People love being bothered by strangers. Just try it. Make any half-funny observation about the world around you to a random stranger in the line, at the hairdresser... just not when they're actively doing something. Weather the surprise, repeat what you said if necessary, allow them to come up with a response. If they don't, follow through yourself.
At first it seems like you're a crazy person talking at others. But after a minute (though it'll feel like a little longer) most people will happily talk to you.
And don't think of it as "bothering". You're diverting your precious attention to them. The thing that every website and channel on the planet wants from you.
That used to be just normal, polite behaviour BTW.
You know? The ones who want to talk to you in elevators? Or just come and stand next your desk while you're trying to do work and talk? All socionormative, smile and handshake?
Maybe you should watch this: http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts....
Here's a thing: If I dont know you, and you want a conversation, catch my eye. If I smile, sure, lets chat.
If I look away, look at my phone, stare out the window.
dont talk to me
Your social obligation to engage is unwelcome
In all seriousness; you need to re-evaluate if you honestly believe "People love being bothered by strangers."
Some people may; many do not. You enjoy bothering strangers. There's a difference.
I really hope this "introvert fad" slows down soon. There's no need to be so radical, there's a spectrum of personality types. It's not black and white. I identify as an introvert. Social situations exhaust me, so I enjoy them sparingly.
If someone makes a funny comment to me in the elevator, I'll laugh and it's okay. I don't rant to him about my being a recluse.
So, for Facebook it doesn't matter. As they always do, first they create something that is seen as violating people's notion of privacy. Then they add some form of setting that allows the introverts and control-freaks like you and me that makes it enough for us to not abandon the site, but at the same time allows to still be users.
Also, there is something funny about how you mention not liking to be bothered by strangers in an Internet forum with 10^6 users, but I digress.
One fourth to a less than a half is not "vastly outnumbered".
PS Or even slightly more than a half: http://www.thoughtful-self-improvement.com/percentage-of-int...
Here's the cliff notes: “But in 1998, researchers were finally able to do what Isabel Briggs Myers could not: an actual population study. The study was based on a national representative sample – 3,009 randomly selected individuals – which, through weighting of underrepresented groups, was made to approximate the distribution of the 1990 U.S. Census. The findings were clear: introverts and extroverts are equally represented in the population.” (emphasis in original)
Yes - but if you watch very carefully you'll notice their eyes darting nervously about, trying to find the nearest exit, and a small frown appear as they attempt to calculate the whether staying in the line is worth it, and the likelihood of you attempting to sell them something or attempt violence if you make your excuses.
In other words - if some random guy starts talking to you in a line, you will tend to make small-talk in return. Whether you like it or not.
That's always nice, for everyone involved (or so I like to think).
.... Wait for it :)
Edit: I'll take your downvotes, but know that there's a joke there you're just not getting.
- the interaction is of a short, definite length. I will probably never see you again if I don't want to.
- the number of real-life encounters I can have in a day are limited by my location in space and time. it's fun to have that happen once a day; I imagine the joy wears off when it's happening 30 times.
Doesn't talk about FB, as it wasn't yet a dominant force yet.
You can also change your profile settings so you have to approve all posts you are tagged in before the tag can be viewed by the public. I've found this to work a lot better for me than untagging
Revisiting it just now, the options in that section of Privacy are now fairly byzantine, but I think I still have it locked down :-)
This is true, however the fact that you can search friends of friends means you can look for people you might want to get to know better, and get introduced via your mutual friend. Or be bold and just send them a friend request with a little note, etc.
A friend of a friend is less of a random person than the current facebook search which is actually random.
Obviously it will be abused by some, however I think it is a pretty big deal as a feature
Plus there was anybeat.com - which got shut down http://techcrunch.com/2012/05/09/anonymous-social-network-an...
Quite the opposite, in my opinion. People don't like being bothered by strangers on Facebook. It's weird and creepy, especially so when it's a guy contacting a girl. This could be seen as a disincentive to share if you don't want your face popping up on search results for people outside your immediate network.
It also makes friends who are ignorant or careless about privacy more of a liability. If they tag you in something that's set to 'public', that thing could now be seen by far more strangers far more frequently. There's no good solution to this: You can harrass your friends about their tagging habits, waste countless hours un-tagging yourself every month, or delete your profile altogether.
I could see it being useful if you could give it commands. Something like: "Invite all friends who like Game of Thrones to my Game of Thrones Event on Sunday at 8PM". Then again, that could just increase the amount of noise on Facebook and drive people away even faster.