Paradoxically that's a very childish thought.
—C.S. Lewis
If the child-like moments of the show are sticking out to you, okay, maybe try to find the bigger picture in the story.
Complaining that you have to conform to what some girls find attractive (or what other guys say girls find attractive), is no criticism of the film.
If you want to otaku/weeb out on some niche anime, go find some uwu girl who likes that stuff.
I don't understand this view that every woman has to like everything you're into and be attracted to it. You're going to get into some stuff that fluxuates your 'attractivity' metric and it's just part of your life.
Pulling apart a motorcycle engine and spreading broken parts across the front lawn isn't so flash, but by golly, gee-willikers, it's going to happen if I want it to.
> Any sucess will never be because of it but despite of it.
Success is what - pulling? ... Or finding a partner who likes you for who you are?
Anyway, liking the things you like, regardless of others opinion, is an attractive trait (as long as you're not harming people).
Similarly, being deceptive is very unattractive; and more importantly, deeply bad for you.
On the contrary. The ability to be deceptive, to wear more than one mask, is an evolutionary advantage in my opinion and highly attractive even if people will never admit it because it's socially unacceptable.
You only get one life. If you spend it lying to everyone, you'll end up not even learning who you are.
Watch the movie together first, then mention you like it after. Your attractivity will go through the roof.
The actual thing is, you probably got it the wrong way. Not anime makes you unattractive, the lack of anything attractive makes you unattractive.
as for what does make a man, go ask Socrates.
I wonder how much this is true if you are Japanese.
Also, one of the most manly man I've ever known was watching anime and have been pretty open about it with people and as far as I'm concerned nobody was thinking about him to be too much of a dreamer.
I recommend stop visiting incel forums/reddits/PUA sites and figure out a way to build your confidence as a person.
That is not to say you can't find people of both sexes into anime. But, when I've asked at parties, unless it's specifically a nerd party, 19 out of 20 times people say they don't watch.
Back in the USA, at least at my age, it's frustrating being on the dating sites, in particular OkCupid, which has the questions "Would you date a comic book geek?". If I filter on that question it goes from thousands of people to just 3 in a 50 mile radius of SF. This dispite the fact that many famous people, especially famous movie and TV series directors are comic book geeks. Maybe the wording "geek" is enough to influence the result.
Another interesting one is "Would you enjoy a night playing video games". Just 2 women. This dispite the fact that the gaming industry says 45% of gamers are women. Either that stat is BS or else all the gaming women are in relationships.
Another one I find even more alarming and makes it feel like something fishy is going on "Do you like to wear a costume for Halloween?", just 3 women. But go to any Halloween party and it's fully mixed and seeing the Spirit costume shops all over the place someone is buying these costumes. Again one guess is that the people fun enough to wear a costume are not on the site.
Nobody wants to hear it obviously since my internet points on this site are approaching 0.
The vast number of couples I've seen enjoy watching anime together -- some are total anime fans -- would indicate your statement is false.
Either you need to meet better women, or—and this is more likely—you need to meet any woman. There are plenty of women who enjoy anime, and would be happy to share what they enjoy with their partner.
As does crying about it on random websites.
These aren't anime bullshit with misogynistic crap, complicated giant robot plot-mechanisms that nobody can bother to follow, pedophilic male gaze crap, untranslatable humor, or the other things that plague a lot of Japanese comics and animation, they're quite accessible pieces of relatively pure art. The worst thing they have going for them is a mild obsession with themes of aviation, and some somewhat preachy subtextual political views (nature and harmony and people good, industry and violence and authority bad, mkay).
If you can't bring yourself to appreciate the art in them even a little, I would frankly question your emotional intelligence.
I quickly looked in Google Scholar and found this paper titled "Pale and Geeky: Prevailing Stereotypes of Anime Fans", and I quote:
> The social distance items suggest that anime fans are indeed stigmatized. For example, non-fans indicated a willingness to interact with anime fans at a distance (e.g., neighbor, coworker), but did not wish for an anime fan to hold political power (e.g., governor) or be allowed into one’s personal life (e.g., relationship partner, roommate).
[1] https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Stephen-Reysen/publicat...
> We examined the content of anime fan stereotypes in a sample of non-fans (N = 146). Self-identified non-fans of anime wrote about a prototypical anime fan and rated the prototype’s personality their desired social distance from the prototype.
I think we can both see where conclusions drawn here might fail. Replace any human characteristic and have non-fans of that characteristic respond, and you’re likely to get similar results.
If you already see the person in front of you is not a pasty white nerd the statement doesn’t make as much of sn impression.
In which case the problem is really being a pasty white nerd.
I think the people the non-fans are probably thinking of are more likely "weeaboos", or people who are so obsessed with Japanese culture that they completely reject their own (the ones in really cringey videos). However, there are so many more people now that are either more open to the medium or just openly enjoy it but aren't really as visible - I'd love to see a reproduction of this test with this distinguishing factor.
it's not about what others think of me. It is about what I think of myself.
Watching this kind of stuff sends the wrong signal to one's subconscious ... that one is still a "child"... and this will show up in one way or the other in one's interaction with other people.
it's already not so attractive to watch TV and even less attractive to watch anime or other children stuff on it.
This might hurt to hear, but you're a coward if you let gender roles stop you from enjoying something.
I sincerely recommend reading some theory on gender. Gender Trouble by Judith Butler is a surprisingly approachable introduction to the subject, despite not being written as such.
You could police your identity to make yourself attractive to someone that you need to hide yourself from for the rest of your life, but it's a tremendous waste of energy. Find yourself an anime girlfriend.
So why care about being a man or any particular thing at all? Experience the universe in its rich fullness while you're still able. You're already dead in the limit [1]. Nobody's left to judge you.
([1] You can also use this perspective to shut down your experiences prematurely, but pro tip: don't. That's a minimization of potential.)
Therefore to avoid that my self-image takes a hit I do not watch them anymore.