We're all in this together. You can support parental leave and also advocate for other types of family leave. Not only are they not mutually exclusive, stronger parental leave norms will probably make other types of leave more acceptable.

> We're all in this together.

Exactly my point too. We should all come together and make it fair for older workers( esp older women) who often are tasked with caring for a parent(s). I've been a parent too and caring for parent situations are often way more arduous and tend to get worse.

Accepting parent leave without giving a break to any other situation is just 'fuck you i got mine' case.

Why not support this as a step along this route instead of treating it as a zero-sum game?

Older people are allowed to have kids as well, and so are just as eligible for paternity/maternity leave. Even if women are past the age of child bearing, they can adopt children and be eligible for maternity leave.

For your situation - were you not eligible for the FMLA?

FMLA is a joke. All FMLA actually says is the company can't outright fire you if you need up to 12 weeks to deal with family matters. The company is under no obligation to do anything else for you and if you can't afford to take time off without pay, well sux to be you.

Depends on the state. What about the business? They hired you for a reason, and you want them to keep paying you while you are not doing anything for them. What if the business can't afford to pay in a state where it is mandated? Well, sux to be them.

The business also wants me to come back after leave instead of moving to a less expensive place while looking for another job. Paid leave is an investment.

California its paid.

> Older people are allowed to have kids as well

Did you read my comment at all? I am not talking about having kids.

>For your situation - were you not eligible for the FMLA?

Because I needed a salary to pay medical bills and provide for new living arrangements .