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Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by Viker on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:38PM (#17094746)
Interesting...

How many people here would say that they have actively decided not to have children? I am just curious.

Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by cowpewter on Thursday May 17, 2018 @04:13PM (#17095175)
I'm not having children. There are a lot of reasons.

1) I'm a woman married to another woman. Yes, one of us could get a donor, but it's one more hurdle, and it means we won't ever have one accidentally.

2) Debt. We've got some debt that needs to be paid off, and babies are expensive.

3) We'd need a bigger home. Right now the house we're in is paid off in full, and we'd have to go through the whole home-selling/buying process if we wanted enough space for kids.

4) Health concerns. I'm depressed, diabetic, and have fibromyalgia. My doctor says I also likely have PCOS and due to that I might not even be fertile. So I'm not a good candidate to try to get pregnant. My wife has her own health concerns, which are genetic, and she doesn't want to pass them down to a kid. I don't want to pass on the fibro or diabetes either. They both suck.

5) We're happy as is. We've got cats instead of kids (insert lesbians-with-cats joke here?). A lot of our friends have kids, so we're both pretty content to just be "aunties" to all our friends' kids.

Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by jacquesm on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:58PM (#17094984)
> How many people here would say that they have actively decided not to have children?

Plenty of people do. For many different reasons.

Some people do not like kids, some people like their life as it is, some people are in a relationship that they are happy in but that they are sure of that it won't survive having children, some people carry genes that they do not wish to pass on and so on. The list is endless, probably at least as long as the list of reasons why people do want children, possibly even longer.

Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by paulcole on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:58PM (#17094982)
I've known for as long as I could remember that I didn't want kids. Just never seemed interesting or appealing to me. Had a vasectomy around age 30.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by overcast on Thursday May 17, 2018 @04:12PM (#17095171)
38, and unless I find a seriously convincing argument from the next woman in my life. Not happening. I don't have a desire to have a kid, but it's fun to interact with them in short bursts(friends). This of course can change tomorrow, that's life.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by brianmc21 on Thursday May 17, 2018 @05:16PM (#17095950)
Decided actively I don't want children at around age 30. Married, and currently seek a vasectomy so my wife doesn't have to be on birth control and I never have to worry about having a child ever again.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by drspacemonkey on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:55PM (#17094960)
38yo Canadian male. Made a conscious decision to never have kids when I was 30. Haven't changed my mind.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by kuroguro on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:45PM (#17094828)
Also the number of people living alone seems to be rising. I wonder what % of that are active choices.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by notheguyouthink on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:54PM (#17094937)
Wife and I decided ages ago to not have children. I had a vascetomy when I was ~25. I think our reasons differ, and mine are confused, but it's very clear to both of us that we never want children. Oddly, she liked being an aunt though, so there is that.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by matte_black on Thursday May 17, 2018 @04:11PM (#17095142)
When you are an aunt or an uncle caring for nephews and nieces is super cheap, and once you no longer get the same joy of spending time with them as they grow older you can back off without guilt. Similar to grandparents.

At the end of the day, the kids go home with their own parents.

Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by wes-k on Thursday May 17, 2018 @04:50PM (#17095604)
32 male here. I actually love kids but my partner and I decided it’s not a good time and if we do want kids we should adopt. There’s still plenty of kids still without parents...
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by acdanger on Friday May 18, 2018 @03:26PM (#17104243)
I have. Generally, I don't want children for reasons that I don't think much good would come out of it.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by nuna on Thursday May 17, 2018 @05:02PM (#17095766)
have 2 and would consider having 3 if it wasnt for the horribly short maternity leave and cost of daycare. I just can't do the pump at work, wash bottles all night again. I also anticipate I wont make any savings for the next 1-2 years with the cost of child care. It sucks, it really really does.
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by nerflad on Thursday May 17, 2018 @03:41PM (#17094782)
Me (25 y.o east coast male, long-term relationship, no debt but decided due to other factors)
Re:US Births Dip to 30-yr Low; Fertility Rate Sinks Further ... by tzahola on Thursday May 17, 2018 @04:05PM (#17095071)
At 25 such a decision can hardly be considered permanent...