Before you stalk someone who you desperately love but he doesn’t love you back, remember just one thing. You are wasting your precious time and energy. Use your efforts to make yourself better. Love is not about being desperate. You need to accept the fact and take time for yourself to grieve the pain that it’s over and work on your own happiness. Let [name redacted] go, and focus on building up yourself instead of tearing [name redacted] down because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself, you will never leave you. And you can’t love anyone until you love yourself. Work on own your emotional health. Your behavior is not healthy and not something anyone, your parents, your employer, God, would be proud of. Examine your own self and how you can be a better person. Your vendetta helps nobody. YOu're not protecting women from [name redacted]. You're only trying to ruin him because he hurt you and didn't love you back the way you loved him. And you're actually just "humble bragging" about how you dated a successful guy who had remote interest in you for 2-3 months, then dumped you. You're youngWould you be on this vindictive rampage and bragging all over the internet if it was someone not semi-famous? Who are you really trying to protect? Your story is your story and your own lesson you need to learn. Stay out of mine. Move on, find a new relationship, and find a man who reciprocates the love you seek.
[name redacted] stalked me for weeks at my home while having me blocked which prompted me to reach out again from a different number.
He clearly did not want me to move on and sent several messages stating he was in love with me but needed me to “change.”
That change was accepting verbal, emotional abuse, infidelity, and sexual assault as well as giving up all my hobbies and friendships.
The abuse was so brutal, I could not believe someone that said they loved me so profoundly would do those things to me.
Perhaps he’s found someone that’s willing to accept abuse, but that’s not what the law says.
1. You got paid a bunch of money to drop the charges and "revise" your story, which potentially was your plan from the get-go
2. The story was never true in the first place, you just wanted to ride the cancel culture train and get back at him for hurting you in some way.
Whichever it is, it's really sad to see these things. People like you are exactly why I keep a low profile and don't have any online identities.
[name redacted] had an intense focus on love and being loved when it came to control.
He asked me to marry him after only knowing him a month, which I declined. We hadn’t even slept together at that point.
According to his own account, the “love” he shoved down my throat so hard was so he could sleep with me, which I have several texts that show his own admissions.
Also I’m a bit taken aback at the ethnic slur in the username of this account.
[name redacted] stalked me for weeks at my home while having me blocked which prompted me to reach out again. He clearly did not want me to move on and sent several messages stating he was in love with me but needed me to “change.”
That change was accepting verbal, emotional abuse, infidelity, and sexual assault as well as giving up all my hobbies and friendships.
The abuse was so brutal, I could not believe someone that said they loved me so profoundly would do those things to me.
Perhaps he’s found someone that’s willing to accept abuse, but that’s not what the law says.
Do not contact me.
I do not wish for you to communicate with me further.
It’s called documenting and understanding the facts.
I’m not interested in mental health advice from a DV apologist that can’t get the facts straight or count.
I hesitate to say this because I know nothing about the situation, and intervening as a moderator in any way is likely to lead to accusations of taking a side, which is not my intention. But posting things like "you are a vindictive psycho b8tch" and "crazy evil person" and so on (and there have been a lot of these) is definitely not ok in HN threads.
I'm going to shut this thread down now, for reasons explained here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29847546.
The worst part is the ugly truth of how easy it is to get away with violence against women.
[name redacted] unblocked me and tried to convince me to have sex with him again. He's the one that reinitiated contact.
I thought staying in contact would ultimately result in the apology I deserve, but resulted in him trying to convince me to commit suicide.
And that was not a therapeutic relationship – I asked him to mediate Alex understanding the harm he had done to me. And this was after Alex reached out to me again months later.
I had not contacted Alex in two weeks and had no intention of ever contacting him again when he reached out and asked me for casual sex.
Please do not spur on rumors and conspiracy theories, and use my case as your own vendetta, [name redacted]. You have defamed [name redacted] all over the internet, posting every 15 minutes, contacting his employer, coworkers, family, and friends. This is not sane. [name redacted] has a big heart, is so incredibly caring, fun, open-minded, and has invented numerous revolutionary programs to change the world and help others, which I imagine are reasons why [name redacted], you loved him, too.
I saw your messages begging [name redacted] to come back to you and that you loved him… Please, for your own sake, see a counselor and learn to move on, heal, and find someone who loves you the way you deserve and want to be loved.