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Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by steve_g on Thursday November 22, 2018 @07:20AM (#18509550)
I'm sorry that you're in pain.

If you are considering suicide, please don't do it. Many people want to help you.

If you're in the US, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255, 24/7. It probably works from outside the US too.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by tejohnso on Thursday November 22, 2018 @07:39AM (#18509625)
Does anybody else find this kind of response patronizing? The parent said nothing about being in pain. The parent posted a completely rational statement. Here someone comes along trying to sound as though there is some moral or intellectual superiority to the opposite action and that this person needs help of some kind.

Perhaps we would have more humane suicide options if society were to stop regarding suicide as some kind of dysfunctional behavior. There are plenty of rational reasons to commit suicide, and there are plenty of cases where not committing suicide seems rather irrational.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by brazzy on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:07AM (#18509752)
> Does anybody else find this kind of response patronizing?

No. "compassionate" is the description I would use.

> The parent said nothing about being in pain.

They repeatedly used the word "suffering".

> The parent posted a completely rational statement.

Not really, no.

> Here someone comes along trying to sound as though there is some moral or intellectual superiority to the opposite action

There is.

> and that this person needs help of some kind.

They do.

> Perhaps we would have more humane suicide options if society were to stop regarding suicide as some kind of dysfunctional behavior.

But in the majority of cases, it is a dysfunctional behavior.

> There are plenty of rational reasons to commit suicide,

Very few, really.

> and there are plenty of cases where not committing suicide seems rather irrational.

The absolute number may be large, but a tiny fraction of the number of people who consider suicide for irrational reasons.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by saurik on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:01PM (#18513642)
The comment did not feel even slightly "compassionate": it felt like a cold, dispassionate template, the kind of thing read off by someone who knew they should care but didn't _really_, followed by a phone number.

Part of what makes it so _not_ compasssionate is how "lazy" the thought is; FWIW, so far _no one_ in this discussion of this issue has mentioned the OP's website: there is essentially a suicide note on it right now, claiming they have already died. The attached blog is all about suicide, and goes into their issue.

They have a protected Twitter account, a deleted Facebook, apparently Google+ (is that still a thing?), LinkedIn, GitHub, and Instagram... I have sent a message via Instagram (but the account is empty, so maybe entirely unused and abandoned).

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by kwxza on Friday November 23, 2018 @12:20PM (#18517692)
Do you mean the website of Mikita Brottman, the author of the attached article? I viewed her website and I didn't see the suicide note. Can you link please?
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by saurik on Friday November 23, 2018 @08:57PM (#18519991)
No: the person whose comment started this thread, the comment with the suicidal fringe to it which caused someone else to leave the "call this hotline" comment which then led to the argument that led to my comment.

https://intralizee.com/

Note: the person did not respond to me on Instagram.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by tuesday20 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:28PM (#18513745)
Compassionate? It reads like an automated message that scans for suicide related words and posts a generic text with the hotline number.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by deytempo on Thursday November 22, 2018 @09:07AM (#18510042)
As you’ve already conceded that there are few but existing rational reasons to commit suicide, the next question is who gets to decide what reason is rational and what gives them the right to decide that for someone else?
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by Dylan16807 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:23AM (#18510867)
We could start with "Do at least 1/3 of the population think it's justified?" I believe that puts depression on the "no" side and painful terminal illness on the "yes" side with extremely large margins. Work from there to refine the criteria.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by brazzy on Thursday November 22, 2018 @09:28AM (#18510146)
That is indeed a difficult question. I doubt a perfect answer is possible. Existing suicide-assisting organizations e.g. in Switzerland typically rely on individual assessments based on extended dialogue with the person wishing assistance and their doctor.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by some_random on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:37AM (#18509899)
> Does anybody else find this kind of response patronizing?

Yes, though not at all for the reasons you stated. The canned suicide hotline/cheery bullshit/"you can talk to me if you're sad!1!" is absolutely awful, and not usually what a depressed person talking about their depression on the internet needs to hear. It shuts down the conversation in a way that no one can reasonably argue with, and gets the well meaning asshole who copy pasted a few phone numbers into a text box a bunch of internet points, and little else.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by c22 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @10:13AM (#18510412)
It's true that this sort of direct approach is likely ineffective for many depressed people, but it is also unlikely particularly detrimental.

As someone who has fixated on and attempted suicide in the past, I now feel like that decision would have been a grave mistake. So I am glad things like the Suicide Prevention Hotline exist and are advertised by smug internet assholes because I think they do help some of the people who may be blundering into a bad decision.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by kazagistar on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:23AM (#18510865)
I've heard horror stories. Hotlines being required by the US to call emergency services on mention of suicide, which leads to forceful loss of freedom and medical and ambulance bills that put the caller in a spiral of debt.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by tuesday20 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:31PM (#18513750)
which leads to forceful loss of freedom and medical and ambulance bills that put the caller in a spiral of debt.

This is beyond disgusting. Who comes up with these stupid laws? Take freedom and money from someone already depressed? WTF

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by alan_wade on Thursday November 22, 2018 @10:50AM (#18510645)
What is the best way to respond/try to help?
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by fernandopj on Thursday November 22, 2018 @08:10AM (#18509762)
I honestly don't see it. From where I stand, he's trying to provide useful information to someone who one can (very reasonably) assume might be of help. First sentence doesn't have to be correct, but can't hurt to empathize first.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by thrower123 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:53AM (#18511051)
Spot on. I don't believe anyone who claims not to have contemplated suicide; it's everpresent in the news and entertainment. It always has been, too. If anything, not having thought through some of those eventualities is short-sighted.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by kazagistar on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:19AM (#18510836)
What exactly does a suicide hotline do? Call the ambulance the moment you mention suicide and charge you for it?
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by thomasfedb on Thursday November 22, 2018 @12:34PM (#18511279)
Mostly they listen and try to provide an outlet, offer coping skills, suggest places to turn for help.

And yes, some services will call an ambulance if they think you're in imminent danger. Others don't.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by shrimpx on Thursday November 22, 2018 @02:13PM (#18511891)
And what if your comment has the opposite effect, motivating people toward suicide?
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by fouc on Thursday November 22, 2018 @10:32AM (#18510537)
What's the option for people that dislike talking on the phone or are deaf?

Seems like a growing minority of people these days might prefer a chat app over a phone call.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by evan_ on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:08AM (#18510756)
The Suicide Prevention Helpline has a TTY number: 1-800-799-4TTY

There’s also a chat on their website: http://chat.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineCh...

There’s more info about it here: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/faq/

I found a number of suicide prevention text numbers but I can’t vouch for any.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by xfitm3 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:26AM (#18510893)
This comment is a negative contribution to the discussion.
Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by clubm8 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:41AM (#18510983)
> This comment is a negative contribution to the discussion.

You think giving parent resources for help is "a negative contribution to the discussion"? Wow. Don't let your clinical word choice fool you, that's an incredibly toxic response.

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by Dylan16807 on Thursday November 22, 2018 @11:58PM (#18514455)
> giving parent resources

While xfitm3 was being rude, do you honestly think the OP was unaware of suicide hotlines?

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by clubm8 on Friday November 23, 2018 @11:16AM (#18517269)
>While xfitm3 was being rude, do you honestly think the OP was unaware of suicide hotlines?

Do you think the parent was informing of their existence, or reminding a poster who may need a nudge in stressed state of mind?

Re:The Ripple Effect of Death in a Hotel by Dylan16807 on Friday November 23, 2018 @02:27PM (#18518404)
It seemed like a nudge to me. Which in a context like this is not so obviously beneficial as giving resources.