Considering why you want the things you want is also worth doing in itself. You might realize that you want them for reasons that are no longer valid, or because someone else wants you to want them, or any number of bad reasons. You might realize that you don't really care about something you thought you wanted.
>If you were to take them for society at large, marriage would be a net positive
Marrying "for society" is probably the dumbest possible reason, even dumber than "because my parents want me to".
How is wanting to make someone else happy a bad reason?
Sure, not everyone has your best intentions in mind. People don't sit around wanting to make scammers happy, normally it's those that they care about
So you want to? Good! But maybe go into that a bit. Figure out the "why". This is going to be super important within a marriage when you and your spouse disagree on something. Because then "I want to" isn't going to cut it. You need to explain more and figure out what inferences led to that "wanting to".
I also want to do tons of drugs every night. The reason I don't? A pros vs cops debate happening automatically in my brain. Even if you don't rationalize it, it still happens. And since it's there you may as well use it, even if sometimes ignoring it in the end.
Typo, or deliberate? Either way, it's beautifully apt.
That's a weird way to feel. Think about why you feel that way.
Perhaps, like women who historically were shamed for going outside of a prescribed gender role, you too are falling victim to gender roles that no longer really exist.
Because they want to? I really don't get this attitude of rationalizing everything in terms of pros vs cons. It just teaches people to disregard how they feel
Also interesting that when you give examples of pros and cons, you only give examples of them for you as an individual. If you were to take them for society at large, marriage would be a net positive