It's startling how much self awareness it's possible to have.

You really, really need to review this HN guideline from https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html:

    Be kind. Don't be snarky.

That should extend also to people not present in the discussion, which parent poster absolutely fails to fulfill.

Ow! Not arguing with you, but would like a few links to where I messed up.

And that's... fine? As in, if you're done with it, you can choose not to play. Stay single if it makes you happier. Just don't shift blame to others, they have their own life and choices that are completely out of your hands and concern.

he didn't say he is single or planning to stay single forever. He might as well dating someone younger. For woman its generally:

- harder to date someone younger

- it's harder to date when you are 35+ (smaller pool of single people) but even harder for woman (because guys take bigger importance into how someone look and because of woman biological clock)

- when someone is divorced with kid (even when young) is hard to date for anyone but for woman even more difficult