Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by 0des on Sunday December 12, 2021 @04:07AM
(#29528151)
I'm not saying ditch the list, I'm saying tuck it in your coat pocket and keep your eyes open. The person you end up with likely be more fantastic than your expectations, while not fitting the profile 100%. Imagine if after spawning a fruitful relationship the person finds this list, then what? It's possible that they'll dwell on these perceived shortcomings and feel inadequate, it could curtail the potential of your experiences together.
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by kolinko on Sunday December 12, 2021 @04:03AM
(#29528133)
Wonderfully rational approach and a profile!
One thing that makes me wonder - if the author is on ASD spectrum (considering such an emphasis on rationaloty), this approach may find him a partner on the spectrum as well - which is good for a relationship, but risky in terms of children genetics (children with compounded ASD traits).
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by Mati_Roy on Sunday December 12, 2021 @07:37PM
(#29535270)
Thanks for your input; this is a good remark!
Based on people that know me very well and have some education about ASD (and I agree with them), my ASD-like behaviors are intentionally developped, and not caused by ASD. Of course, it still remains that I have personality traits that predispose me to such behaviors, such as being highly analytical.
I don't mind whether my partner is on the ASD spectrum or not.
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by Mati_Roy on Sunday December 12, 2021 @07:43PM
(#29535304)
Thanks!
Re 2nd statement, this is a true, but it fulfils the wrong goal and has a wrong implication. I'm not trying to "find a romantic partner fast", I'm looking to find a compatible partner, and I don't think the strategy you proposed is a good one for the traits I'm looking for. Also, it seems like you're suggesting to do that instead of posting a public profile instead of in addition, so, for the explanation to be complete, it's insufficient to say why your proposed approach is good, and also requires to say why my proposed approach is bad.
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by lcall on Sunday December 12, 2021 @08:28PM
(#29535556)
Forget the money, but I have gone through a divorce and remarriage (very happy and grateful! approaching 9 years), and thought at great length about the process (to put it mildly), ...
...and wrote what I learned at my site (in my profile, then click "other", "life lessons", "dating and marriage", then the "DOCUMENT" (but really everything from the dating and marriage page). (I used eHarmony conscientiously and it worked out well for me, but I also have specific opinions about them; available if you ask.)
It reflects my beliefs, which are a big part of our relationship -- they are things that are deeply important to both of us. Happy to answer questions or discuss (my email is in the site footer). Feedback appreciated, and I wish you the best.
(ps/edit: I suggest considering that sexual license is not associated with multigenerationally happy/loyal families. Traditional values are such because .. they have worked for a long time. We today really aren't so much smarter than what the 10 commandments can give us. Really. I have written about the various ways I have come to that conclusion -- like algebra or arithmetic -- get the same answer several different ways, and one can feel confident about it.... questions welcome.)
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by Mati_Roy on Thursday December 16, 2021 @03:35AM
(#29576273)
i've mentioned why i know i'm fertile, and can provide evidence in private
i'm also open to using a sperm donor (even being fertile), in which case i would also pay the bounty (because this would still result in me having a child and being a legal parent)
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by max002 on Sunday December 12, 2021 @04:07AM
(#29528152)
Btw. Anyone here posting silly comments, laughing off and so on please do f... Off to read how musk met his wife, no1 laughing about him? In past ads like that were normal. If you dont have nothing positive to say and can only do laughter on someone who takes 'novel'/untypical approach youre a very sad sad human being.
Re:I will pay $2000 to the person that connects me with a ro...
by dang on Sunday December 12, 2021 @12:35PM
(#29531592)
Personal attacks will get you banned here, so please don't post any more of those.
Also, could you please stop posting unsubstantive and/or flamebait comments to Hacker News generally? We're trying for a different sort of discussion here, to the extent possible. If you wouldn't mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.
One thing that makes me wonder - if the author is on ASD spectrum (considering such an emphasis on rationaloty), this approach may find him a partner on the spectrum as well - which is good for a relationship, but risky in terms of children genetics (children with compounded ASD traits).
Based on people that know me very well and have some education about ASD (and I agree with them), my ASD-like behaviors are intentionally developped, and not caused by ASD. Of course, it still remains that I have personality traits that predispose me to such behaviors, such as being highly analytical.
I don't mind whether my partner is on the ASD spectrum or not.
Re 2nd statement, this is a true, but it fulfils the wrong goal and has a wrong implication. I'm not trying to "find a romantic partner fast", I'm looking to find a compatible partner, and I don't think the strategy you proposed is a good one for the traits I'm looking for. Also, it seems like you're suggesting to do that instead of posting a public profile instead of in addition, so, for the explanation to be complete, it's insufficient to say why your proposed approach is good, and also requires to say why my proposed approach is bad.
...and wrote what I learned at my site (in my profile, then click "other", "life lessons", "dating and marriage", then the "DOCUMENT" (but really everything from the dating and marriage page). (I used eHarmony conscientiously and it worked out well for me, but I also have specific opinions about them; available if you ask.)
It reflects my beliefs, which are a big part of our relationship -- they are things that are deeply important to both of us. Happy to answer questions or discuss (my email is in the site footer). Feedback appreciated, and I wish you the best.
(ps/edit: I suggest considering that sexual license is not associated with multigenerationally happy/loyal families. Traditional values are such because .. they have worked for a long time. We today really aren't so much smarter than what the 10 commandments can give us. Really. I have written about the various ways I have come to that conclusion -- like algebra or arithmetic -- get the same answer several different ways, and one can feel confident about it.... questions welcome.)
moral hazard: he may already know he's infertile and have no intention of paying the bounty.
i'm also open to using a sperm donor (even being fertile), in which case i would also pay the bounty (because this would still result in me having a child and being a legal parent)
Also, could you please stop posting unsubstantive and/or flamebait comments to Hacker News generally? We're trying for a different sort of discussion here, to the extent possible. If you wouldn't mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.