we treat each other like shit and we deserve to go extinct.

You're going to burn out very quickly if this is the level of attention and engagement you desire in the world of the internet.

And it's clear that the people, as they really are, are all despicable and horrible inside.

thanks for the pep talk, coach, but you're not my coach and i didn't ask for any coaching. i know what i'm dealing with. i've probably been on the internet longer than you've been alive, so i've watched the internet go from a fairly healthy place to just pile after pile of shit everywhere people interact with each other online. i've watched more and more people show up solely so they can be themselves, and more and more places appear solely for people to be unreastrainable asses to each other.

There is no humor allowed on this platform; real life is much more colorful and fun.

if you think making fun of people is colorful and fun you are again making my point for me better than i ever could. please continue.

This is why men don't want women in their spaces.

-I don't know Jenny, I kinda wish you didn't have one at all

The large majority of humans adapt our language to the context and the audience every time we open our mouths or put our hands on the keyboard. I’d like the author to do a little more of that.

Let’s assume those studies are off by an order of magnitude and it’s only 1% of men who feel insecure about their penis. In the US, that’s still 1.7 million men.

If I had to choose between vulgar jokes and two million people having a better relationship with their bodies, I know where my priorities lie.

[1]: https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-qa/what-percentage-of-me...

Men are routinely shamed for their bodies, especially penis size, and I think it makes their lives worse. So I’d like people to stop doing it.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

I personally found that venting about it did achieve something — disagreeing with folks in the comments prompted me to look up concrete numbers on how many men are likely to experience shame around their penis size.

I also think it helps nudge social norms towards making that kind of language less acceptable (both here on HN and elsewhere), and in a best case may have prompted some folks to reflect on how they speak and write.

Is that speculative benefit worth the conflict it created? I think so — when managed appropriately, conflict is a normal and healthy part of most human relationships. And IMO the wellbeing of ~2 million men is worth stirring the pot a little.

But you might disagree and you're the mod, so for better or worse your opinion is the one that matters here.