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Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by SoftTalker on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @12:40AM (#41564173)
team sports are generally not fun for introverts, but more individual sports/working out where you can interact with people more one-on-one might be good, even if they often organize as a group.
Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by jajko on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @04:14AM (#41565518)
Climbing (not bouldering), you literally trust with your life to other person. Or some hiking/alpinism sports club, usually if they do 1 of those many of them do other interesting stuff like ski touring in winter.
Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by briandear on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @03:55AM (#41565397)
Motorsports, especially motorcycle racing is great because you’re completely in to yourself on track, then off track, you are inevitably going to help someone load a van, or get a bike on a stand or put on tire warmers, etc. It’s unforced because there’s a task to accomplish together, but then friendship develops seemingly effortlessly.
Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by matwood on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @08:26AM (#41566937)
JiuJitsu has been a great place to make friends. On open mat days you spar with someone for ~5 minutes then chat a bit, then find someone else and repeat. Small group chats at the end, maybe grab some food.

The are a lot of IT oriented people at my gym, but also surgeons, lawyers, business owners, etc...

The key, like anything, is try a few different schools to find the vibe you want.

Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by paulcole on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @08:43AM (#41567056)
> team sports are generally not fun for introverts

Uh, citation needed?

Team sports may not be generally fun for people who are shy or who have poor social skills, but those 2 things aren’t synonymous with introversion.

But team sports can be great fun for people who are shy or who have poor social skills because they force improvement of those skills.

Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by Clamchop on Tuesday September 17, 2024 @11:27AM (#41568675)
I signed up for team sports precisely because I have a lot of social anxiety, a tendency to be a loner, and a fear of being publicly not very good at something out of the gate.

Experiences may vary of course but I've been doing it for a couple of years now and have found it tremendously helpful.

Re:A lonely man in his 30s found community in an unlikely pl... by yawnxyz on Wednesday September 18, 2024 @01:29AM (#41576109)
hmmmm I consider myself an introvert and I liked it. Maybe I'm not as introverted as I thought...