Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by distant_hat on Thursday August 03, 2023 @06:24PM
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Knowing many women who had north of 50-100 partners, 'extra special' certainly isn't the case. Usually they are settling down because no one wants to stick with them and you are likely to be the next one who will abandon them. If this logic made sense, sex workers would be the most sought after partners.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by quotz on Friday August 04, 2023 @05:02AM
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I know a few girls who had more than 50 partners and they are all basically girls you would not even consider for a one night stand, let alone date.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by heattemp99 on Thursday August 03, 2023 @06:33PM
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They did not "choose you". They could not get any of the others to commit.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by Cthulhu_ on Friday August 04, 2023 @04:36AM
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That's... really making a lot of assumptions. What do you mean by "get any of the others to commit"? That's saying the woman in question had to apply force, and that it was ultimately the other's fault they didn't settle.
I can go on, but, it sounds like you and many others in this subthread have some really weird and ingrained manosphere-sounding ideas about women and relationships.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by fakedang on Friday August 04, 2023 @05:01AM
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It just means that you were the easiest one she could settle with, and likewise who chose to settle down with her.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by Levitz on Friday August 04, 2023 @09:27AM
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Let's cut it 50/50, let's say she has broken up in 11 occasions. Does it really make sense for you to consider that she has a good eye for compatibility? To trust her judgement that she will stay with you?
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by drekipus on Friday August 04, 2023 @03:35AM
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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by kaba0 on Friday August 04, 2023 @06:11AM
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If there were 23 relationships that is indeed a red flag. But casual sex is not a relationship, no sin and no one should be condemned for that.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by Levitz on Friday August 04, 2023 @09:23AM
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This points to another worrying trend I've seen among teenagers and 20-something people. I've often seen them commenting how they have had absolutely ridiculous amounts of relationships, like a 24 year old saying she has had 11 boyfriends.
It's like casual sex has become to prevalent that they think that's what a stable relationship is. I can't really fathom the logic.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by kaba0 on Friday August 04, 2023 @10:48AM
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You are extrapolating way too much from your limited data — in fact, younger generations have less sex than those before, as per a study linked in this thread.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by wiseowise on Friday August 04, 2023 @03:41AM
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> When your partner has had many previous partners, it means that you are extra special, because even after all that prior experience, they choose you!
…that’s not how it works.
Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny
by wruza on Friday August 04, 2023 @07:28AM
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A popular statistical advice is to meet N people (30..100), determine the level of “bestness” (ignoring extraordinary anomalies) and then to continue until you find something like that again. Calculating chances of being that last person is left as an exercise to the reader.
And about longevity, if you ask me, the most important factors for a solid relationship are:
1. Being completely comfortable around each other. No grudges. Being able to talk about anything, even if you don't always agree.
2. (related to #1) Having a mechanism for resolving conflict. Avoiding things like the silent treatment.