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Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by Tozen on Sunday November 20, 2022 @06:46AM (#33680197)
This is a fallacy that women can "win" by doing such things.

1) The so-called "dangerous ones", can be those that will play female games, because they may have designated a woman as a target or are abnormally obsessed due to bad psychological issues.

Normal males, even more so for higher status males, are likely not to have the patience to put up with nonsense or silliness.

2) Some guys are experts at online dating and playing along with female style games, while others are not.

The filter that various women are creating, is guys that will say or type what they think women want to hear. So instead of a genuine interaction, it's lots of con games.

3) Stringing guys along does not nor has ever proven to lead to successful long term relationships.

One of the major flaws in this common female thinking, is that by initially frustrating the guy, it will make them "prove" themselves to her. Some women even take it to extremes, to weeks and months.

However, this abusive behavior towards guys can become a filter, which leads to her encountering guys that simply want to "climb the mountain" for revenge. After getting sex or the relationship, its all the more sweet for them to break that woman's heart (who they may have designated a game player) by suddenly going ghost on her or treating her badly after they have "accomplished the mission".

Overall, better to treat people as you wish to be treated and to be genuine in the interaction. Playing games, often leads to encountering those that like playing games too or possibly worse.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by alphabettsy on Sunday November 20, 2022 @12:39PM (#33683160)
This whole things reads like slightly deranged red-pill nonsense, but this part

> One of the major flaws in this common female thinking, is that by initially frustrating the guy, it will make them "prove" themselves to her. Some women even take it to extremes, to weeks and months. However, this abusive behavior towards guys can become a filter, which leads to her encountering guys that simply want to "climb the mountain" for revenge. After getting sex or the relationship, its all the more sweet for them to break that woman's heart (who they may have designated a game player) by suddenly going ghost on her or treating her badly after they have "accomplished the mission".

Is just gross.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by Tozen on Sunday November 20, 2022 @03:03PM (#33684700)
> This whole things reads like slightly deranged red-pill nonsense, but this part... Is just gross.

Very likely you don't even know what "red-pill" actually is, nor who is or isn't. Gross rejection of reality and hiding a lack of life experience behind throwing out labels, is the true nonsense.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by alphabettsy on Sunday November 20, 2022 @03:57PM (#33685211)
You can believe in and live in whatever reality you want, that doesn’t make it everyone else’s reality. I lurked around the red pill community for a while to understand what a good friend was talking about. Your comments have a lot in common with what I saw there.

I have several friends with ideas like yours, and they can’t or couldn’t figure out why they struggle with women so much, but they also reject any notion that it might be because of how they think about women and how that might manifest in their actions.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by Tozen on Sunday November 20, 2022 @04:31PM (#33685583)
I'm not part of the "red-pill" community, stop spewing labels and trying to place them on people that you know nothing about it. Save the energy of your misplaced anger against the opposite sex and reality, so that you can fix your life and boss yourself around, not others. If you can't do that, feel free to seek professional help.

This "conversation is over", look in the mirror, then fume and fuss with the person that you see there.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by Tozen on Sunday November 20, 2022 @05:15PM (#33686024)
Instead of spewing labels, ignorance on subjects you know nothing about, lurking, or trying to boss around those that you can't, save that energy to fix your life and get some control over yourself. If you can't do that, feel free to seek professional help.

This "conversation is over". If feeling the need to continue, look in the mirror, then fuss and fume with the person that you see there.

Re:‘Why am I talking to 10 guys?’ The rise and fall of datin... by dang on Sunday November 20, 2022 @05:43PM (#33686314)
You can't break the site guidelines like this, regardless of how wrong someone else is or you feel they are. We ban accounts that do.

If you'd please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and stick to the rules when posting here, we'd appreciate it.