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Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by lynndotpy on Thursday June 13, 2024 @05:22PM (#40674932)
My social life suffered greatly being one of the only kids in my highschool without a cellphone. This was the early 2010s in the United States.

Imagine being a teenager and trying to include someone lacking a cellphone to your social group. It adds a huge amount of friction.

Including someone without a cellphone means you give up the ability to be spontaneous (assuming the kid needs to adhere to an agreed-upon schedule to be picked up by a parent), and trivial things become a literal telephone-game ordeal.

It also means almost invariably that the kid is relying on a friend's phone to communicate parents / a ride, unless that kid is so privileged as to own their own car.

Could you imagine if every time you hung out with a friend, they asked to borrow your phone, open Facebook Messenger (or whatever sensitive messaging app you use), and to contact a parent?

It also means the kid isn't included in group chats, which means they just aren't part of conversations other kids are having. You can't have a rich social life with someone you can only talk to in classes you share and for 20 minutes during lunch break.

The "green bubble" phenomenon is bad enough as it is. I don't like it, but for all practical reasons, owning a cellphone is necessary for a kids social life in the United States.

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by euroderf on Thursday June 13, 2024 @05:49PM (#40675219)
> Could you imagine if every time you hung out with a friend, they asked to borrow your phone, open Facebook Messenger (or whatever sensitive messaging app you use), and to contact a parent?

What if the parent could handle such eventualities - based on trust in the child - with no freaking out ?

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by lynndotpy on Thursday June 13, 2024 @08:44PM (#40676452)
I'm not sure what you mean.

The point of this quotation is that a cell phone is a very personal thing. It's anxiety inducing and burdensome to hand over your cellphone to someone.

And that's not the mention the power dynamic between the kids with the cellphone and the kid without.

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by euroderf on Friday June 14, 2024 @02:01AM (#40677942)
Sorry for ambiguity. What I meant is, what if the parent trusts the kid to do the right thing, and so the kid does not have to call in to the parent for an okay to hang out with a friend ?

This kind of independence might be a social plus for a kid. Something like "I don't need a phone cos I can go where I want until dinnertime". No helicopter parenting.

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by lynndotpy on Friday June 14, 2024 @11:50AM (#40681926)
This only works if the kid lives somewhere with robust public transportation between their and their friends houses, or if they own their own vehicle.

Assuming neither, they're probably getting picked up and dropped off by a parent or other family member, with dropoff/pickup schedules arranged in advance.

It's less, "I don't need a phone cos I can go where I want until dinnertime," and more, "My mom will be driving 25 minutes to pick me up at 4PM, and my friends spontaneously decided to go bowling. I can only ask her when she gets here, but that would mean she needs to drive another hour and fifteen minutes."

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by ruszki on Friday June 14, 2024 @02:39AM (#40678125)
It sounds bad for me to be anxious, when friends use each other’s phones. Why should I be anxious?
Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by lynndotpy on Friday June 14, 2024 @11:51AM (#40681932)
It is common for people including teenagers to use phones for personal and private things, like internet searches and private messages to other friends.
Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by antifa on Friday June 14, 2024 @12:53PM (#40682454)
I can imagine someone who doesn't have their own phone being clumsy (or careless) and accidently dropping it and breaking the screen.
Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by hot_gril on Thursday June 13, 2024 @05:27PM (#40674986)
I agree that a cellphone for call/text only is important. I had one too. If you need blue bubbles nowadays, fine, handmedown iPhone with parental controls will do that.
Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by olddustytrail on Thursday June 13, 2024 @05:56PM (#40675290)
What an appalling, broken social life you want to condemn children to.

I grew up before smartphones and I spoke to people around my own age. I arranged my own travel without parents checking in on me. Bullying assholes didn't need groups to amplify their message which was a good thing.

How are things better now exactly?

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by lynndotpy on Thursday June 13, 2024 @08:43PM (#40676443)
Good for you.

I'm describing how things are, not how I want things to be.

Re:Taking away iPhone made daughter a better person by WheatMillington on Thursday June 13, 2024 @11:12PM (#40677196)
OP's comment has nothing to do with what he "wants" for his kids.