My mom is filing for divorce right now and my dad has been entirely financially dependent on her for the past 30 years. He was a homemaker, after all. I have been reflecting on this exact thought (specifically, women are not "loyal" and will abandon a partner that doesn't produce income or has some other shortcoming much more readily than men will). I used the "rats fleeing a sinking ship" metaphor when talking about it with my wife the other day.

That isn't to say I don't think they should be divorced. It's just what's on my mind.

the problem is that not being able to ask for help also makes finding this kind of friends that can be your support system very difficult. so i have to disagree. i need my partner to be my support system, and i want to be hers.

it is still good to have friends, but for me this is the definition of an ideal relationship. a fortress of well-being where both partners support each other.

So don't be a sinking ship.

Tell me that you're a woman without telling me that you're a woman :)

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