ASMR is a tingling sensation that can be triggered by reasons as varied as the people listening. For example, some people never get it from audio but only from interacting with others, like listening to someone tell a story or explain something in detail. Usually people's first experience is by accident and something they recall later rather than a purposeful attempt through youtube videos.

If you like rainymood then perhaps your trigger is rain and weather sounds, and these other videos (which admittedly look low quality) are just not your thing. There's also a lot of content out there so you'll have to put in some effort into finding what works for you.

A tingling feeling similar to my experience of AMSR (based on the whispering Youtube videos) happens when I inhale sharply and focus on the back of my head. Doing so also tilts my head back everso slightly.

If I concentrate more, I need not inhale sharply, just normal breathing will do. The tingling happens always at the in-breath.

A strong tingle persists over the out breath too.

If I keep (over) doing it, it vanishes for some time. All this led me to believe it is muscle related somehow, and the vanishing effect is because of muscle fatigue. What muscle/muscles - no clue, something on the scalp I guess.

I don't know of it's the same, but for me it feels like that.

> are these videos just especially bad videos, or am I just not doing it right

Of course, this sounds lame and mystical, but "it depends and it's different for everyone."

My favorite ASMR videos aren't the ones with the crazy high production value and the makeup and the desperation for subscribers.

My favorite are the videos by people who are just documenting their lives.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EwkfcG0oxEU

Thanks, "it depends and it's different for everyone" was the answer I was expecting, but I wasn't sure if there was something else to it that resulted in such a large population of ASMR videos springing up so quickly. I'd think if it were 100% varied, they'd all be super niche, but the fact that they're all labeled similarly and part of an overarching "ASMR" movement made me think there was some common thread that made them "work" for everyone.

I'm watching/listening to the video you linked and the metal clinking sounds (and the lady's voice/accent) are nice and pleasant, but they're not "doing" anything for me worth a 30 minute video quite yet -- will keep watching with an open mind and put some more effort into finding what's right for me. :)

One thing I'll mention is that if you don't already know what ASMR feels like, you probably don't get it at all.

I doubt anyone's first ASMR experience will be through an ASMR video. It's more like something you've experienced on and off since childhood, at the store, the library, the barber shop, the doctor's office, etc.

And when the ASMR videos started getting popular, everyone who experiences ASMR heard about them and thought to themselves "So that's what that sensation is called! I thought I was the only one!"

So don't treat it like a spiritual journey where you'll find some lost part of yourself. It's really just a tool for relaxation, and if you "get the tingles" that's just a plus.

Asmr videos are specific in the way books are. Few of the professional produced asmr works for me, only specific videos by specific asmr artists like Dr Latte's Cranial Nerve Exam. Just as with a book - you should be in a certain mood to enjoy them or it doesn't work so well. I think Sequoya always works if you listen long enough. Look at the unintentional asmr videos links in my other comment.

It's pretty much just a cover fronting for a genre of soft core cheesecake pinup phone sex.

It targets from two angles, the models don't really understand the cheap thrills listeners get from this audio, and the listeners retain plausible deniability for the sexualization of their fantasies, such that they don't have to admit to hoarding pornography, as is the case with images and video.

Sadly this is more about Youtube views and has become a huge bummer for me. I started listening to some of these early videos around 9 or 10 years ago and they weren't referred to as ASMR videos at first but rather I'd search for "whisper videos", "soft spoken relaxation videos", and stuff like that.

These typically didn't even show the person who was speaking as you typically listened on headphones while laying down to relax. I found it soothing and they probably triggered some instinctive reaction to non-sexual intimacy and care.

Over the years it's become harder to find videos that soothe and relax me in this way because the "scene" that has developed around ASMR seems to focus on all sorts of weird sounds like tapping on stuff, loud crinkling, rubber gloves, and the absolute worst (for me)...touching the damn mic!

If I'm trying to relax with some soothing, soft voice talking me through some relaxation scenario or just something to zone out on while I fall asleep, the last thing I want to hear is some loud, unexpected sound or brushing on the mic. As someone who has done quite a bit of video and audio production, if someone bumps or touches the mic it's not a good thing and it just kicks me out of whatever relaxing, tingly zone I may have been sinking into.

I understand that a lot of people dig the foley art and sound effects but it seems like now (on youtube at least) it's 95% crinkly, crackly, brushy, tappy, chewing (ugghhh) sounds made right up into a mic by some pretty girl in front of a ring light and a DIY chromakey backdrop. None of this is relaxing or soothing to me and it certainly doesn't trigger any ASMR tingles in me...

...but I'm sure it helps boost those view counts and grab viewer attention when that sexy thumbnail shows up in the Youtube listing.

>the absolute worst (for me)...touching the damn mic!

It really is the worst.

Straight male here. My favorite ASMR video is of a dude wearing a fish person mask, eating fudge, and talking to a pineapple [1].

Can you explain to me how exactly this is "soft core phone sex"? Am I unconsciously gay for fish-men?

What you are talking about does happen, but I think you are painting with waay too broad a brush.

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2v1-PQ2cmo&

Ha ha! That video is on another level entirely. The appeal of that particular channel has nothing to do with ASMR, and you know it.