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Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by Simulacra on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:03PM (#18241737)
I don't feel guilt when they swivel that ipad around, more like annoyance. When I'm asked to tip for someone handing me a cup of coffee, I say no tip. We should really be pushing to get away from this relic of slavery, and don't tip unless it's absolutely clear we need to; i.e. at a sit down restaurant.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by blacksmith_tb on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:12PM (#18241851)
Ouch, having worked in cafes and restaurants as an undergrad I pretty much always tip 20%. Is it absurd? Of course, but given how badly most waitstaff are paid, the idea that you will somehow eliminate the practice by stiffing a few barristas seems both sadistic and highly unlikely to change the world. Until robots hand me muffins, I accept it as a tax on eating out.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by mikestew on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:22PM (#18241982)
stiffing a few barristas

I'm old enough to remember a time that giving extra money to someone for handing you a cup of coffee would be thought absurd. Sit down eatery? No problem, there's prior art before I was born, disagree though I might. But this recent bullshit of "tip, because my employer doesn't pay me enough", whether its Starbucks, McDonalds, or your fave local coffee shop: yeah, fuck that. McDonalds doesn't need my subsidy.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by scroot on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:20PM (#18242742)
> McDonalds doesn't need my subsidy.

No, but the person to makes and hands over your coffee does.

> I'm old enough to remember a time that giving extra money to someone for handing you a cup of coffee would be thought absurd.

Then you're probably also old enough to remember when wage increases tracked with productivity increases, or when minimum wage kept up with inflation and the cost of living.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by Konnstann on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:59PM (#18243149)
I'm old enough to remember not needing to tip at starbucks or Panera, but not old enough to remember minimum wage keeping up with inflation.

The place where I first noticed the "tip your cashier" thing happening was the Panera at my university. Why in the hell would I tip someone who's job is literally to take my order, and maybe hand me a pastry? These people aren't making minimum wage either, I had some friends there and the job paid significantly more.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by influx on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:49PM (#18243040)
I'm not disagreeing with you, but what is the line of which workers to tip? Gas station employees do a similar job, and I have never seen anyone tip them. I have very rarely seen anyone tip a Subway sandwich worker even though they typically do more customization and work than a Starbucks employee.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by zak2727 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @04:02PM (#18243174)
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by syedkarim on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:33PM (#18242137)
I worked my way through college as a waiter and bartender. My first job was as a golf caddie. I've dried cars at car washes and operated a rickshaw. In all of those cases, there is an understanding that a tip is part of the purchase. More importantly, there is some actual work being done or service rendered for the tip (less so for bartenders, which do get paid above minimum wage).

Buying a muffin at a coffee shop and not paying a premium on top of the asking price is not sadistic. It's a normal commercial transaction. Based on your logic, why don't we tip fast-food workers, grocery store clerks, gas station attendants, etc...

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by simonbarker87 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:43PM (#18242976)
> More importantly, there is some actual work being done or service rendered for the tip.

No, that isn’t for the tip, that is literally the job they are paid to do by their employer. Choosing to tip should only be if they have gone above and beyond what you would expect. I’m from the UK and find the US tipping culture bizzare and stressful - I had truly terrible service in a restaurant in New York once and they literally chased me to the door when they realised I hadn’t tipped and threatened to call the police if I didn’t tip him at least 10%.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by b1r6 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @04:09PM (#18243254)
I'm saddened that this is part of what you remember when you think about visiting the US. You absolutely should not tip if the potential recipient of the tip treated you poorly.

They were bullying you by threatening to call the police. The cops would have been annoyed to show up for that, and nothing about what you did is illegal.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by Symbiote on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @05:51PM (#18244168)
Forgetting to tip is a fairly common tourist memory, though fortunately I've never had any threat. Not knowing when or how much to tip is also a problem.

- I was 12 the first time we visited the US. My dad was at first confused, since the hotel porter was hanging around, then he was embarrassed, as he didn't have any small cash.

- In New Orleans on a business trip, I kept forgetting to tip the barmaid. Other people at the bar were throwing her dollar bills on my behalf.

- Most recently, chip cards were fairly new — although I've had one for 14 years. I don't want to tip by card, it complicates my expenses, but navigating the dark-pattern UI on the payment machines was often confusing. Several waiters assumed I was stuck with the "new" chip card.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by dwaltrip on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:14PM (#18241877)
It's only "stiffing" if we start with the assumption they are supposed to be tipped.

I'm not well-versed in the history of coffee shops, but it seems to me that it is not a well-established norm -- as compared to bars and restaurants, for example. But I'm happy to be corrected if I'm mistaken about this.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by sharemywin on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:19PM (#18241950)
A lot of states are paid less if it's a job with tips:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tipped_wage

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by ApolloFortyNine on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:58PM (#18242481)
Also on that page:

>If wages and tips do not equal the federal minimum wage of $7.25 per hour during any week, the employer is required to increase cash wages to compensate

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by scroot on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:22PM (#18242766)
Do you think in a real workplace people are going to constantly bring this up with their managers?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by threatofrain on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:33PM (#18242882)
I think what happens in a real restaurant that doesn't share tips is that if you don't make enough you'll just be let go.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by asdff on Thursday October 18, 2018 @12:13AM (#18245837)
I think the IRS would spot this from a mile a way.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by ip26 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:29PM (#18242093)
But is a barista etc one of those jobs?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by awalton on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:39PM (#18242222)
Yes. Any front-of-house restaurant staff that gets a share of tips are subject to those laws, and it's ridiculous. Worse, some restaurants even force the tips to be split between dishwashers, who actually are making minimum wage in many cases, so waitstaff get crushed even harder.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by gamblor956 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:57PM (#18242474)
It's illegal to force waiters to split tips with non-tipped workers unless the restaurant gives up the "tip credit" (referring to the portion of the minimum wage that they get to treat as paid out of tips) for the split tips.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by SubiculumCode on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:17PM (#18241925)
On the contrary, it was very much the norm, though starbucks killed it.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by laken on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:18PM (#18241935)
Coffee shops are a unique one, though traditionally you tip the barista in particular, not the cashier. It's been somewhat on its way out culturally over the past few decades in the US however.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by kevin_thibedeau on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:53PM (#18243089)
Baristas were non-existent 30 years ago.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by JoeAltmaier on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:58PM (#18243142)
Espresso been around since 1903?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by simonsarris on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @04:57PM (#18243749)
Kevin is right, at least in terms of terminology: https://books.google.com/ngrams/graph?content=barista&year_s...
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by JoeAltmaier on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @05:31PM (#18244005)
Very cool tool!
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by eigenvector on Thursday October 18, 2018 @05:06PM (#18252119)
The countries that have been consuming espresso for decades before it became common in the US don't treat making an espresso-based beverage as a skilled trade. I recall ordering a perfectly serviceable latte at a gas station in Israel.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by dkrich on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:39PM (#18242224)
That's fine, but my problem with that line of thinking is that the norms we live with now have evolved to reward the workers who are serving the most affluent guests, not necessarily those working the hardest or who are paid the least.

For example, do you make a point of tipping the cashier at McDonalds? I'd bet that if you tried to and a manager saw you they would refuse it because the company doesn't want others to feel compelled to tip because they want to retain their image of a low-cost restaurant. Coffee shops selling $5 cups of coffee don't have that concern because people who frequent those places probably are a lot less price sensitive than those who eat at fast food restaurants.

15% used to be the norm across the board and adjusted from there based on the level of service. Now 20% is expected regardless of the level of service. In restaurants where a 20% gratuity is included in the bill I've noticed a significant drop-off in the level of service, even to the point where I would tip less than 20% if given the option, and I say that as someone who worked as a waiter at one point.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by thaumaturgy on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:03PM (#18242545)
> I accept it as a tax on eating out.

I'm highlighting this part because it's one of the main contributing factors to dining out less and less, for me, and that includes coffee shops. I always tip well when going out; ergo, I don't go out as often.

Going off of the "I'm not very unique" rule of thumb, businesses are losing some amount of money because of tipping culture.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by ghaff on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:21PM (#18242751)
>businesses are losing some amount of money because of tipping culture

Only in the most trivial sense that people know that, between sales tax and tipping, they're going to be paying a price that's 25-30% more than what's printed on the menu. And most people have some degree of price elasticity.

But I honestly can't imagine it matters much whether those adders are folded into the price up-front or you just know that you're going to be paying more than the printed price when you get the bill.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by thaumaturgy on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:52PM (#18243084)
I don't think it's all that trivial.

In the first place, I tip well partly because of information asymmetry: I don't know how well the staff are paid from one place to the next. This means that one place may pay their staff pretty well, and I'm still adding 20% to the cost of my ticket, and another place may pay their staff pretty poorly. This is placing the two businesses on an uneven competitive footing, and encouraging more businesses to pay their staff as poorly as they can get away with. This may be business-as-usual in the current American business culture, but the end result is that I'm subsidizing bad business practices.

I'm also subsidizing poor tippers. I know there are people out there who, for whatever reason they justify to themselves, don't tip, and I know that there are some businesses that don't pay a living wage (probably most, today), so I try to cover an extra portion of that cost.

It's also removing much of the incentive for food service businesses to seek out untapped efficiencies. I'm pretty sure labor costs are the largest expense category for any food service business, yet they continue to pile on more staff because people like me are helping them get away with it. I can order a Starbucks from an app on my phone, right? So why is there someone at a cash register who punches my order in to a machine when they've already got the software that would let me do it myself?

If tipping were banished and these businesses had to pay all of their staff a fair wage, it's likely that my total bill would go down.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by pkaye on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:28PM (#18242837)
Apparently it does make a difference or restaurants would have just raised their prices and incorporated the tips.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by ghaff on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:32PM (#18242868)
Path dependence. The problem is that, if just one restaurant does it, a lot of people see the higher prices and don't realize a service charge and sales tax is included at that one particular restaurant. It's not unheard of to do but it's very uncommon and mostly doesn't work out well. (Plus both waiters and customers are mostly just used to the current system.)
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by wool_gather on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @04:47PM (#18243650)
This is starting to happen, albeit slowly. It's tied in to a push to equalize income between the back and front of the house. In the currently-prevailing model, back of the house is totally screwed money-wise relative to the front.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by PurpleBoxDragon on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:47PM (#18243030)
>I don't go out as often.

At what point do we begin to consider that choice stiffing the waiters you would've tipped if you did go out?

P.S. I also avoid going to coffee shops where tipping is expected.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by gamblor956 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:53PM (#18242406)
In my neck of the woods, servers make $12/hour. Before tips, because LA no longer lets restaurants rely on tips for wages. (And that's increasing to $15/hour by 2020). So unless service is really good, I default to 10%.

And quite frankly, it's disgusting that the person who spends may 30 seconds providing service gets X% of the bill when 99% of the work is done in the kitchen by guys who don't get paid anything extra.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by i88y6 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:59PM (#18242493)
> it's disgusting that the person who spends may 30 seconds providing service gets X% of the bill

Yikes,wait till you find out how much the ACH and CC networks get for providing a fully automated service.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by gamblor956 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:11PM (#18242640)
ACH and CC networks shoulder the burden of maintaining the system, fraud checks, chargebacks, etc. They provide a convenience function that lets me avoid having to carry cash around everyone, and lets the vendor minimize their cash-related costs. It's all worth the 2-5% they charge (and if you're paying more than that you've got bad negotiating skills). Cash isn't cheap--after security-related expenses, it costs just as much if not more than accepting credit cards, but the expenses aren't as easily traced back to individual transactions.

A guy bringing me a plate someone else cooked has not earned 20% of the bill.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by i88y6 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:25PM (#18242799)
The merchant doesn't need "the system or fraud checks" to sell lattes. Furthermore they get hit with chargebacks, which are a feature offered by the CC, not the coffee shop. You're justying why business A shoulders business B's expense. That's like saying Visa should wipe down the espresso machine.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by tastyfreeze on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:13PM (#18242660)
As somebody from a state with a high minimum cash wage I am astounded that servers still expect 15-20% tip because of the cultural influence from states that have a cash wage set at federal minimum. I am curious how you feel about tipping 20% to a server you know is making $9-15/hr.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by PunchTornado on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:28PM (#18242066)
I didn't even know tipping at cafes was a thing. Don't they earn above minimum wage? I know waitresses get 2$/h, but baristas, they must get above 8$/h.

Do you also tip at McDonalds?

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by blacksmith_tb on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:50PM (#18243055)
I don't eat at McD's, but you general see that cafes have a tip jar at the register (not Starbucks, but your local coffee shop, that is), while chains of all sorts don't. Oddly this isn't because they pay their staff a fortune... (though as was pointed out earlier, perversely many states have laws which allow for paying below minimum wage for jobs with tips, so ultimately no one in food service can really win).
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by pkaye on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:25PM (#18242805)
Do you tip the workers at fast food chains?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by alan_wade on Thursday October 18, 2018 @02:11AM (#18246296)
Their employers are the ones who are screwing them if they dont pay them, why would I feel guilty for actions of another person?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by skrebbel on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:07PM (#18241779)
How is tipping at a sit down restaurant not a relic of slavery? The idea that restaurant personnel earn so little that they need to live on tips is barbarous.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by sillyquiet on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:09PM (#18241808)
Yet strangely, the loudest voices AGAINST doing away with tipping in favor of a wage are often wait staff themselves.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by acheron on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:14PM (#18241880)
That's because it would make it harder for them to continue committing tax fraud.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by dpiers on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:35PM (#18242179)
Part of it is the waitstaff avoiding tax on tips, the other part is that it allows the business to avoid payroll tax on the majority of waitstaff's earnings. In order to get a waiter to an effective $10/hr after-tax income you'd have to pay $15-16/hr versus $2+$8 in tips.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by beatgammit on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @10:32PM (#18245474)
That doesn't make any sense. Who's paying 37% taxes as a waiter/waitress? Even before Trump's tax cut, wait staff would still likely be in the 10-15% bracket, and you'd add on 12.5% FICA taxes. And this is after deductions, so effective tax rate will be much lower. Unless your state has 20+% income tax, there's no way a waitress is paying 35%.

Corporate taxes don't factor in either because they are only on profit over and above all expenses. Increasing wages of an employee and shifting payment from tips to w2 income merely ensures the employee pays the taxes they should've be paying in the first place and will not increase corporate taxes.

If wait staff shifted to higher wages, the employer would increase prices and could note on the menu that tipping is not necessary, but appreciated. If that was the case, I would still tip, but only for above average service.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by EpicEng on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:47PM (#18242332)
The vast majority of tips these days are paid via cc, so no, not it at all.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by i88y6 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:08PM (#18242601)
And it would dismantle the sexist construct that allows attractive women to claim disproportionately higher wages than men.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by mactrey on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:50PM (#18243057)
It's not really a sexist construct since an attractive man easily makes more in tips than an unattractive woman... It's more the societal construct that attractive = good, which is pernicious but quite deeply ingrained in human society.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by dragonwriter on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:29PM (#18242095)
There's a bit of survivorship bias; those who don't do well on tips don't last in tipped industries, both because tips are a big part of income and because tips are used as performance metrics.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by codemac on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:17PM (#18241912)
Have you ever worked at a restaurant or in a tipped position?

It constitutes a HUGE part of your take home pay for two reasons:

- If you are a waiter, tips will be multiples of your hourly pay.

- Tips will be under the table, saving you another ~25% easily.

So if you make a tipped hourly wage in Ohio:

- $4.15/hr * 7 hour shift (5pm open to 12pm close): 29.05

- Wait 6 tables, each with 3 seated parties, that tip you each $10: $60 * 3 = $120

Tips represent 4x of your salary. If your job gave you an untaxed 400% bonus at the end of every day, would you vote against it?

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by sureaboutthis on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:05PM (#18242569)
Thank you for showing that. Most people don't understand these things.

My son was a waiter and did very well for himself while in school. Far better than working in my fast food restaurant when he was younger and I paid more than minimum wage.

Given the choice, I had several staff quit on me because they got a waitressing job and getting tips to make more money was the reason. I had several waitresses tell me that was the reason they would not work for me.

My son always tips 20% or more, no matter the service, because he was a waiter once. I tell him he's foolish as I tip 15% for good service and adjust up/down accordingly.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by kazinator on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:37PM (#18242200)
> If your job gave you an untaxed 400% bonus at the end of every day, would you vote against it?

I'd be rather more worried about getting caught by the Canada Customs and Revenue Agency.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by awalton on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:57PM (#18242468)
If you're getting audited when you're working at or near the poverty line, the world's fucking broken. There are billionaires out there running around paying next to no taxes because they just don't feel like it and the IRS hardly ever shows up at their doors. They only like to stick it to the millionaires - especially celebrities and other "rags to riches" stories - since that "sends a message" to us work-a-day salaried folk not to get too shifty with the IRS.

If the IRS went on a crusade against underreported tips, there would be an absolute bloodbath in the poorer parts of this country, as tips easily represent more of their income than wages. Fortunately untaxed tips have dropped dramatically now that fewer and fewer people are using cash for transactions, so the IRS has had to take no such corrective actions.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by fireflash38 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:37PM (#18242198)
> - $4.15/hr * 7 hour shift (5pm open to 12pm close): 29.05

Shouldn't you compare to the minimum wage at least? Or you could compare to a standard wage similar to what would be paid in other countries.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by mikestew on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:46PM (#18242310)
Shouldn't you compare to the minimum wage at least?

Not in the state of Ohio, apparently. In many states, waitstaff can be paid below minimum wage, because tips!

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by MrEfficiency on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:26PM (#18242030)
This seems like such a non-issue, I'm not sure why articles are written about tipping.

Wait staff love tips because it gets them paid significantly more than if they worked a retail job.

After visiting Europe, tips are necessary for good service. The rudeness and lack of service was culture shock.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by eesmith on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:56PM (#18242448)
While my experience in Europe has been just fine, in Italy, Germany, and the UK. Though in the UK I was confused about the lack of service, until I realized that I needed to order at the bar.

There is a stereotype that blacks are worse tippers than whites. As https://www.ebony.com/news-views/are-black-people-really-bad... comments, it might be because blacks have "Insufficient education about tipping", or "a loop of circular behavior where Blacks have been traditionally discriminated against, Blacks expect to be treated poorly and treat servers with disdain, servers treat Black patrons with less care because they “know” Blacks tip poorly, and Blacks continue to tip poorly because they continue to get substandard service." (there are a couple of other proposed reasons).

See for example http://www.tippingresearch.com/uploads/JFSBR_race_revision_a... which includes the quote “I will not take Black tables unless I have no other option; call me racist, but I also walk out with more money than the people who end up with them.”

Yes, if you are a black American, you might get rudeness and lack of service in service in your own country - because wait staff think you won't tip well.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by em500 on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:52PM (#18242394)
Visit Japan next time and you'd conclude that tips are not necessary for good service after all.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by Symbiote on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @05:58PM (#18244230)
Appropriate behaviour of the waiter differs significantly in America compared to most of Europe.

Over here, more than a single interruption ("is everything OK?") is intrusive. Fake smiles and fake enthusiasm aren't desirable either.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by Xixi on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:24PM (#18242787)
Then go to Japan on your next trip, and you will realize that no, tips are not necessary at allow for excellent service. Not only that, but you will also realize that service in the United States is nothing to boast about.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by jaclaz on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:46PM (#18242306)
>After visiting Europe ...

All Europe was like this?

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by kentosi on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:57PM (#18242467)
Visit Australia. Tips are not expected and the service is excellent.
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by dijit on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:11PM (#18241831)
That’s a very U.S. thing though.

In most of the EU you tip for good service. IE; only if your food came in a timely fashion, was not mis-prepared or incorrect and if the wait-staff are generally being polite, kind, courteous.

The idea is that you’re rewarding good service, not that your bound by social convention to give a percentage extra on top of what was agreed upon when you read the menu.

While we’re on the subject, the idea of excluding tax on good until you reach checkout is absolutely insane to me.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by newguynewguy on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @03:25PM (#18242795)
I'm a manager in a US restaurant. I've run the numbers and, given the maximum price increases our market could bear, the upper 3/4ths of our wait staff would make ~$1-2 less an hour than they do now.

I was also a waiter in the restaurant. I hated the stress, but could find no jobs with comparable schedule flexibility/required qualifications that paid as well.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by jpfed on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:20PM (#18241959)
>We should really be pushing

But when pushing, it's worth it to be mindful of where you exert your force. The causal flow (from not tipping to wages being raised to the point where tipping is not necessary) is indirect enough that it is uncertain to effect the desired change. Might there be other paths to achieving this goal?

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by deelowe on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:18PM (#18241930)
What the heck does tipping have to do with slavery?
Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by kentosi on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:22PM (#18241988)
It originated from the emancipation of slaves, where restaurant owners didn't want to suddenly pay slaves, and so the onus went onto the customers.

There are articles on the internet. Just type in "tipping slavery" in google. The Time magazine's article should come up on the first page.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by MrEfficiency on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:40PM (#18242243)
Don't confuse slavery with the end of slavery.

These are different.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by ghrifter on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:06PM (#18241777)
> relic of slavery

... what?

Tipping was something that the patricians/bourgie upper class did to help uplift the waiters/service staff in Europe. It caught on in the USA in the late 1800s and fell out of favor from that upper class in Europe by then.

Largely, USA coopted a "noble gesture" from wealthy Europeans and it has persisted ever since for like a century.

Anyways, I hate tipping as well.

Re:You Want 20% for Handing Me a Muffin? The Awkward Etiquet... by smhenderson on Wednesday October 17, 2018 @02:21PM (#18241977)
I think the parent is referring to this [1] and other articles like it that have surfaced in recent years. I only recently read about it although I can't remember where at the moment. The linked article below is very similar though. It talks about a lot more than tipping in the US having roots tied to slavery but it's mentioned. This is just a snip out of the article, it's a long read but an interesting take on tipping in the US.

That's another wrinkle that many people don’t know about, right? Tipping in the United States actually dates back to slavery.

The origin of tipping is really the feudal system, it’s this idea of noblesse oblige. But when tipping came to the United States, it had a real racial tinge to it, because, originally, the workers who earned tips were almost exclusively black workers—they were newly freed slaves.

There was this massive anti-tipping movement to protest the practice, a resounding populist movement that actually got anti-tipping bills passed in six states across the country, including Washington state and many southern states. What’s interesting is that that movement, the anti-tipping populist one, ending up spreading to Europe and succeeding, because the labor movement picked it up and said ‘we are professionals, and we shouldn’t have to live on tips, because we should be paid by our employers.’ That’s why you see so little tipping in Europe. What we started here spread there and actually killed it at the origin in Europe.

We, on the other hand, went in the opposite direction in the states. The restaurant industry, which was hiring newly freed slaves as tipped workers, really wanted the right to hire these workers but pay them next to nothing. So they put forth this idea that they were valueless and really shouldn’t have to be paid by their employers. They essentially made the argument that newly freed slaves should get a zero dollar wage.

[1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/02/18/i-dar...