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Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by fsloth on Friday February 16, 2018 @07:07AM (#16391731)
"How much will it take to convince the average HN reader that sexism actually is everywhere?"

I presume those that think this way either have no female friends or have not asked them about it.

Men generally don't get catcalls or get their body fondled by strangers.

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by nasredin on Saturday February 17, 2018 @08:54AM (#16400658)
Regarding catcalling.

Unfortunately it is one of those things that women and sometimes men will have to sacrafice if they want to live in a free country.

(See burkas)

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by IntronExon on Friday February 16, 2018 @07:48AM (#16391942)
That assumes they’re honestly representing their views, rather than marketing their prejudices as something more acceptable to the HN crowd.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by lokopodium on Friday February 16, 2018 @09:04AM (#16392349)
Men generally don't catcall or fondle strangers' bodies either. It's a general projection, "why would anyone do that?".
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by mschuster91 on Friday February 16, 2018 @09:40AM (#16392597)
> Men generally don't catcall or fondle strangers' bodies either.

But vastly more men catcall or grope women than the other way around. That's the issue.

> It's a general projection, "why would anyone do that?".

To assert power and dominance (both attributes that are part of the common definition of "masculinity" in western societies).

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by TheAdamAndChe on Friday February 16, 2018 @11:15AM (#16393360)
You say the last sentence like the concept of masculinity varies greatly among different societies. Are there any societies in the world where men aren't more assertive, aggressive, and power-seeking? I kind of thought they were fundamental psychological differences between men and women overall[1].

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_differences_in_psychology

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by ben_jones on Friday February 16, 2018 @10:54AM (#16393175)
I believe it happens more to women. But ask an attractive male bartender or waiter. We shouldn't hand wave those abuses away either.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by mschuster91 on Sunday February 18, 2018 @09:53AM (#16406312)
> But ask an attractive male bartender or waiter. We shouldn't hand wave those abuses away either.

Was a male bartender for nearly two years. I agree it happens from time to time that customers try to score with you, but it's really incredibly rare compared to the stuff my female colleagues had to endure (maybe twice over my career vs daily).

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by Max_Mustermann on Friday February 16, 2018 @09:45AM (#16392632)
Yet another thing that explains the obliviousness that people are mentioning.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by IntronExon on Friday February 16, 2018 @09:52AM (#16392689)
Or as I’m saying, the 1 day old account is making an argument it thinks will be more acceptable to this audience rather than its real views.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by Helmet on Friday February 16, 2018 @08:22AM (#16392119)
I've been both sexually harassed at work and groped by strangers when out on the town (by a woman) - but yeah, I agree with your larger point. I think it's certainly more prevalent the other way around.
Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by nasredin on Saturday February 17, 2018 @08:58AM (#16400676)
How did you feel?

Yeah... I still got it!

or

Something negative?

Re:Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with custome... by therealdrag0 on Tuesday February 20, 2018 @10:58AM (#16421269)
I got groped by some passing female tailgaters when I was just walking down the street minding my own business listening to a podcast. It was very startling.