People deep cleaned their houses for parties long before social media and smartphones came along.

Only if they were rich or OCD. Plenty of parties were thrown with little prep when there weren't insta/tok/snaps showing off perfection 24/7.

> Only if they were rich or OCD

Incorrect.

Yea only the rich people clean their house lol.

Not what I said. IME, the only people who "deep clean" before every party are either rich or are obsessed with cleanliness.

I go through this with my wife for every party we throw. She wants the house cleaned, table set, food spread ready, seasonal cocktails mixed, furniture moved around, decorations just so, etc.

I’m like here’s a giant thing of ice cold booze have fun.

I know this struggle, and the best I've been able to do is to push every time for limited scope. Let's just get pizzas instead of cooking 3 different mains and having a cheese plate, 4 bowls of chips, etc. Social media has really done a number on people (see also those omnipresent balloon arches)

Cleaning your house before a party is a reasonable ask.

It reallllllly depends on how dirty the place is

Why clean it thoroughly both before and after a big party? Why not just after?