"just so you know, i'm working on not being a needy dork that texts you 24/7. i hope to be more attractive to you by working on my ability to make decisions for myself without being devastated when someone tells me their opinion of me. do you like me more now? how about now? how about now?"
Following that advice isn't bettering yourself, you're essentially just doing the human version of SEO.
You aren't becoming a better or kinder or more interesting person, nor are you working on your ability to make real human connections with others.
And a lot of you will say, so what? If it gets me a girlfriend, what does it matter?
These are the dudes who get dumped or divorced and never see it coming, because they never bothered to learn how to relate to people.
no, i do believe you have it exactly backwards.
you're also just making up straw man arguments like "can't connect with people". i didn't even mention that, or hobbies, or charity, or anything. pure fiction in your mind.
you see a post about 'self improvement' and your mind just fills in the blanks with your own assumptions. you probably didn't actually read half the post.
Almost all of the advice was around superficial, self-centered things.
All of it was about you getting something you want, and none of it was about being a net positive in someone else's life.
It comes off as cold and selfish.
who do you think needs advice to be more ASSERTIVE? people who are already assholes? think about what you're saying for like 2 fucking seconds.
these points are the areas they _ARE DEFICIENT IN_. again, straw man, poor reading comprehension with a lack of context to who the intended audience is meant to be, and mental fictions.
telling a mentally broken or underdeveloped Nice Guy that they need to be more selfless is a crock of shit, it's dishonest, and it's cruel. please be more aware of reality.
fwiw the comment has a lot of upvotes.
Relationships are no longer transactional. The age of the breadwinner and provider are over. Women are no longer forced to stay home while you toil in the mines or whatever. You're optional.
Because you're optional, you need to be more desirable than no relationship and frankly, a lot of you aren't.
LOL. buddy. i've got some news for you.
the fact that you can't actually point to a single thing i said (not something you just made up out of thin air) and claim it is actually WRONG, means you're just angry at my opinion.
Relationships aren't something you acquire, they're something you build. You need to be a net asset to your partner, and just bringing home money doesn't count.
why would that be?
"everything in the world is about sex, except sex, which is about power"