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Re:Willingness to look stupid by dusted on Thursday October 21, 2021 @06:37AM (#28942621)
When I was younger, I often met people who seemed kind of dim to me, at first, and later found the majority of them to be orders of magnitude brighter than me. It was not hard to connect the dots, the reason they were so much brighter was (in part) exactly because of what made them initially seem dim.. They asked questions, honestly. Not the showoff kind of question you ask to show how much you know, but real, honest questions that not only showed how little they knew, but importantly, allowed them to actually learn and understand, rather than just nod and not get it.

My intuition has changed from this, I find it that most times, when someone shows genuine interest and asks honest, revealing questions about some new topic, they often excel at many other things (and will likely on the new topic as well).

I'm adapting this myself, being honest, asking honestly, and sometimes looking really stupid (because, in that context, I am!), and I appreciate greatly both the wealth of information that allows me to access, and that almost anybody worth their salt recognizes this trait as well.

Failing an interview due to looking stupid is probably a blessing in disguise, you don't want to be hired by people who can't see this, and you don't want to work next to people who's just pretending to understand, not learning because they can't afford to look stupid when they are (and thus stay stupid, and be much more inclined to try to pass blame to someone else, like you, who look stupid).

Re:Willingness to look stupid by HeckFeck on Thursday October 21, 2021 @07:25AM (#28942914)
This reminds me of the simple brilliance of Socrates. He began from the premise that he knew nothing, and would ask all manner of simple questions building on top of the previous answers. It wasn't long before he uncovered how little everyone else actually knew, but what separated Socrates was his honesty: he knew nothing and admitted it.

Naturally, the established powers and polite society didn't find this to their liking. We all know how his story ended.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by dotancohen on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:10AM (#28943254)

  > Naturally, the established powers and polite society didn't find this to their liking. We all know how his story ended.
Socrates was sentenced to death not for exposing how little everyone else knew. The esteemed philosopher was sentenced to death because he was deliberately annoying people - like a fly - with badgering questions that would force the questionee into a corner.

Today we call this method of exposing contradictions in one's mindset the Socratic Method.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by bambax on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:18AM (#28944782)
> The esteemed philosopher was sentenced to death because he was deliberately annoying people

No. Socrates was executed because he was associated with the worst rulers that the city of Athens had ever known, all former students of his, who notably went on to kill thousands of Athenian citizens (not enemies, strangers, or slaves), following the defeat in the Peloponnesian War.

After the tyrants were killed and democracy was restored, general amnesty law was granted to anyone involved except the Thirty Tyrants themselves and their direct aides. However resentment, understandably, remained.

> There was a lot of bad blood between the people of Athens and Socrates’ followers. That wouldn’t have been enough by itself. But the murder of between 5% and 15% of the citizen population in 404 must have pushed things over the edge. Imagine if Osama bin Laden, Timothy McVeigh, and Saddam Hussein had all had the same person as their ethics teacher: would you be very surprised if that person got harsh treatment from a jury? And would you then call that person a martyr?

http://kiwihellenist.blogspot.com/2016/04/socrates-1-did-soc...

Re:Willingness to look stupid by nescioquid on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:00AM (#28945429)
Well, he was executed because when asked what punishment seemed just to Socrates, he said he should be given free meals (like the Olympic champions), rather than suggesting a fine of 50 minas. So Hemlock it was.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by marcosdumay on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:33AM (#28945947)
Yeah, there's some people that when faced to what they believe is an injustice go all in and decide the world is entirely unjust and there's no point on defending from anything, because the result is already set. See Galileo for another example.

I guess there's some platonic happiness in thinking you have it all figured out.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by tk75x on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:43AM (#28946134)
> between 5% and 15% of the citizen population in 404...

error 404: population not found

Re:Willingness to look stupid by HeckFeck on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:20AM (#28943342)
Ah, didn't expect the venerable Meletus to show up in the conversation today. How's the weather in Athens?

> sentenced to death because he was deliberately annoying people

I see you're still certain of Socrates' motives.

When you claimed he was 'corrupting the minds of the youth' and 'denying the gods of the city' you were simply repeating the charges laid at any philosopher who threatens the powers that be.

If anyone asks too many uncomfortable but honest questions these days, in some societies you will still be met with death, though here we have a milder but still harsh punishment known as 'deplatforming'.

But more to the point, if you are so certain of what you know, you could explain it and wouldn't find questions 'annoying'. Frustration justifies the case, because it means you really do know nothing but simply aren't honest enough to admit it.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by dotancohen on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:31AM (#28944069)
Actually, I haven't been to Athens since summer 2019. Lovely place, so long as you avoid the touristy places.

Though I do like your form of expressing your frustration about the trial and sentencing of Socrates at myself as though I were his prosecutor, I assure you that I'm an under-50 mortal not born of gods and not atanatos.

  > you could explain it and wouldn't find questions 'annoying'.
A question would not be annoying. Badgering, accusations, and pestering would be. And quite frankly, as we both know, every single one of us has contradictions in their beliefs and their actions. I'm not going to defend mine in public to a beggar following me around with the explicit intention of exposing my contradictions to my peers as a way to demonstrate that I (and for that matter, anybody) am not fit for the office I hold.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by dd36 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:27AM (#28944024)
Who has been deplatformed for questioning the status quo? Isn’t literally all of BLM challenging the status quo?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by jjdin14 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:00AM (#28944499)
blm is the status quo, that’s why speaking against blm gets people deplatformed.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by dd36 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:11AM (#28945587)
The status quo is qualified immunity.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by downWidOutaFite on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:43AM (#28945189)
If blm were the status quo the police would have been defunded.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by blitz_skull on Thursday October 21, 2021 @03:26PM (#28949692)
I think a couple cities did that, and quickly back-tracked because crime shot up.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by philosopher1234 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @04:53PM (#28950713)
Thats a robust and well researched opinion you have there.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @05:21PM (#28950967)
He's not wrong, many cities defunded their police and then quickly reversed that decision, many adding more funds to their departments.

It was a pretty big event so I know we all remember it as long as you follow current events, but it's easy to find articles mentioning it.

https://www.wsj.com/articles/cities-reverse-defunding-the-po...

https://www1.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2021/february/minneapolis-re...

https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/portland-mayor-addit...

Re:Willingness to look stupid by philosopher1234 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @06:53PM (#28951809)
Have you evaluated, or even bothered to seek out, the literature that disagrees with you?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:00PM (#28952335)
That doesn't make any sense. It's not a philosophical view, it's an event in history and a matter of fact.

Cities defunded police departments, crime went up, some of those same cities then later re-funded those departments, and even increased budgets.

The crime statistics and city council laws passed support these claims, I have not found any claims disputing these facts.

Even the left most leaning sources agree with these claims.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by philosopher1234 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:09PM (#28953029)
The interpretations, not the facts, are what I’m referencing.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:24PM (#28953101)
Such as?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by csnover on Friday October 22, 2021 @12:18AM (#28953719)
Hi, Minneapolitan here. I try not to wade into these sorts of discussions because it is usually unproductive or even counterproductive, but since you have expressed a sincere interest in talking about the facts of the situation, here’s what they actually are here.

The police budget for MPD in 2014 was $145.6M for 850 officers. In 2020, the year you suggest they were defunded, the budget was $181.9M for 770 officers—a 38% increase per officer from 2014 (28.7% after adjusting for inflation)[0]. In fact, that department is ending the current fiscal year $5M under budget[1], and the current mayor has proposed an additional 17% expenditure increase for 2022.[2]

The police in Minneapolis were never defunded. They have more money than ever. Efforts to introduce meaningful reforms (inaccurately called “defunding the police” by some) have also not been abandoned by the city council. We are currently voting on a charter amendment that would replace the Minneapolis Police Department with a new Department of Public Safety. The new department would still include police officers but would be coequal with all other departments in the city (it currently has a unique status where it is controlled exclusively by the mayor), and its focus would be on preventing crime instead of policing people.

On the other hand, other parts of the city budget are underwater due to hundreds of former officers quitting and claiming PTSD[3], and the officers who remain are engaged in an intentional work slowdown[4] while blaming others[5] for what is a largely self-inflicted wound.

What I think the other participant in this discussion was suggesting—and something that I would echo—is that your sources for news don’t seem to be giving you accurate information and you may want to reconsider using them as primary sources, at least on this topic.

[0] https://minneapolismn.opengov.com/transparency

[1] https://twitter.com/lisabendermpls/status/145018398771290931... (This is the Minneapolis city council president)

[2] https://lims.minneapolismn.gov/Download/FileV2/24988/2022-Bu...

[3] https://www.mprnews.org/story/2021/10/06/mpls-police-ptsd-cl...

[4] https://www.reuters.com/investigates/special-report/usa-poli...

[5] https://minnesotareformer.com/2021/10/20/mpd-cop-says-office...

Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Friday October 22, 2021 @01:19AM (#28953968)
December 2020, the Minneapolis city council voted to defund the police department $8 million for the 2021 budget. [1]

February 2021, the Minneapolis city council voted to add $6.4 million to the police budget. [2]

[1] https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/minneapolis-city-council-v...

[1] https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/10/us/minneapolis-police-fun...

[2] https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/minneapolis-to-spend-2464-...

The budget for 2020 was never in question, the riots and defund police movement started in the summer of 2020.

City policies were being discussed late in the year, concerning the 2021 budget.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by philosopher1234 on Friday October 22, 2021 @02:43PM (#28960932)
How precisely did the supposed defunding lead to an increase in crime?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Friday October 22, 2021 @03:27PM (#28961520)
The same way defunding a fire department will lead to an increase in fire damage.

Less resources means slower response times or no response at all.

That wasn't the premise though, the question was whether they defunded and then later refunded when crime was rising.

Above I showed GP that Minneapolis did in fact do this, as did many other cities.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by blitz_skull on Friday October 22, 2021 @05:11PM (#28962785)
No, it's not. It's a fact. Seeing as how you have the means to comment on Hacker News, you can easily fact-check this for yourself if you're concerned about its validity.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by dghlsakjg on Thursday October 21, 2021 @05:24PM (#28950993)
Which cities?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @05:31PM (#28951070)
NYC, LA, Oakland, Baltimore, Portland, and Minneapolis at least

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9625629/REFUND-poli...

Re:Willingness to look stupid by Redoubts on Friday October 22, 2021 @08:43AM (#28956536)
> The Democratic mayors of New York City, Baltimore and Los Angeles are among those now backpedaling on their vows

So they didn't actually do anything.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by hunterb123 on Friday October 22, 2021 @11:17AM (#28958304)
Some cities did defund in their budget, then reversed and refunded.

Some cities backpedalled on their promise to defund and added to the budget instead.

The existence of the latter scenario does not nullify the former.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by singlow on Thursday October 21, 2021 @05:50PM (#28951253)
Add Austin, TX, although there is a ballot initiative to restore the funding being voted on right now.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by ccn0p on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:00AM (#28944504)
one example: vaccines are the status quo, I presume you agree on that. Most platforms are removing content that cause "vaccine hesitancy". YouTube has even expanded their this to apply to all vaccines [1]. Furthermore, it seems relevant to point out that dictionaries have updated their definitions of "anti-vaxxer" to include anyone questioning even the government mandates themselves [2], which has opened the door to many cases where people have supported the vaccine, but opposed the mandates, yet still been deplatformed labeled as anti-vaxxer.

[1] https://blog.youtube/news-and-events/managing-harmful-vaccin...

[2] https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/anti-vaxxer

Re:Willingness to look stupid by mikeyjk on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:07AM (#28945527)
It must only be pretty extreme cases as Russel Brand and Brett Weinstein still have their videos up.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by jefftk on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:18PM (#28952440)
> dictionaries have updated their definitions of "anti-vaxxer" to include anyone questioning even the government mandates themselves

Merriam Webster has used that definition since they added the term to their dictionary in 2018: https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2021/may/17/viral-imag...

Re:Willingness to look stupid by dd36 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:17AM (#28945667)
So I won’t find anyone complaining about vaccine mandates on social media anymore?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by lugged on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:21AM (#28943961)
Facts don't care about your feelings and the truth doesn't hurt points of view that are legitimate.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by ben_w on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:39AM (#28944166)
I’m not sure what this has to do with an ancient Athenian philosopher being stoned to death for saying things other people didn’t want to hear, such as “I can’t possibly be both an atheist and worship false gods”.

Care to elaborate?

Re:Willingness to look stupid by lugged on Friday October 22, 2021 @01:48AM (#28954061)
Just a modern rif on the same statement made above.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by notenoughbeans on Thursday October 21, 2021 @01:28PM (#28947909)
Didn't expect a quote from Tom Macdonald when I opened HN this morning.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by strken on Thursday October 21, 2021 @06:19PM (#28951519)
Here's a gigantic PDF listing ways the truth can hurt all kinds of things: https://www.nickbostrom.com/information-hazards.pdf
Re:Willingness to look stupid by lugged on Friday October 22, 2021 @01:51AM (#28954073)
What's your point? I didn't say the truth was harmless.

Just that it doesn't hurt points of view that are legitimate.

Illigitimate views and your feelings may still suffer from hearing the truth.

My point is that the facts don't care.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by strken on Friday October 22, 2021 @02:28AM (#28954241)
My point is that you can use true facts to give an impression that is false, as documented in the pdf.

Therefore, completely true facts can make you believe a falsehood.

Therefore, the truth can harm a point of view that is legitimate.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by psd1 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @05:23PM (#28950982)
Maybe not, but opinions about how we should conduct our societies depend on feelings, and things that appear true but are subtly wrong can cause great harm.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by watwut on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:49AM (#28943651)
> The esteemed philosopher was sentenced to death because he was deliberately annoying people - like a fly - with badgering questions that would force the questionee into a corner.

It had more to do with revolutions in city just before, when two his students and friends worked with enemy to make dictatorship out of Athens. They killed and tortured quite a lot of people. Then it reversed. Now, he did not participated actively and citizens behavior during above was supposed to be forgiven anyway. It was miscarriage of justice.

But, these events in combination with what his ideas actually were were closer to why they wanted him killed then general "asked too many questions". As far as they were concerned, he was actually dangerous.

The yet other official reason was impiety, which despite sounding ridiculous to us, to them was important too.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by medstrom on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:26AM (#28943405)
Going by Wikipedia, it's not agreed why exactly he was executed, but you don't execute someone for being annoying. The official charges were impiety and "corrupting the youth". Probably some political groups felt threatened by the idea of lots of people turning to a different set of ethics or starting to distrust authority.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by gruturo on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:56AM (#28943728)
> but you don't execute someone for being annoying

Of course you do, you just wait until you have a more ethically "usable" argument than that, you build a solid case, then you have a mock trial and a fully expected conviction.

It was as true 2500 years ago as it is today.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by watwut on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:53AM (#28943692)
His students and friends took power once before and instituted dictatorship with help of Sparta (enemy city). Killed and tortured opposition, then were taken down in contra revolution.

So yeah, "different set of ethics or starting to distrust authority" but no necessary in a nice way.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by buu700 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:42AM (#28944217)
Re:Willingness to look stupid by andi999 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:26AM (#28944904)
I don't remember Plato mentioning that :-)
Re:Willingness to look stupid by alfiedotwtf on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:37AM (#28944144)
The Little Schemer is a wonderful book that teaches functional programming and Scheme by just asking the reader questions (aka the Socratic Method). Off putting to me initially, but now I'd love it if more books were like this!
Re:Willingness to look stupid by A4ET8a8uTh0 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:59AM (#28944469)
<<It wasn't long before he uncovered how little everyone else actually knew, but what separated Socrates was his honesty <<The esteemed philosopher was sentenced to death because he was deliberately annoying people - like a fly - with badgering questions that would force the questionee into a corner.

The two are not mutually exclusive.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by twobuy on Thursday October 21, 2021 @03:46PM (#28949931)
He was put to death for being a thinly veiled Spartan sympathizer. Not quite just for being annoying.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by darkerside on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:15AM (#28943894)
And why do you think people found this so annoying?
Re:Willingness to look stupid by lugged on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:21AM (#28943965)
*find

And I dunno, ask my wife.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by Grustaf on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:21AM (#28943349)
He was certainly very annoying, but his crime was misleading the youth, making them distrust authority.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by bambax on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:22AM (#28944845)
No. That is a legend promoted by Plato. He was not making the "youth" (in general) distrust authority, he was going around telling the sons of nobility and highest ranking officials that democracy was a stupid idea and that they would be better off seizing power for themselves.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by dotancohen on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:50AM (#28944340)
That was his charge. The actual "crime" has been disputed for about two and a half millennia.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hypertexthero on Thursday October 21, 2021 @06:44PM (#28951729)
I recently learned that there were two other maxims inscribed after the famous “Know thyself” at Delphi:

“Nothing to excess”, and “Certainty brings insanity”.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Know_thyself

Re:Willingness to look stupid by agumonkey on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:34AM (#28943484)
social reflexes and egos are immense streams of hurdles in the way of knowing

i like the term abandonment these days, drop your assumptions, drop your habits and try to see things as they are

Re:Willingness to look stupid by HeckFeck on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:41AM (#28943555)
It sounds simple but it really isn't.

When trying to approach sacrosanct 'truths' from a clean slate, I've met torrents of emotional resistance. Yes, from others. But also inside myself. It is quite something.

I wish I could spend my days wandering the marketplaces asking sincere and pointed questions, but I have to get back to work.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by agumonkey on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:52AM (#28943684)
of course it's not a thing for daily activities, more about ability to accept it when you face big questions
Re:Willingness to look stupid by ycombinete on Friday October 22, 2021 @12:42PM (#28959421)
Socrates was deeply ironic, and usually only played the fool. In very few (maybe all but one) of his dialogues is he actually less informed than the people that he’s talking to.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by taldridge on Thursday October 21, 2021 @01:03PM (#28947541)
I don't mean to be that person, but "knowing that you know nothing" is a contradictory statement.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by lordleft on Thursday October 21, 2021 @01:21PM (#28947802)
Strictly speaking yes, but I think it is a poetic way of saying that Socrates was better attuned to the limitations of his knowledge, as opposed to most people, who believe they know things they actually don't know (what is the good, etc). As a result, Socrates is actually wiser than most.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by josh2600 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:25AM (#28943390)
Confucius says there are 3 ways to gain wisdom:

Imitation, which is easiest.

Meditation, which is noblest.

Experience, which is bitterest.

Anytime I learn anything new, I imitate until I can’t anymore, then I meditate to understand why I think I can’t imitate anymore, then I experience my meditation, then I go back to mediating based on that experience.

Repeat until you can’t OODA loop effectively anymore.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by medstrom on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:57AM (#28943737)
Re:Willingness to look stupid by hnfong on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:11AM (#28944671)
I don't think Confucius said that.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by new_stranger on Thursday October 21, 2021 @12:02PM (#28946481)
Sure he did, I think I heard him on tikTok
Re:Willingness to look stupid by VortexDream on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:01AM (#28944522)
This article speaks to my soul. All my life I've been told how intelligent I am. It's been such a massive driver for my own insecurities and fear around anything I do, since my identity is tied up so much in being right and not being wrong, in continuing to present this image of infallible intelligence. It's likely also fed into my issues with depression I've had all my life. I can consistently get people to see how intelligent I might be, but it's always such a struggle. It's like walking a tightrope. I hate it.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by terr-dav on Thursday October 21, 2021 @12:56PM (#28947417)
What helps me is to view intelligence as strictly a matter of brain power. I can use my intelligence to do things that are stupid, unwise, misinformed, harmful, etc.

What I take from the article is that saying stupid things is the best way to avoid doing stupid things.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by stavros on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:06AM (#28944585)
It definitely gets much easier when you stop worrying about other people think of you.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by mixmastamyk on Thursday October 21, 2021 @06:12PM (#28951456)
Read the "Mindset" book by Dweck. Was introduced by our school, and it felt like it was written for me as well.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by pddpro on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:45AM (#28945219)
Whenever I ask questions, I tend to go to the very bottom of it. And I am not satisfied as long as I get a very intuitive and fundamental understanding of the topic. I have seen, however, that this can be tiring. Unless you are having the conversation with someone who has the time, willingness, and the knowledge to satisfy my curiosity, it is pointless to keep probing. People would often be exasperated or would be unable to provide me the intuition. Therefore, these days, I pretty much probe very little and if it seems that my questions won't really be answered, I leave it at that, mentally noting to do some independent research on the internet.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by u385639 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:55AM (#28945371)
This is especially tough because of how much skill it takes for you the questioner to not make the other person feel stupid when they realize they can't answer your questions.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by d23 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @11:31AM (#28945900)
Yeah, I think the other thing that's made me shy away from it more as I've gotten older is asking the "stupid" question, getting a jargon-laden response, and realizing: this person isn't equipped to communicate the concept. It can be pretty exhausting to be the questioner in that case.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by Kinrany on Thursday October 21, 2021 @07:36PM (#28952159)
Sometimes there are details one doesn't need to know to make a good decision. All of mathematics is built on this.

However this only works when there is enough knowledge to know why the unimportant details won't matter.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by akudha on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:25AM (#28943392)
I think people who are afraid to ask questions are conditioned to be that way. It is just easy to keep quiet in a team meeting than risk asking/saying something that might expose one's lack of knowledge on the topic being discussed. People also secretly hope that someone else might ask the same question that they are thinking about, so the other person can take that risk.

The environment largely shapes people's behavior. Of course, we can argue that we should work towards changing the environment for the better, but practically, how much influence does a person (who is not in a position of authority) have? In the end, people simply take the easy way out, which is keep quiet and only speak when they're absolutely sure that whatever they're about to say/ask is fully accurate.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by unbalancedevh on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:27AM (#28944027)
So, there's that saying, "stay quiet and be thought a fool; open your mouth and remove all doubt." In a team meeting, it's easy to feel like you'll not only look foolish because you asked a question that everyone else knows the answer to, but you're also wasting everyone's time.

I certainly remember feeling that way when I was a junior engineer. It was kind of a shock to me when I realized how many others generally had the same questions I did.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by medstrom on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:42AM (#28943564)
>but practically, how much influence does a person (who is not in a position of authority) have?

Surprisingly much, for the kind of people who stay quiet. They underestimate their own potential impact.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by bena on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:18AM (#28943929)
You've mistaken "wanting to be right" with wanting to "be correct".

I've never inferred stupidity or lack of intelligence with asking questions. The only thing I've inferred was lack of knowledge. And the best way to get knowledge is to ask. People who ask want to know. They want the information to get to correct.

People who don't ask questions eventually make assumptions that are wrong. Because they're so wrapped up in "looking smart" and they think being "smart" means having all the knowledge. They "want to be right" so they don't look information because looking would expose they don't already have it.

Smart people seek information so they can apply it. Genuinely intelligent people just have faster processors.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by A4ET8a8uTh0 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:03AM (#28944538)
There are questions and there are questions. Some questions in meetings are 'smart questions' intended to show you off and boost your stock a little, or move conversation to an area beneficial to you. Some questions are just ridiculous time wasters asked to show that you are there. There is a slim minority that asks questions to actually learn something and from experience I learned that those questions are best asked after the meeting directly to the person.
Re:Willingness to look stupid by SquishyPanda23 on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:12AM (#28944681)
> the reason they were so much brighter was (in part) exactly because of what made them initially seem dim

The causality also goes the other way. Very smart people see their limitations more clearly and so tend to be humbler about what they know.

They realize they can learn from others and so ask a lot of questions that others might feel foolish asking.

Re:Willingness to look stupid by mysticllama on Thursday October 21, 2021 @08:27AM (#28943412)
this^. it took a lot of intentional practice for me to shake the fear of looking dumb when in front of peers. however, i've since realized that pretty consistently the people who share this willingness to come off as uninformed are the best people to work with -- they openly admit gaps in their knowledge and are eager to close them.

conversely, when interviewing or evaluating people, if i observe someone pretend s/he knows something, that's often a really bad sign…

Re:Willingness to look stupid by zitterbewegung on Thursday October 21, 2021 @09:36AM (#28944132)
If you don’t know the answers to stupid questions you originally don’t understand the topic fully .
Re:Willingness to look stupid by manmal on Thursday October 21, 2021 @10:02AM (#28944528)
> you don't want to be hired by people who can't see this

The issue with this is that you might not even work with this one person declining you.