Trust is something that documentation for a project has to earn over time.
People will assume the documentation is incomplete and out-of-date, because that's the default for most things.
If it's comprehensive and stays up-to-date with new changes, the project community will eventually come to realize they and start trusting it. But it takes time to build up that track record!
Maybe there is some kind of negative reinforcement, too. The way it feels to me is: "I won't write documentation, because users don't read it -> Oh great, I will use ChatGPT to support my users -> The users don't know how to read documentation (or anything other than a 500-letters answer to a chat question) because they do everything with ChatGPT-like prompts -> I won't write documentation, because users don't read it".
Same for many things: most people tend to complain about CMake, but almost every time, I quickly realize that they don't know how to use CMake. Either they complain about it and never used it, or they complain and use it wrong. Therefore many devs try to build alternatives that will solve that problem by "being better than CMake". Turns out I have seen Meson projects that were a big mess, it's not just a CMake thing. On the other hand, people who learn how to use Autotool/CMake/Meson usually manage to make it quite maintainable.
Here the negative reinforcement would be: "People don't learn how to use the tools properly -> They make a mess -> They complain about the tool -> Someone makes a "better tool" -> People don't learn the new tool and make a mess -> repeat.
I truly believe that we could solve many problems by teaching people how to learn, instead of building technology that helps them being productive without learning.
Regarding the CMake documentation, though, I have been relying on it forever (that's pretty much how I learned CMake), and I personally find it pretty good. That is where I believe there may be some kind of cultural change: I am fine reading the manual (`$ man <command>`) and RFCs and documentation like the CMake one. It feels like "the modern way" is to find an example that does what you need and mimic it (hence the success of stuff like Copilot).
I just feel like my way is more powerful: I can both leverage official documentation (and RFCs, etc) and examples, and I can actually use them together (e.g. read the example, see new stuff there, and go read the official docs about those new things). IMHO, only being able to rely on examples that do almost exactly what one needs is a bit of a loss; people should learn to read actual manuals.
I read all the Unix man page of every command line program I used but there were only a few of them. There are a zillion of tools now, I can't spend days reading their docs: I won't be able to deliver to my customers and get paid. Googling how to do X magically works well enough.
Discord is the very last resort, only if desperate. I tend to keep very far away from tools that have discord as their primary documentation. There are always alternatives.
Now you could be like clearly that should just be in the web documentation but people still show up and ask even when it is and RTFM isn't exactly nice.
2. People read the docs when you send them a link to the relevant doc page. Having docs makes your chat support a matter of linking to the right page.
Saved time today VS saved time tomorrow, the constant question for startups :)
It means you've done a good job with the product and people don't need help to use it.
Of course I understand it is reflective of the current situation where naturally it is not worth seeking expertise when software gets at minumum a redesign every six months if not thrown out completely. But I'd really question is that actually good situation to be in?
It's fine to have Discord, or something similar, for when you users come to you with a problem, but then you need to consider if you have to go back at update the documentation. Early in my career hanging out on mailinglists was much more popular, frequently you'd ask a question and the maintainers of whatever software you where using would take the answer and put them into the regular FAQ or documentation. Now we replaced Discord with mailinglists and that might be sensible, the feedback loop just should not be excluded. Discord is terrible place to store knowledge.
So this becomes a question of whether the time "wasted" writing documentation is cheaper than wasting time answering the same question again and again and again and again and again.