attire.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by phaedryx on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:23AM (#43622154)
I've made it a point to always ask beforehand: "what is the dress code expectation? I've seen everything from t-shirts to suits in the tech industry and I'd like show up dressed appropriately."

I always get a positive response.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by kevin_thibedeau on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:30AM (#43622230)
I was told by a recruiter to "suit up" for an engineering position 15 years ago. I was met by the VP of engineering wearing cutoff jeans. I never listen recruiter sartorial advice.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by 9rx on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @10:42AM (#43622363)
To be fair, "suit up" usually means to put on a uniform rather than to wear a suit. The phrase seems to have originated in sports. T-shirts and hoodies are the uniform of tech.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by schnable on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:15AM (#43622772)
I don't think it's fair to the candidate to expect them to think that when a recruiter says "suit up" they mean in t-shirt and jeans or cutoffs.
Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by 9rx on Tuesday April 08, 2025 @11:28AM (#43622939)
It is a common phrase that, as commonly used, has no connotations with the suit as a style of dress: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/suit%20up

But you do highlight the flaw of natural language, where it only works where there already is a shared understanding. When quite often there isn't. Heck, 90% of the comments on HN are from actors having different understandings for technical jargon and talking past each other because they aren't even talking about the same thing. Such is the tragedy of the human existence.

Re:Interviewing a software engineer who prepared with AI by xaoz on Saturday April 12, 2025 @08:40AM (#43663864)
This must be localised; where I live "suit up" means "wear a suit".