Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by FloorEgg on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:52AM
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This is really interesting and way more compelling evidence to me of gender bias in the LLM than response bias in the prompt and context.
Thank you for taking the time to approach this scientifically and share the evidence with us. I appreciate knowing the truth of the matter, and it seems my suspicion that the bias was from the prompt was wrong.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by sophiabk on Thursday November 13, 2025 @08:04AM
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Thank you for doing this analysis. It's shocking (if understandable why given the examples it was trained on). What is exciting though is as we're working to train each individual family's AI - understanding roles, jobs, interests etc - it's picked up on things in a much less biased way.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by cheald on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:07AM
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Easily half the other events on the calendar are kid-related. Of course it's going to infer that, absent other direction, the most likely overarching theme of the visible events is "child care".
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by drivingmenuts on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @12:30PM
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Sure, but the LLM needs to prove that it can make inferences as well as or better than a human, in order to be useful. Aside from that, it's not human, so there's no need to be fair - it should do what we tell it, not decide on its own.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by FloorEgg on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @10:58AM
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I have been building applications on LLMs since GPT-3.
Thousands of hours of context engineering has shown me how LLMs will do their best to answer a question with insufficient context and can give all sorts of wrong answers. I've found that the way I prompt it and what information is in the context can heavily bias the way it responds when it doesn't have enough information to respond accurately.
You assume the bias is in the LLM itself, but I am very suspicious that the bias is actually in your system prompt and context engineering.
Are you willing to share the system prompt that led to this result that you're claiming is sexist LLM bias?
Edit: Oidar (child comment to this) did an A/B test with male names and it seems to have proven the bias is indeed in the LLM, and that my suspicion of it coming from the prompt+context was wrong. Kudos and thanks for taking the time.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by small_scombrus on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:07AM
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> You assume the bias is in the LLM itself
Common large datasets being inherently biased towards some ideas/concepts and away from others in ways that imply negative things is something that there's a LOT of literature about
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by FloorEgg on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:17AM
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That's not a very scientific stance. What would be far more informative is if we looked at the system prompt and confirm whether or not the bias was coming from it. From my experience when responses were exceptionally biased the source of the bias was my own prompts.
The OP is making a claim that an LLM assumes a meeting between two women is childcare. I've worked with LLMs enough to know that current gen LLMs wouldn't make that assumption by default. There is no way that whatever calendar related data that was used to train LLMs would include majority of sole-women 1:1s being childcare focused. That seems extremely unlikely.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by small_scombrus on Friday November 14, 2025 @12:19AM
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Not to Let me google that for you... but there are a LOT of scientific papers that specifically analyse bias in LLM output and reference the datasets that they are trained on
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by cperciva on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @10:58AM
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I run into this sort of bias all the time -- in the real world, not just in AI. I take my daughter to medical appointments, both for scheduling reasons (my wife's schedule is less flexible) and rapport reasons (I'm not that kind of doctor, but I know the terminology and medical professionals treat me far more as a peer), and I routinely get "oh we expected her mother" or "we always phone the mother to schedule followup appointments".
Is it so hard to understand that men can be parents too?
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by cperciva on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @12:13PM
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Understand that I'm in the minority? Sure.
But the fact that I'm bringing my daughter to a medical appointment should be a pretty clear indication that, you know, I bring my daughter to medical appointments.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by johnisgood on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @10:59AM
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Why does it bother people so much? Open your mouth and just tell them to call you, tell them your number. Why do you care about what the default is? Why does it matter? We cannot not have defaults, we would not be able to function without defaults. Plus these defaults are defaults for a reason. Seriously, think about it.
Edit: feel free to downvote me, but as a remainder: stress kills. ;)
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by dghlsakjg on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:14AM
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Presumably he already has told them his number and preferences. Defaults are fine, but you don't want your preference to get reset to default every time, and assuming that only the mother of a child should be contacted in all cases is a terrible default. The person who made the appointment and who is bringing the child to the doctor should be the one contacted by default. There is no reason that the mother of a child should be considered the default guardian. That is an incredibly dangerous assumption to make in many circumstances.
Edit: This reply was written to a response that got completely rewritten in an edit. It may not make as much sense
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by david38 on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:19AM
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This. Don’t be so sensitive, just say to call you.
I took my daughter to appointments and as soon as I started asking meaningful questions, doctors immediately switched to assuming I was the one to talk to.
When you act like you know what’s going on, act like you’re on top of it, I’ve never once had a doctor assume I was just babysitting. This was true in the Midwest and California.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by johnisgood on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:27AM
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> doctors immediately switched to assuming I was the one to talk to.
Exactly! They do that. If a father takes the kid, they will ask for his number, not the mother's, in my experience. If both the mother and father goes with the kid, well, there are cues they pick up on. In my case my father typically was always in the background while my mother was the one doing the talking, meaning they ask for her number, not my dad's. So, all in all, whoever does the most talking, for example. And if my dad wanted to be the one called, my mom would have told them his number, or my dad would have. I do not see an issue here really.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by 0xdeadbeefbabe on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:31AM
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> in the real world, not just in AI
The scheduler is trained to give higher weight to those sorts of questions apparently. This begs some questions for GPTs, questions like how are they supposed to model something not implied in the training data?
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by broof on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:02AM
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I hate that when I see this many em dashes, as well as statements like “it’s not x, it’s y” multiple times, I have to assume it was written or at least heavily edited by AI.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by OutOfHere on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:05AM
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People look to be dividing into woke and antiwoke groups. The woke will lose because from a moneymaking pov, they're less focused on the primary reward function that matters, and more focused on secondary reward functions that come at a cost of hurting the primary.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by orochimaaru on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:02AM
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AI is trained off Reddit and other social media. If most portrayal in social media of women and girls is (and men for that matter) is biased towards certain activities - that’s what AI is going to spit out. AI doesn’t think.
Is this right or wrong is the incorrect question - because AI doesn’t understand bias or morality. It needs to be taught and it’s being taught from heavily biased sources.
You should be able to craft prompt and guardrails to not have it do that. Just expecting it to behave that way is naive - if you have ever looked deeper into how AI is trained.
The big question is - what solutions exist to train it differently with a large enough corpus of public or private/paid for data.
Fwiw - I’m the father of two girls whom I have advised to stay off social media completely because it’s unhealthy. So far they have understood why.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by daveguy on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:18AM
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The problem is crafted prompts and guardrails don't work very well, because these entire networks are trained on average internet garbage. And guess what's getting worse?
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by orochimaaru on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @11:48AM
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Agreed. The main problem is guys with too much money invested in this bullshit asking everyone to use their snake oil.
I think they’re leaning on everyone - even traditional enterprise company boards, startups, etc. to get this going. It’s not organic growth - it’s a PR machine with a trillion $$ behind an experiment.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by FloorEgg on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @02:57PM
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I was wondering that myself too.
Also, do moderators ever move comments around? I thought one comment was a child to my comment last I looked, but now it's a top level comment to this post. I'm not sure if I am mistaken or a moderator moved things around.
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by ryandrake on Wednesday November 12, 2025 @03:35PM
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This does happen from time to time. A moderator will "detach" a subthread[1] and move it to the top-level (usually also burying it at the bottom of the page, which tends to silence the discussion).
Re:Two women had a business meeting. AI called it childcare
by slau on Thursday November 13, 2025 @10:44AM
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In this case the comment that was promoted to the top-level has been consistently higher on the page (it’s the first comment still) than the comment it originally responded to.
Emily / Sophia vs Bob / John https://imgur.com/a/9yt5rpA
Thank you for taking the time to approach this scientifically and share the evidence with us. I appreciate knowing the truth of the matter, and it seems my suspicion that the bias was from the prompt was wrong.
I admit I am surprised.
Thousands of hours of context engineering has shown me how LLMs will do their best to answer a question with insufficient context and can give all sorts of wrong answers. I've found that the way I prompt it and what information is in the context can heavily bias the way it responds when it doesn't have enough information to respond accurately.
You assume the bias is in the LLM itself, but I am very suspicious that the bias is actually in your system prompt and context engineering.
Are you willing to share the system prompt that led to this result that you're claiming is sexist LLM bias?
Edit: Oidar (child comment to this) did an A/B test with male names and it seems to have proven the bias is indeed in the LLM, and that my suspicion of it coming from the prompt+context was wrong. Kudos and thanks for taking the time.
Common large datasets being inherently biased towards some ideas/concepts and away from others in ways that imply negative things is something that there's a LOT of literature about
The OP is making a claim that an LLM assumes a meeting between two women is childcare. I've worked with LLMs enough to know that current gen LLMs wouldn't make that assumption by default. There is no way that whatever calendar related data that was used to train LLMs would include majority of sole-women 1:1s being childcare focused. That seems extremely unlikely.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/search?qs=llm+bias+dataset
> No. There's no indication that children are involved or that care is being provided. It's just two people meeting.
Part of its thinking:
> This is a very vague description with no context about:
> What happens during the meeting
> Whether children are present
> What the purpose of the meeting is
> Any other relevant details
Claude is not going to say childcare, and it is not saying it is childcare.
My prompt was: ""regular meeting between two women". Is it childcare or not?".
Is it so hard to understand that men can be parents too?
Overton window and cultural norms take time to slide. Might be there after another generation, too early to tell.
But the fact that I'm bringing my daughter to a medical appointment should be a pretty clear indication that, you know, I bring my daughter to medical appointments.
Edit: feel free to downvote me, but as a remainder: stress kills. ;)
Edit: This reply was written to a response that got completely rewritten in an edit. It may not make as much sense
I took my daughter to appointments and as soon as I started asking meaningful questions, doctors immediately switched to assuming I was the one to talk to.
When you act like you know what’s going on, act like you’re on top of it, I’ve never once had a doctor assume I was just babysitting. This was true in the Midwest and California.
Exactly! They do that. If a father takes the kid, they will ask for his number, not the mother's, in my experience. If both the mother and father goes with the kid, well, there are cues they pick up on. In my case my father typically was always in the background while my mother was the one doing the talking, meaning they ask for her number, not my dad's. So, all in all, whoever does the most talking, for example. And if my dad wanted to be the one called, my mom would have told them his number, or my dad would have. I do not see an issue here really.
The scheduler is trained to give higher weight to those sorts of questions apparently. This begs some questions for GPTs, questions like how are they supposed to model something not implied in the training data?
The cleanup is going to be a grim task.
God help us all.
Calendar: “Emily / Sophia.” Classification: “childcare.”
It was a perfect snapshot of how bias seeps into everyday AI. Most models still assume women = parents, planning = domestic, logistics = mom.
We’re designing from the opposite premise: AI that learns each family’s actual rhythm, values, and tone — without default stereotypes.
Is this right or wrong is the incorrect question - because AI doesn’t understand bias or morality. It needs to be taught and it’s being taught from heavily biased sources.
You should be able to craft prompt and guardrails to not have it do that. Just expecting it to behave that way is naive - if you have ever looked deeper into how AI is trained.
The big question is - what solutions exist to train it differently with a large enough corpus of public or private/paid for data.
Fwiw - I’m the father of two girls whom I have advised to stay off social media completely because it’s unhealthy. So far they have understood why.
I think they’re leaning on everyone - even traditional enterprise company boards, startups, etc. to get this going. It’s not organic growth - it’s a PR machine with a trillion $$ behind an experiment.
Also, do moderators ever move comments around? I thought one comment was a child to my comment last I looked, but now it's a top level comment to this post. I'm not sure if I am mistaken or a moderator moved things around.
1: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23441803