Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by bonoboTP on Thursday September 08, 2016 @03:02PM
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"cup of coffee" is code for date. Plausible deniability and all. There are other ways to talk that are less ambiguous.
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Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by bigtunacan on Thursday September 08, 2016 @07:05PM
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As a straight male I've asked plenty of people, both male and female to grab a cup of coffee. So far no one seems to have been confused. They all understood it was just getting coffee and chatting.
Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by rimantas on Thursday September 08, 2016 @04:13PM
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Ok, then what's the code for cup of coffee?
Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by recursive on Thursday September 08, 2016 @05:11PM
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The same. The only reason plausible deniability works is that it's ambiguous.
Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by sliverstorm on Thursday September 08, 2016 @06:06PM
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Ambiguous might not be quite the right term. In many cases for such an invite, it's desirable that it be pretty clear you mean a date, but you still retain deniability.
I guess you could say you want the implication to be clear and fairly unambiguous, but not explicit/provable.
Double entendre comes to mind.
Re:Introducing “Ask a Female Engineer”
by stale2002 on Thursday September 08, 2016 @05:27PM
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"Hey, I'm heading out for coffee in 15, want to join?"
There is a big difference between "lets meet and talk to each other for an hour at the coffee shop on the weekend" and "We are at work, lets take a quick break!"
"Cup of coffee" -- it just depends on the context and how it is asked.