If you've not already done so, you should really get with a doctor. I grew up with social anxiety (didn't get diagnosed until senior year in college) and know how bad it can be - feeling like you just got punched in the gut for days at a time is not something anyone should have to live with. And you don't have to, there are various treatment options that a good doctor will help you navigate. Getting treatment can really change your life for the better.

I wish you the best of luck!

Thanks!

"I grew up with social anxiety"..."diagnosed"

Remember when that used to be called 'being shy'?

I grew up "shy", and while it was sometimes stressful, there were definitely no suicide attempts, panic attacks, etc. involved.

It's insensitive/cruel to mock someone's diagnosis when you know next to nothing about the details.

There are larger arguments about overdiagnosis in the US, etc., which is all interesting, but if you're talking to an individual about painful experiences in their past, bear in mind that generalities cannot become rules.

I have Cystic Fibrosis, and therefore I cough a lot. A lot of people cough. CF also makes me skinny. A lot of people are skinny. I get tons of "advice" on how to reduce my cough or what to do to gain weight, but most of it is naivety at best, stupidity if they know I have a bona fide condition.

Yep. I also remember when suicidally depressed people were told to just get over it, and autistics were caged in asylums. We can do better.

Social anxiety != being shy.

Social anxiety is a very debilitating and tortuous thing, as is any form of chronic anxiety.

No, I don't remember that. And I really hope that you're not a founder.

> Please keep in mind I spent two and a half years building this game as a side project, so make a serious offer.

I hear you are stressed out by dealing with the resulting success of your game and are willing to shutter it to save your sanity. I also hear you want someone to 'take you seriously' in making an offer for the game. Those two statements, if I am hearing you correctly, are in direct logical conflict with each other and may lead to causing you more suffering. The technical term is cognitive dissonance, literally believing two things at once. In your case you appear to hold the opinion that the game is worth something and you must be paid for it to release it, yet you thinking about continuing to manage it will lead to a loss of sanity. Resolving this logical dilemma sounds impossible, unless someone pays you a lot of money or you really intend to shutter it.

I would suggest that if you intended to shutter it because of suffering reasons, you would have already done so by now. That may be related to the fact those-who-create live to do so. I am one of those people! If that is the case, you must face the fear of continuing the game's existence.

Attempting to face a fear you are capable of facing will help move you forward past this event. Perhaps Open Source it, or take the other suggestions offered in the thread. I appreciate the fact you took the time to tell us about it. Creating brings joy.

Remember, your suffering is your choice. Only you can reduce it. Only you can wake up in the morning and be grateful you are here in this reality and then attempt to reduce your suffering by facing your fears for the day. Nobody else will do this for you as we're all trying to do it for ourselves each day. Best of luck to you, my friend; today is the first day of the rest of your life!

1-800-273-TALK is the nation suicide helpline in the US. http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Please don't kill yourself over a game. Release it AGPL and be done if you have to.

OP says he goes to U Winnipeg, which isn't in the US.

OP, you probably see Klinic every day on your way to school. They have trained counselors 24/7 at:

Manitoba Suicide Line 1-877-435-7170 toll free 24 hours

http://www.reasontolive.ca/about-us

Don't panic. You've made a great thing and credit is due, but at the same time you're in the middle of what could just be a brief peak of interest. The odds are good that it won't always be like this (unless you want it to.)

Your graph reminded me of a scene from The Simpsons where 'Disco Stu' presents a graph entitled "Sales of Disco Records, 1976-1977" showing a massive upward swing. Seeking investment for his idea, Stu indicates "If these trends continue... aaayyyy!"

Not trying to talk you down at all - but if this level of interest is unwelcome to you, the chances are good that it will get better. Most things run out of momentum pretty quickly if you're not actively keeping the ball bouncing.

Hi, I think trying to sell the game is a pretty good idea. Since you probably don't have much experience in selling software (services), just a small tip:

I read in your article that you offer a bit of support. If you manage get to make a deal with someone, do make sure that in your agreement you explicitly mention for how long you will offer support. Make it nice and short, like 3-6 months, perhaps just a few weeks.

If you are tired now, you will only become more tired if your support of the project goes on, and it will keep worrying you if there's always someone who contacts you about things of your project.

If the amount offered justifies it, perhaps find out if your university can get you in touch with a nice contract lawyer that can go over the transaction for you, but don't worry about it too much. There's not that much can go wrong, as long as the agreement is clear that everything is supplied 'as is' and the support is properly time-constrained and makes no promises beyond 'best effort', and especially if the other party is allowed to inspect the goods before receiving them, not much can go wrong.

If you are the worrying type, you could put the funds received in a savings account and not touch them for a year or so, so you'll always have funds to settle any disagreement.

Good work Renato and credit to plugging at it for 2 years. If the social friction this game has bought your life is the reason you are selling it, let me ask you a question: What happens if you cold turkey on the game for the next few months? No answering emails, no bug fixes, nothing. If the game continues to run well and give the players some joy (keeping the money aspect aside for now), why not just let it be?

Thanks!

I guess keeping it "as is", without any support, is better than shutting it down, but I don't know if I could simply ignore it.

I would try it before (if) shutting down, though.

Also instead of the added pressure of finding a business model, you may want to put up a "Donate" button.

Ideally, if you put up a graph of your costs per month (including what you feel you should get paid to work on the project) and a graph of donations per month, or something, then people who enjoy your game will be smart enough to help support it financially for you.

You could also open source it, if the sale fails. People seem interested and people might run with it.

Yes. As someone with anxiety and depression issues myself I sympathize with the sudden scariness of something like this, but it would be a shame if it just went dark because you have obviously put a lot of work into it.

If you do decide to shutter the server, set up a Github repo and mirror your code under a licence like GPL3, then maybe at least someone else can pick it up and keep sharing more cool stuff with it. It's what I did when I got out of roleplaying games.

It's free to play, you don't owe anyone anything. If you get emails and don't feel like answering, just ignore them. If you get praise, print it out so you can look at it whenever you feel down.

This is totally logical, but psychologically hard.

When I was a student I had totally-free online stuff I built lead to a stream of requests for upgrades, additions, bugfixes, etc. -- and the unreasonable ones are easy to discard, but some requests would be polite, friendly, and include offers to help. I'd agree to make the seemingly-small tweak, or accept the help, and then realize after a week that I didn't really have the time, or that my TO-DO list was being pulled completely out of whack....

Better to not publish your email address at all, perhaps, or make very clear that emails may be eventually read but very likely not responded to.

This is the correct answer. OP, you really shouldn't feel bad about not responding to people emailing you about a free-to-play game.

Besides, most of them are probably just writing to tell you how much they like it, or wanting you to partner with them.

You don't have to answer any of them. Just put up an autoresponder explaining that this is a free game and you're a university student and can't respond to email.

I mean, this is what Google does and many/most people love Google products.

Yep, or put up a paywall. Want to get answer to a question, pay $50/hour. Don't want to pay? Then deal with it. it's a FREE game.

Some people do care about the experience they provide, whether people are paying for it or not. Their pride in the game is important. They feel it reflects poorly on them if they're not providing good service. I can see how this would provide unwanted pressure when you're trying to study hard.

Hey, please do what you need to be healthy! Great game BTW!

(I know some with social anxiety, and it sucks that society is so dysfunctional that we don't make simple accommodations which help us all realize our potentials. Hope all goes well for you.)

Whatever happens with your game, I hope you realize that a lot of people enjoy what you've built. You are bringing good stuff into this world and the world is a better place because you're here.

If you ever start to feel down or like life is not worth living, email me - address in my profile. I'll try to do what I can to help.

Remember, every day you're out there doing things you love is a victory. Do whatever is best for yourself. I agree with others, maybe you should just put the game on rest and do something else for a while.

Shut it down and release the source.

i agree with this. if you can't find a seller, at least give it to someone for free. i'd rather have it out there than gone forever.

I am going to spend $71 on it add me on skype: messagepromc I love the game