Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
by hammock on Thursday January 26, 2023 @01:12PM
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I'm not sure that's true. The traits "known" are more subversive. Did you meet at a country/city club? At a gym? An upscale restaurant or bar? Do you have an accent? What are you wearing? What are you drinking? What do your friends look like? How do you carry a conversation? What unconscious body language and facial cues do you communicate?
I'm willing to bet that I could reliably predict 80%+ of whatever profile attributes you fill out online, with a 2 minute conversation and good look at you.
Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
by giantg2 on Thursday January 26, 2023 @01:18PM
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Aha! But that's the point. A 2 minute conversation can convey a lot about the person which a glance at a profile (or algorithmic filter) never could. That can produce the interest or chemistry.
Re:Sexual loneliness: A neglected public health problem?
by yamtaddle on Thursday January 26, 2023 @02:32PM
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> I'm willing to bet that I could reliably predict 80%+ of whatever profile attributes you fill out online, with a 2 minute conversation and good look at you.
Hahaha—I have a pretty good track record at the game, "spot the software industry dude" on hiking trails. We have a certain look and demeanor. Our preference for conspicuously-expensive outdoor gear from the right brands (not "hick" or "red" brands) does make it relatively easy as such games go, though.
In some ways this is great because you don't waste your time, or their's, if there's a serious incompatibility. But I think it can also be used negatively when people are too picky. Sure, there are people who are too picky in real life, but those snap judgements are based just on what you can see. The absence of other information can make someone go, "Ok, I'll give them a shot even if they're average looking because maybe they're interesting/mysterious/etc".