'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love with dating apps

Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by johnnyanmac on Sunday October 29, 2023 @02:54PM (#38061463)

And thars the downside of being a nerd or even a jock. As a male you don't really meet (heterosexual) romantic partners doing stuff guys traditionally like. I've been to a bunch of tech/gaming meetups and can count the number of women there on my hands. And none were single either. Probably because they dated and found someone on an online app.

Of course I still do it for general friends purposes (when you live alone and wfh as a man, you NEED to make an effort to get out just to get out of your own head), but Idk how effective advice this is for someone who wants to meet someone in a timely matter. Not everyone wants to play the long game.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by yawnxyz on Sunday October 29, 2023 @03:39PM (#38061898)

Lots of tech people in the dance scene (west coast swing, lindy hop, zouk, etc.) — and lots of women too

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by johnnyanmac on Sunday October 29, 2023 @03:42PM (#38061927)

Based on my college clubs, I can believe it. It's a shame I simply don't like dancing. Dancing and Tabletop are two things I tried for a very long time to get into for the sake of meeting friends and I simply don't like neither.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by dehrmann on Sunday October 29, 2023 @06:05PM (#38063300)

I've been told the Bay Area is the only place where there are more men than women in the social dance scene.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by science4sail on Monday October 30, 2023 @01:01AM (#38065866)

Tech-heavy Bay Area spinoffs like Seattle also have the same phenomenon. It's not uncommon to go to a salsa/bachata dance and then suddenly realize that one is surrounded by male software engineers.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by hoseja on Monday October 30, 2023 @08:28AM (#38068623)

The only real reason I can see for a tech guy to be into dance is because women are also into it.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by defrost on Monday October 30, 2023 @08:34AM (#38068678)

For the same reasons as you'd juggle clubs on a unicycle and play piano - increased core body strength and flexibility improve dexterity and extend your chair sitting typing lifespan.

Also helps build strength for when you climb those 300m comms masts or enduring those crazy G turns flipping lines in low level geophysical aircraft surveying.

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Re:'It's quite soul-destroying': how we fell out of love wit... by cloudier on Sunday October 29, 2023 @05:19PM (#38062926)

Making tech and gaming more inclusive for women isn’t something that just benefits women — as your comment shows it can benefit men as well.

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