In a bad marriage, you can feel more lonely than the most single person in the world.

In a big family, or in a suffocating relationship, you can dream to be alone because you need me-time to recharge the batteries, especially if you're an introvert.

It's true that humans do better in relationships that alone, but taking on long drives by yourself can be better than seeing a psychologist; reference: I rode motorcycles for 15+ years, and I've travelled the world. I miss it dearly. There is something to be said about experiencing the world for yourself and without sharing it.

If you wouldn't mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.

(1) that there’s surveillance—whether based on username or vocabulary or ip address or a combination of them and more, we can’t tell.

(2) that calling out weak and unsound argument that is net negative information by way ad hominem—an accepted usage of ad hominem—is contra hacker news. it has resulted in the many and nonsensical comments.

(3) that dang goes hunting for people like me, politely threatening them with a ban if they don’t make quick adjustments to fit the culture. And what’s the culture? Don’t call out people for poorly thought-out argument, nor for potentially disparaging comments about whole groups of people.

If your intent is to do something nobler than that, great - but the rest of us don't have access to your intent, so the burden is on you to disambiguate it: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que....

i was going to say that scolding is what abusive adults do to helpless kids when they assume that kids can’t be reasoned with. so good thing you realized and took it out. just as you hope that i don’t call anyone stupid so i hope you don’t scold any of hacker news’ patrons anymore :)

take care and have a nice day!

I use the word 'scolding' quite a bit: https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que..., so it's not as if I was trying to hide any tracks there! But I don't use it in the spirit you're describing. I guess I use it to slightly mock the process, including my part in it. This whole internet forum thing is mostly trivial and largely ridiculous.

- "don't write about him, don't try to describe him, just watch him."

replace "him" and substitute with something you enjoy.

Then there are people that thoroughly enjoy being by themselves. It doesn't mean that they don't ever need company, just a lot of the time they feel a bliss being by themselves doing their own business. There is no overlap with that feeling and loneliness.

now, being alone (stationary) isn't the same as doing an activity alone. you seem to conflate the two. if you think traveling solo is fun, well you're being sold bullshit at best, worst you're acquiescing to a terrible experience and trying to find joy in it. like a prisoner-author talking about the joys of being locked up because it afforded them the necessary solitude to contemplate.

Maybe, just maybe, people experience things differently than you, ever thought about that?

And even if it would be about loneliness, there's nothing wrong in connecting with people over internet.

I do think everyone should travel alone at least once. I allows you to discover yourself.