I dunno. “I didn’t say the things I thought you wouldn’t like so that we could have sex” somehow strikes me as disingenuous. Even though that’s just being considerate by a different name.

I guess it comes from the goal you are trying to achieve.

I don't share all values with people I have as companions and dont screen for that either, its an adaptation to never bring it up as well

But I’ll probably be knowledgeable about the value system

We’re on to love languages now too right

I think it just means you are an Agreeable person and GP is more Conscientious ;)

Becoming more so agreeable, I wish people wouldnt rally behind reductive character philosophies like Myers Briggs or sun signs

are you ENTP?

I get the exact same response when I try to debunk horoscopes to someone who believes that’s just classic Virgo behaviour haha.

Controversial, but also true, is that I get the same response trying to debunk diversity hiring etc. because I happen to be a white, straight male. I am also practically blind in one eye and grew up poor, but I refuse to play the victimhood game or even agree to that frame to win an argument. Also I don’t want to get into the pros and cons of that topic in this thread as that’ll inevitably be a train wreck as always, but I just want to point out how frustrating it is to “lose” an argument because of who you are, not what you actually say. Also, for the diversity people, it’s super insulting to essentially suggest “you’re only disagreeing to protect your own race”. I honestly think the appropriate response is to tell them to fuck off after they bring up your race, gender, sexuality, etc. in an argument.

On the flip side of that, I typically don't add a disclaimer about my heritage or political leaning before going into similar discussions, and it is hilarious that people assume I am a cisgender white male in order to invalidate anything I say. I also find it completely appalling how the "allies" act like female, trans and people of color have no ability to think for themselves or have different goals and opinions. To me, this is just as hurtful if not more than the "silent" and overtly racist people. Of course, now just add "allies" to the people that will argue about their worldview being altered. In person, people look at me like I have grown two heads when I suggest a minority might have listened to divisive comments from the former head of state. As if that is the biggest absurdity. People don't even want answers.

You clearly only think that way because of your internalised oppression /s

:) unfalsifiable to breakdown a belief system as only some relatable combination within that system would behave this way right