But I forget about the time to find my always-lost cell phone, the time to ride the elevator - basically everything except the actual time on the road/bus/etc... 30 minutes being that magical time every light was green and everything went perfectly, etc.
This impacts all areas of my life. It's a reason I'm reluctant to carpool or take caltrain, heck, I'm always late to my Therapist... and I pay a lot for that.
Point is that I really try to avoid things where I have to be EXACTLY ON TIME.
For instance, if I'm going to a theater show, I'll plan to meet my friends for dinner beforehand. I might not be able to eat (they will), but at least I'll make the show on time.
Incidentally "I'll plan to be 30 minutes early, so I won't stress the entire time"... doesn't work somehow.
Leaving it for a permanent record of my crankiness. Sigh, I may be getting old...
That's just her situation, but I think there's generally something larger at play. Something more like people feeling the need to squeeze the most time out of whatever they're doing right now, even knowing in the back of their mind that they're stealing from the next thing. I think it takes a certain amount of unnatural discipline to think of the current thing and the next thing as time-equal.
Other random crap often does.
I didn't mean to imply it's a magic cure-all, just that it's a pre-shared context that makes it easy to make those decisions.
Or maybe I'm just getting old and cranky.
Does that count?
What I think is worse than being late are thr monsters that show up on time to a party. Like wtf who does that.
I think living in Finland has conditioned this type of attitude of not being too early(for fear of wasting time waiting) or too late (fear of being rude). One thing that helps significantly is to know travel times(by bus,car, etc) and allocate rough estimate to them. Luckily most Euro countries have good public transport to make planning ahead less stressful.
This is really really not true for parties. The polite thing to do for a party, as long as it is not a dinner party, is to be at least 1 hour late. Nobody expects guests earlier than that. It’s the unspoken rule.
For dinner parties the usual 15 minutes late is on time.
I'm old and cranky too.
This is funny to read in a forum of software developers :)
Come on, in your own example you provide a white lie to the person and tell them it'll be 30 mins, when you know that it could likely be longer. Why not just say you're running an hour late instead?
I suffer from this myself, so don't feel like I'm picking on you, but I realized a long time ago that it's just me being dishonest with myself and others, and I should cut it out.