Having said that, there is a lot to think about in his irritation. For example: the mysteries of magnets are no more mysterious than lots of other things that we take for granted and treat as entirely unmysterious. To priviledge magnets with an almost magical respect when we haven't spotted that gravity is at least as mysterious is a failure of imagination.
There's also the question 'what kind of answer would you accept'? When we can only express bafflement about a phenomenon, we're still in the prescientific myths and magic world. You can't really get to the scientific world until you can formulate some kind of question. The passage from Hitchikers about the Ultimate Question touches on something pretty profound.
Still, I think an honest expression of bafflement is an excellent beginning (or at least it's where I often find myself), and I think there may have been more sympathetic ways Feynmann could have expressed his thoughts on the topic.
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22816968
Hint, the questions were:
"Now, what is it, the feeling between those two magnets?"
"There's something there, isn't there?"
"what's going on between these two bits of metal"
"What does that mean, or why are they doing that, or how are they doing that?"
I don't know what phenomena you study, but I assure you that "magnets" aren't the only topic for which the "feeling" and "what does that mean" and "why" questions would warrant the same answer.
And where answering "how" would be cheating if the answer would use some false analogy.
You come up to him. "Hey, so magnets, these trivial things that children play with, can you explain it to me?"
His real answer would be "no. not to my satisfaction, I can't"
I think that his leadup is an attempt to get a couple points across:
1) That we typically can explain things in terms of more basic or more 'fundamental' concepts. This does not work with magnetism since magnetism itself is a fundamental force. Attempts to explain via analogy should be avoided.
2) Even the spin explanation probably does more harm than good. A non-physicist will think of atoms spinning like a top, which is wrong and misleading.
One has to carefully to listen to the question he was asked and he then answers.
I wrote about that before and I link to that this time too in my other answer.
Socrates, as we receive him, opened peoples' eyes about causation, too. If anyone did it like a jerk it was him. Leading you down the path of your own ideas into a contradiction, just to show you what you don't know? That's embarrassing and unhelpful. I'd rather be lectured.
Is he the friendliest explainer? Surely not. Who cares? His gifts in communicating deep ideas in science to lay people were beyond compare.
I don't think smiling and being condescending are mutually exclusive are they?
Feynman's detour is to explain to the interviewer that he can't give any satisfactory explanation beyond "the magnetic force exists and behaves like that" given that the interviewer has no advanced knowledge of physics. Trying to do so would invariably involve Feynman cheating the interviewer, causing the interviewer to believe he understood it better until he comes across the flaw in the reasoning.
It's a simple, relatively satisfactory explanation a layperson should understand, that provides a hook for finding more in-depth knowledge if the asker wants to.
The whole rest of it was unnecessary.
The idea that atoms are mostly empty space is a great analog to his rubber band example. Our attempts to explain atoms in terms of electrons cleanly orbiting a nucleus gives people the wrong picture. Atoms are not mostly empty space, electrons become standing waves when part of an atom and it's not just that we cannot measure their position with accuracy, their position does not exist. The solar system metaphor for the atom has probably caused more harm than good.
His roundabout analogy about the seemingly infinite rabbit holes of "why"s makes an important point that some phenomena are not explainable in a satisfactory way without a considerable theoretical framework, and any layman-friendly analogy is ultimately going to be inaccurate.
Edit: I guess my point is just that being willing and able to communicate simply and effectively is not necessarily at odds with being a condescending prick.
“What you feel in the magnet is the same force that keeps my hand from going through the chair, so the question is why does it work at a human-scale distance? The answer is that in an iron magnet all the magnetic forces in each atom are aligned. An individual atoms‘ force is too small to be felt at distance, but the combined effect of all the atoms in a magnet is large enough.”
That wasn’t so hard.
Also if it's the same force and it is much stronger when aligned, why don't magnets pass through each other? The much stronger aligned magnetic force should easy overwhelm the weaker force that keeps my hand from going through the chair.
As for why two magnets don't pass through each other, as they come closer eventually the alignment breaks down because both poles exist for each atom and end up repelling each other.
Of course, Paul's exclusion principle does play a role, but as long as the two objects are rigid enough you can model this mostly well enough with a magnetic dipole at each atom.
Of course that line of explanation falls to similar loop, re: why do fermions resist sharing state?
In 1966, independently of Elliott H. Lieb and Walter Thirring, Dyson and Andrew Lenard published a paper proving that the Pauli exclusion principle plays the main role in the stability of bulk matter.
The nature of physics is such that we never really have 100% confidence in our theories. We are always looking for things the theory under test doesn't predict correctly in the form of an observation. Which means we have to understand what we are measuring. And how we are measuring it.
All of this impacts magnetism. For example, many explanations here discuss electron "spin". Electron "spin" likely doesn't mean the electron is physically spinning.
So what is "spin" and how does it actually contribute to magnetism? And then you have a number of interesting QM properties, such as spin-orbit coupling. Remember, the original model of electrons orbiting nuclei was discarded as the electron accelerating around the nucleus would radiate all of its energy away. So classical orbital "motion" of electrons, literally a current, that should generate a magnetic field, which could couple with the spin of the electron, is not really a classical thing. It is quantum mechanical in nature.
And we really don't fully grasp QM. Some parts we think we understand and can provide some interpretation to. Other parts ... not so clear.
Again, this is why 99 years after Einstein won the Nobel prize, people are still testing relativity, and still testing fundamental/foundational QM. Look at all the work on delayed choice slit experiments[1][2], and many others.
Basically we think we have some level of understanding of QM. And we need a strong understanding of QM to understand QM phenomenon. Like magnetism.
Its not at 100% understanding yet. May never be. But there is so much more interesting science out there, that this is a good thing.
[1] https://www.popularmechanics.com/science/a22280/double-slit-...
[2] http://www.preposterousuniverse.com/blog/2019/09/21/the-noto...
So if you take QM math, AFAIK, it can explain all known electromagnetic phenomena.
"RIchard Feyman's wife: "WHY did you not take the trash out yet?!"
Richard proceeds to go on a long tirade about electromagnetic forces, gravity, string theory etc. until the wife sighs in despair and takes out the garbage herself. Again."
Richard Feynman explaining magnets is one of the best layman explainers I've seen (in between the ranting). I honestly didn't understand why magnets worked and found this on a late night youtube binge.
(But don't search youtube for anything related to magnets, you end up amongst the perpetual motion nuts)
Edit: Just to be clear with this video (it had been a while since I last watched it), he doesn't 'explain' magnets as much as he hints at the concepts involved. I already knew about the spins being lined up etc but it was the "you can't put your hand through the chair" comment that gave me the eureka moment.