Whenever there's a power cut in the neighborhood, and there's no connectivity whatsoever I feel my brain expand. I feel times dilates, I feel motivation coming back, small ideas and curiosity.
Today's web is a weird pivot on intellectual energy. We used to have long and deep, it's been replaced by short and thin. They factor to a somehow similar amount of stimuli but in reality the latter is shallow and wearing off your, now deprived from depth, mind.
Modern social media seems to me a lot like fast food. You feel good while eating it; it fires off a lot of pleasure-seeking receptors in your mind and body; and it's addicting. But then, like with fast food, you feel the crash.
The problem with the internet is that the crash is mental, not obviously physical, like gaining weight would be. In the past two months I'm realizing that the constant, jittery nature of social media is genuinely affecting other aspects of my life. I used to love hanging out with my friends and family, watching movies, playing video games, and reading books. Lately I've been finding that I want to do none of that--all I want to do is lie down and scroll through YouTube. The irony, of course, is that while I'm doing that, I wish I was doing something else.
It's a weird cycle I've found myself in that I'm trying desperately to break now.
I want to consciously pay attention to other things, specifically my friends and family, my work, and "meaningful" leisure e.g. good films, not instagram pictures.
I find it quite sad that internet "promise" became a shallow stream of ads disguised as content
This wasn't some passive process. The fact that nobody ever solved micropayments made the internet what it is today. It's really that simple. You can have any system this sized without funding, and people wont pay for subscriptions for text content, so it's either frictionless micropayments or datamining and ads. And we all know how that ended.
I would pay $40 a month for my entire internet to be ad free and non data-mined. Facebook makes what 50c a month of people? Maybe $1?
All this BS we have to deal with for a dollar a month??
There are a million other ways to use the Internet regularly in a healthy and valuable way, and millions of people do it. I probably spend a moderate amount of time using the Internet recreationally, and I can think of half a dozen ways to do this. As one example, paying for ad-free YouTube (included with a GMusic streaming subscription) and spending your passive Internet time on the huge wealth of educational videos available, covering the entire spectrum from low-content entertainment to relatively dry[1] pure education.
Note that the tracking side of the Internet is more complex, and a lot less under an individual person's control. But that's a slight non sequitur from what we're talking about, which is the direct user experience and quality of content.
[1] Dry in the context of recreational Internet time; ie, not stimulating for a brain that's trying to be somewhat passive
I think about reddit. Questions get asked on askreddit that pander to the common denominator opinions.
If you can use up a fraction of idleness of a nation, you reduce productivity and the potential of individuals to actualize their lives.
Most people think they are crazy for wishing and imagining things to happen but what you described is exactly what underlies all their teachings.
You can’t find something if you’re not looking for it, simple as that.
I really think this can open up another discussion about your thoughts and how you see yourself. This is another powerful tool to enable change.
But you're correct--the underlying aspect is appealing and true. You can't hit something unless you're aiming at it. You will undoubtedly have serendipitous moments in your life where you think, "Wow, this wonderful and unexpected thing happened!", but I imagine for anything long term those will be few and far between. It's hard to stumble your way into getting in shape or eating healthy. It's hard to stumble your way into a long and fulfilling career too, without a series of reflective steps along the way. Is luck a factor? Certainly. But just the mere act of aiming might help us get a lot closer than we would otherwise.
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Even stumbling onto meeting your future wife, as the person commented in another comment, likely has a lot to do with thinking of things beforehand. Were you fit and healthy when you met her? Were you in the middle of a promising career or education? Did you take care of yourself? I'm not saying you woke up and said, "Today, I'll meet my wife!" But there were a series of things beforehand that facilitated it. Like the saying goes, "Luck is where preparation meets opportunity." Preparation is part of deciding what to pay attention to. If you consciously decide to be more open and friendly, then you might have more "coincidental" social moments. What changed? The universe, or you?
I think it's possible to have very disordered wishes or to wish for the wrong reasons. Wishing for something you don't really aim or desire to achieve as a shared behaviour in a book club, is probably a waste of time. Wishing for the right reasons is probably a valuable part of human nature. The disregard for wishing likely needs to be brought into order.
That does sound simple; and wrong. Have you really never found something you weren't looking for, my wife for one.
I just don’t see myself stumbling into a successful, fulfilling and rewarding career without atleast making some sort of effort here...
I needed to read that. Thank you.
The internet is becoming more obviously homogeneous and obviously a hive mind. It's been trending that way for years, but it's going to lead to They Live being remade or a war of independence or both.
Not at all the case. What has happened is that more people have gotten online, and we've realised how convenient it is to only spend time with the group of people that are exactly like us, so we're not actively looking for the out-of-tribe experiences that came to us naturally before. But they're still there.
The youtube ceo in an interview has mentioned that media needs to converge. It already is doing so.
(BTW, I think the point of the bible verse you quoted is prayer, not just having your eyes open.)
He writes wonderfully about this whole idea of what to attend to, what to pay attention to, and how those two things end up influencing your own thoughts and feelings. He's far more articulate and in-depth about this "phenomenon"--how social media is, in a way, dethroning your usual mental faculties.
Both very appropriate books for Big Hat Logan to suggest, though isn't the point of the hat to drown out the world beyond your head?
> I wish I could edit my comment, but it looks like HN takes away the ability after some time.
Yep, it's around an hour or two, and getting replies factors into that as well.
Thanks for the comment. It genuinely made me smile. Always good to run into another Souls fan. I can’t quite explain why, but that franchise means a lot to me.
Do you give any credence to the claim that playing violent video games makes people violent?
Contrast that with another game I played recently, God of War. That game ended after about 30-40 hours. I completed the story, and I never returned to it. When I think back on it, I have a lot of satisfaction attached to it. It was a wonderfully told story that eventually ended, whereas Call of Duty is designed to be an infinite time sink, both for your attention and for your wallet. The difference, for me, is playing basketball with your friends versus going to a slot machine.
That does not necessarily follow from what OP said. It is entirely possible (and very plausible) that video games do have an impact on the way we think, whether we realize it or not, but they do not make us violent (or at least, it does not make people who aren't predisposed to aggression violent). The claim that there is some effect does not mean that it is a specific effect (making players violent). You need to do more research to show a specific claim.
Other possible observed effects of playing violent video games can include a particular attitude towards gaming and technology, expecting certain events in a game, expecting certain content in a game, or reduced empathy for characters in a game. Whether that affects the real world equivalents isn't obvious.
How you play and what you think while playing games matters more than the exact content of the game.
It’s easily seen in how the same games can be played in completely different ways depending on the people: the last Zelda is inherently a fighting game for instance, but you’ll have people focusing on the world and the story, other people just enjoying beating strong ennemies, and others cooking and looking for hiding spirits for half of the game.
> I wish I hadn't done that. I just wasn't seeing what my coworkers were seeing.
That’s the best way I’ve heard my feelings toward the same topic. I’m kinda envious of those who are able to not get cynical about it, because it’s definitely what is holding me back
I'm also reminded of the biblical passage: "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds." I'm not particularly religious but that line has always stuck with me.
I think that might be less, "If I ask for a car I'll get a car", and more "If I tune my senses towards whatever it is I want (a promotion, a new job, to be a better parent), then subconsciously my brain might start working to better see those opportunities where they exist." I've seen firsthand in my career that people who were open to opportunities advanced much farther than I did because I closed myself to all of them, waving them away, acting cynical about the whole endeavor. I wish I hadn't done that. I just wasn't seeing what my coworkers were seeing.
I'll stop myself before I keep rambling.