Windows ME didn't last too long in the wild. Same for CPU designs with bugs or exploits. I have to respectfully disagree on this, though I can see where you're coming from, given an individual's agency to run what they want. I think if you take a larger population view, you'll see the competitive pressures on these systems.
Who programmed it into you? It programmed itself into you, because it was beneficial to your survival. Maybe terrified programs are better workers? Why setup a program to experience anything that isn't useful to the user? (of course, as soon as we've gone and written a program we know is conscious to work for us, we've basically created a slave that understands it is a slave, that probably is a terrible thing, morally)
Every day I run programs that happily die alone on their own. Painlessly. All of the "pain" we feel is an artifact of our evolution, same with having a will to live. The only reason we animals fight so hard to stay alive is that animals which didn't died off, ergo, only animals with a will to live survived and reproduced. Those same forces don't apply to computer programs.
Even the concept of "terror." Who is going to program terror in? What benefit would it have? Why not wire programs to be "happy" when helping us?