Re:How can I get my boyfriend to stop digging his tunnel?
by cm2012 on Wednesday April 20, 2022 @11:19AM
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He shouldn't stop digging his tunnel but it sounds like he should spend less time on it if he wants to keep a healthy relationship with his girlfriend. That would be true no matter what his hobby was.
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Re:How can I get my boyfriend to stop digging his tunnel?
by lazide on Wednesday April 20, 2022 @11:25AM
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Sometimes these kinds of hobbies/pastimes pop up because of unresolved relationship issues or personal issues brought up by the relationship.
It wouldn’t surprise me if he does the tunnel so he doesn’t spend so much time with her, but can’t say it or manage whatever is going on with him.
Random armchair psychologist from afar of course.
Re:How can I get my boyfriend to stop digging his tunnel?
by jacquesm on Wednesday April 20, 2022 @11:31AM
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That may be cause and effect switched. People can do pretty weird things.
Re:How can I get my boyfriend to stop digging his tunnel?
by etiam on Wednesday April 20, 2022 @11:38AM
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Considering her attitude towards it, maybe it's a secondary gain to be putting some natural limitations on time spent with girlfriend.
Re:How can I get my boyfriend to stop digging his tunnel?
by diputsmonro on Wednesday April 20, 2022 @11:56AM
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Why are you jumping to judge her? Is totally reasonable for someone in a relationship to want to spend time with their partner, and be upset if they literally never get to. What's even the point of a relationship if there's no companionship?