Please don't cross into personal attack in HN comments. You did that upthread and then did it more here. That's the wrong way to go. Please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and eliminate that kind of swipe out of your posts here—regardless of how wrong or annoying you feel another commenter is being. Maybe you don't owe them better, but you owe this community better if you're participating in it.

OK little story here

Abusive drunk family, plenty of legal issues as a child, ran over by a drunk driver, ( flatlined 3 times in ICU for a month and disabled ), divorced 2 times, 2 kids, married again, adopted 2 kids, worked my way into silicon valley, now I do ok

cliff notes of my life. Judge me all you want but what I have learned is life is a fight to the death. You can lay down and let it run over you complaining about how the deck is stacked against you or you can do the best you can.

Your choice. I have and will continue to help those who I see fighting the good fight but I have no empathy for quitters.

"Everyone should have it as bad as I did!"

This is a bad way to run a society, that everyone is "in a fight to the death," especially for the wealthiest nation in history.

We're sitting on enough resources to feed and house everyone, and the rich would still be fabulously rich.

"I struggled, therefore struggle is okay" is not the answer.

I didn't quit and because of that succeeded in spite of the obstacles.

There is your example.

Trust me... being on disability was an option and quite tempting.

I wanted more out of life than to sit around letting others take care of me.

You know that statement, the plural of anecdote is not data?

Lots of people struggle and what you're describing is just crab bucket. You struggled so you think it's okay if everyone does.

It's not.

Not struggling through life would be what I call privilege. Someone did struggle and gave you that privilege.

No one coasts through life without someone struggling.