Or find a friend(or GF) that values you more than chat features...would be my vote.

This right here. Additionally If you’re serious about making a life with someone it’s much easier when you have things like shared calendars, shopping lists, etc. There are many ways to do this but iCloud is easy and the aforementioned features are free.

Just in case OP is susceptible to peer pressure, I want to offer that if you really love her, it’s OK if you have different operating systems on your phones.

Haha yeah I couldn't care less, I just thought it was a funny anecdote and it's probably not entirely just because of the color, that's just what she said when I asked her about it a couple years ago. And excluding me from the group chats and having her relay everything to/from me is probably for the best anyways, I'm terrible at checking my texts and my friend/family know the fastest way to get a hold of me if Im not replying is to text her instead :p.

It's really absurd that this has to be stated in writing! If a "friend" would cut you out of a portion of their life because of something as trivial as what smartphone messaging platform you use, well, I have some bad news for you...

Shared calendars are a thing with Google and sync with any device, desktops included. Shopping lists are shared on Amazon and most grocery store apps.

They're also cumbersome.

In what way? o-O

Google Calendars has sub-par iCal/vCal support, and will omit calendar entry information (or entire entries) sometimes.

It deals with sharing pretty well when both parties have Google Calendar accounts.

The same goes for Google - you can share Keep lists and Google Calendars, all for free and easy.

I wouldn't want to pay money to the party that created the problem in the first place.

Don’t have to. Just buy second hand.

Or find another girlfriend..

Buying an iPhone sounds easier. But agree not exactly a good sign if they care about messages being green.

That being said, I've had multiple tinder dates mention they don't go out with guys that have green messages since it's an indication that they are poor.

I think the status thing with IPhone is a big thing. The extend and embrace with IPhone and iMessage and SMS is almost like Microsoft did it. Wonder why Android not did the same thing?

Google made Hangouts the default SMS client for several years and there were obvious benefits to sending Hangouts rather than SMS messages with it. Few people did.

I don't think she cares about the messages being green or any status implications that are attached to this color. However from what I understand iMessage groups basically break when there's a non-iOS device involved and suddenly everything reverts back to SMS/MMS, which sounds awful.

In other countries we use cross platform messengers like Whatsapp to avoid that. Of course that brings a whole other problem set with it but that's a different discussion.

That filter works both ways. Who wants someone that shallow?

Let’s be charitable and assume they meant that they are poor at picking a quality smartphone.