Unfortunately, some reader apps won't let you dial the brightness down enough - Kindle, most notably. "Screen filter" apps help with that.
There's no similar feature on iOS, so you need to flick the screen to flip pages.
I went through the same process about my dead tree collection, and shrunk it down to the ones that I either will read again, or keep around as a legacy. These days, the main criteria I use for getting a dead tree book is, "is this worth keeping and preserving in a zombie apocalypse?"
One quality of a high end flashlight is the ability to go very low in addition to very bright. Also they have high CRI and different reflector patterns. My preference for bed time reading is a Zebralight H503c. Goes down to .01 lumen. I usually keep it at 1 or .1 which is about the same contrast as a kindle on 2/10 backlight level. It has a "flood" reflector, meaning no reflector. Just a uniform wall of high CRI light from the LED about a 170° viewing angle with no hot spot. It is small, a single AA, and has runtime of months on low mode. I recharge the battery once or twice per year.
I can see why people keep lots of books, but for me a book on a shelf is just a wedge of paper, I'd rather give it away and let someone else read it.
A few examples of the second are House of Leaves, S., and Understanding Comics
I also get a headache from backlit screens. Frontlit e-ink is much better.
I also realized after looking over my (physical) bookshelves that I don't actually care about most of the books on there. This is after multiple rounds of clearing out the shelves and making trips to the secondhand bookstore, free library, etc., so it's not a matter of cruft. If I'm honest with myself, most books are "read once and discard," though there is a small collection that it feels distasteful not to keep copies of. Certain classics, or books with particular personal significance, for instance.
The cost of ebooks is an issue, as is the DRM. I haven't experimented with digital lending from libraries so I don't know if that's a solution to the cost problem, but it could be. DRM is... well, a perennial problem for digital media. And it does feel like something is missing in a world without secondhand stores and free libraries.
(Edit: It is in fact a frontlight, not a backlight. Duh.)