> There is certainly an odd dynamic on the "nerdy" websites when it comes to promoting the under-represented gender.

There have been plenty comments here discussing the "why", and the gist of it is the concept of "under-represented".

Why are so many so afraid?

Would they be afraid of a "Black Founders Conference"?

What about men tackling issues like work/life balance and getting connections to their families? A "Men as Parents" conference?

I am a long way away from San Francisco so I really have no idea what the ins and outs of the local culture are, but I see this same fear here. Not a nostalgia for old gender roles, but some sort of fear about being left out. It is changing, but has a long way to go.

I haven't yet seen any evidence of fear.

Not taking any sides, but this whole "HN is more mature than reddit on these topics" meme is wrong and out-dated. I mean, goodness, look at this thread (well, if you have showdead on at least).

If the comments are dead, they are not representative, in fact, they are clearly exactly what the community rejects.

And, in my observations, similar toxic conversations and people acting in bad faith are downvoted on reddit.

Who cares? My point was more that "at least we're better than reddit" is tacky. I don't think either of us are likely to objective make an assessment here either way on "toxicity of a topic on HN vs reddit".

>And, in my observations, similar toxic conversations and people acting in bad faith are downvoted on reddit.

I suppose I disagree with you there, as someone who hasn't used this website super much (about a year maybe?)and has been using reddit for about 5 years, HN seems much better to me in providing a longer, more concerted discussion. I didn't realise it was a meme though.

But that's just a personal opinion.

> they are clearly exactly what the community rejects

aka. "HN herd mentality." It feels me with sadness when I see the same trend over and over. People who have different opinions on certain political/social matters are being silenced by this whole "community rejects" bullshit.

Ok, forget "community" then. Point is, there is no agreed "The opinion of HN" in dead comments.

dead comments are not representative in general of HN since the downvotes/flags outnumber the upvotes/vouches.

That presumes all members vote & have down vote privilege: which is not true in either case.

This is an excellent point. Sadly, people who share less popular opinions will (probably) never get to the point when they can start up/down voting. So the only way to get these "superpowers" is to join the HN circle jerk.

That's only True if you constantly make unpopular opinions, such that they outweigh your regular ones. There are all sorts of neutral comments that can be made, a point a piece..

depends on what you consider to be a member. If there wasn't a karma cap, it'd be easy to sock-puppet-fake the votes.

Explain?

"...look at this thread."

If you go into your profile settings and turn on the [showdead] option, you'll be able to see all of the comments that were flagkilled. That will give you a better picture of just how nasty a lot of them were.

Thanks, I did not know about that.

I am puzzled by some of the decisions. Whatever, up to the moderators how they moderate.

If a comment gets flagged by enough users or downvoted far enough it gets killed, that's what's been happening in a majority of cases on this post.

Totally agree about the need for moderation. I am not complaining!

I am not sure how our comments are adding to the problem. We should not act as if there is no problem with prejudice and bigotry in society generally. Sexism and misogyny in technology in particular.