Because one of the meaningful, intimate, things someone can give you was given up 23 times in a row. You're not special and that has an effect on one's psyche. You can certainly enjoy a person's company but you will never be able to connect to them on anything more than a surface level. If a person puts themselves in a very vulnerable position with numerous people it speaks volumes about their ability to maintain relationships and assess risk. Even without getting into the spirtuality of it the person is likely damaged goods. This goes equally for both genders - by the way.

Divorce rates correlate strongly with previous partner count. It's easy to find a meaningful relationship. It's hard to find a relationship where you're not going to be compared to 23 other men (or women). At 30+ you're also dealing with potential kids from the other person which in the case of fathers is a minefield should you stick around long enough to become "defacto" dad in the eye of the court.

Sometimes HN has some serious Incel shit posts, one has to admit...

I didn't say I had trouble finding a meaningful relationship. I said I'm having trouble finding meaning in dating 38 year old women.

It's startling how much self awareness it's possible to have.

You really, really need to review this HN guideline from https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html:

    Be kind. Don't be snarky.

That should extend also to people not present in the discussion, which parent poster absolutely fails to fulfill.

Ow! Not arguing with you, but would like a few links to where I messed up.

And that's... fine? As in, if you're done with it, you can choose not to play. Stay single if it makes you happier. Just don't shift blame to others, they have their own life and choices that are completely out of your hands and concern.

he didn't say he is single or planning to stay single forever. He might as well dating someone younger. For woman its generally:

- harder to date someone younger

- it's harder to date when you are 35+ (smaller pool of single people) but even harder for woman (because guys take bigger importance into how someone look and because of woman biological clock)

- when someone is divorced with kid (even when young) is hard to date for anyone but for woman even more difficult

These comments of yours help no one, especially yourself.