I want to find the equivalent of HN for healthcare, where I think you’d find a ton of women MDs and highly specialized nurses who are women expressing frustration with their adjunct or artist men. This community is not the whole story.

I had a minor procedure a while back - enough that I had to be put under - and asked my nurse if she was happy with her job. She said yeah, she loved it, but she made more money as a barkeep! I was completely shocked, especially considering the hours nurses are expected to work. This was a real nurse, not an aide. I think healthcare is a not-so-great career anymore, again because corporate profits are all that matter.

Oh yeah. Nurses and MD's are night and day in compensation. And I'm sure you've heard the teacher salaries as well by this point.

Skilled labor does not outdo the decades of gender conformity expected from these jobs.

Was she hot? You can make a ton of money as a bartender if you're an attractive woman.

Given that women generally avoid dating lower-paid partners, there's a good chance you wouldn‘t or that those people would be outliers.

Such relationships exist. But in no way are such anywhere as common as those relationships in which men earn more than women. And that disparity is primarily because, as IdiocyInAction said, women don't want to be in relationships with men who earn less, not because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more.

"because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more."

This on it's own may be a correct statement however as you phrase it makes it sound like this this is the defining reason.

It's not, there are anecdotes of (insecure) men not wanting this dynamic, but a majority of cases the opposite is true. Women seek men of higher value (earning potential), not less. Men seek youth/beauty.

You misread me. I wrote

>women don't want to be in relationships with men who earn less, not because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more.

Good luck finding that. Women tend to not be interested in men who earn less than they do. I think the closest you may find are women temporarily supporting their husbands while they finish their degree or something like that, but again, the plan is for the husband to become the main earner.

It is sometimes presented under the myth of "men threatened by women who have a big career", but I have never seen researches supporting that. Men don't care if women earn a lot, note that they don't prefer it, they literally don't care. It is not a criteria when choosing a partner. Women do care a lot though about finding a partner who earns more than they do.

Yeah, I'm a man working a low paying job that I enjoy. Almost everyone I know seems to look down on me for it. 'When will you get a real job', 'when will you start your career?'

Good for you! You should do what makes you happy and revel in the knowledge that you provide many different kinds of value and you yourself extract value from something you like doing in multiple ways. The way I think about it: no one else has to be me and work my job. Since im going to so the work then I will choose how and what I do so long as I can. It took time for me to build the emotional strength to do what I love and not care about what others think but working on that intentionally has brought so many unforeseen, manifold benefits that I wouldn’t change that path for any other opportunity.

Sorry to hear that. Does it affect your dating life too?

What dating life? I was at a grocery store today and wound up flirting with a cutie, but I don't make enough money to pay for myself to go out for dinner more than once a month. The expenses a typical woman expects (from my experience) are beyond what I can afford.

go for hippie chicks who like doing acroyoga in the park, they're cheap dates :)

Is it in Europe? I feel people would like it if you tell that you like what you do.

No, the midwest.

It has nothing to do with "socially acceptable", I think the parent was simply talking about even having the option of doing it.

Very easy to be an aspiring author/painter/singer/etc when you have a partner to pick up the bills with a "real job".