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Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012) by dmichulke on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @07:08AM (#16428831)
1. I only ever heard of this as a dilemma and not a paradox

2. There is this recruiting problem where you have to decide which secretary to hire before having seen all of them. The optimal solution is to see the first 37% (1/e) and then hire the first that is better than the previously seen best.

Putting that into lifespan of ~75 ys and assuming we don't really start sampling until we are 15, we end up with an optimal stopping (= exploitation) age of 32.07.

Surprisingly close to the 30 mentioned.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secretary_problem

Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012) by TorKlingberg on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @09:46AM (#16429779)
It's the optimal solution if you wan to optimize the probability of hiring the one best secretary out of all the candidates. When hiring you usually care more about maximizing the expected "goodness", hiring someone in the top X%, or anyone who meets a certain bar.
Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012) by thecrazyone on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @08:09AM (#16429130)
Oh! I used a similar mathematical model while finding a spouse.

I figured, that for me, 37% (1/e) worked out to 13 people.

This (finding people) is a space I've spent a lot of time doing, planning, understanding, and thinking about :)

Also, there are a lot of scientific papers on how to model these in scholar.google.com (sorry that I don't have links that I can give right now)

Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012) by 725686 on Wednesday February 21, 2018 @03:13PM (#16432549)
How romantic.
Re:Why is it hard to make friends over 30? (2012) by KingPrad on Thursday February 22, 2018 @11:33AM (#16438780)
Have you read "The Rosie Project"? It explored some similar ideas as a fun novel.