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Hey, the admins are being biased in my thread. They allowed a user to hijack the thread accusing me of being a liar. The thread has lost all of the original context and chocked the thread.

They've also been extremely biased in the number of supportive comments they've deleted as well as allowing comments that are personal attacks and name calling in violation of HackerNews rules claiming "fairness."

Please support me in asking them to remove the entire thread if they can't apply the rules equally. [email protected]

In addition to the bias of allowing Alex to go by his legal name to avoid being identified after providing extensive documentation of Alex being his preferred name.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29816098#29847333 Please refer back here and notice the bias that the thread has taken against me as a sexual assault victim.

The thread has been hijacked with gaslighting and victim blaming, name calling, and unsubstantiated claims including unknowable thoughts on me. Please contact [email protected] to support removing this thread if they admins can't apply policy in an unbiased way.

The entire have become a tirade that calls into question whether I was assaulted or not. The entire thread has hijacked with someone accusing me of still wanted to be with someone that tried to get me to kill myself and sexually assaulted me.

The person waiting and flooded the comments days after to rank their posts higher, increases the likelihood that this is the tirade of someone accused of domestic violence by two sources.

The thread's topic is completely changed by the flood of comments and I insist that it be removed entirely if you are not going to remove enough comments to reduce the thread hijack.

Testimonial hearsay, such as depositions to the police, is evidence. You have no idea what you are talking about. Stop mansplaining

The news generally covers criminal arrests trials, which this trial has not been dropped and is actively in progress.

It takes a long time to recover from abuse and assault.

It’s awful.

The worst part is the ugly truth of how easy it is to get away with violence against women.

Alex sold me the same story of “working on love” when he wanted to control me. This is not an uncommon theme amongst abusers.

Alex often spoke of this pure unattainable love that we had, but claimed it never existed once he realized he would never be able to control me to his liking.

My love life prior to Alex is none of your business and has no bearing on this situation and I can hear Alex’s own words echoed in your speech, which highly suspect is actually Alex.

I was in my 30s and so was Alex when we were dating.

I've been in significantly longer relationships than 2 years.

It doesn't take 2 years to know what he did to me was assault and abuse.

2 years ago.

That therapist disappointed me in how they handled the situation, but I did not lie and genuinely made an effort.

And that was not a therapeutic relationship – I asked him to mediate Alex understanding the harm he had done to me. And this was after Alex reached out to me again months later.

I had not contacted Alex in two weeks and had no intention of ever contacting him again when he reached out and asked me for casual sex.

There's literally another random person I've never even talked to on this thread saying that he had troubling relationships.

I've spoken to many people that say the same thing.

Yeah, Alex promised me a lot of stuff. A big house, that I repeatedly said I didn't want, kids, connections.

A lot of that same stuff got turned into threats eventually.

Alex requested the sex. He specifically reached out to ask me to have sex with him.

Alex assaulted me.

If you are even really her...

Why did you accuse him of strangling you again on Twitter on October 14, 2021 a full 52 days after the incident then?

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1A4SUnQG9_f8JE5glOq9bA2DTOcb...

That's what I would have expected, but they did not do that to my knowledge.

Reach out on Keybase if you can. I'd like to know more.

To say the implication is he killed her is misleading, but does show the severity of the crime that she could have died.

No, it's a danger because a person that commits violence against women is engaging in misogynistic behavior and can't be trusted to treat female subordinates and colleagues fairly.

Furthermore, Alex was reported to Github HR by multiple people for verbal abuse and nothing was done about it under Nat Friedman's leadership.

A deposition to the police is not hearsay, it's evidence.

If you're going to play armchair lawyer, get the facts straight.

The third person was the police officer that was called to the scene and took a statement from the victim. That's how police reports are written.

Adding another public record verifying that the police report. https://www.austintexas.gov/police/reports/search2.cfm?choic...

When I spoke to Miguel, he said both Alex and Nat were "assholes when they were drunk."

He also said that Nat had "Hurt him deeply" and they don't talk much anymore. From what I can tell Miguel stayed friends with Alex and congratulated him on the launch of Copilot even knowing about the abuse that happened to me in greater detail than I had shared publicly.

It's literally a 3rd degree felony in the state of Texas.

Texas Penal Code Sec. 38.05 Hindering Apprehension or Prosecution (a) A person commits an offense if, with intent to hinder the arrest, prosecution, conviction, or punishment of another for an offense or, with intent to hinder the arrest, detention, adjudication, or disposition of a child for engaging in delinquent conduct that violates a penal law of the state, or with intent to hinder the arrest of another under the authority of a warrant or capias, he: (1) harbors or conceals the other; (2) provides or aids in providing the other with any means of avoiding arrest or effecting escape; or (3) warns the other of impending discovery or apprehension.

https://texas.public.law/statutes/tex._penal_code_section_38...

McClane et al [6] report that 50% of victims surviving strangulation had no visible neck signs and 35% had minor injuries. ...

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/10695143_Strangulat...

I wish it wasn't true. Thank you for the apology.

"employees may be eligible for time off work or other accommodation to manage medical issues and other negative consequences arising from domestic violence."

It doesn't specify the time off and accommodations are just for victims.

This assault charge has nothing to do with me. Me reporting the facts doesn't change that.

His parents were Christians before converting to Hare Krishna. Alex described it as a cult.

I got this directly from the interim head of HR at Github, Jeanine Abramson via email.

If it's not what it says, then I've been misled by leadership at Github.