Re:I went to Nigeria to meet a man who scammed me
by zaidf on Thursday October 20, 2016 @02:21PM
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At the moment, I'm afraid I'm unable to muster the empathy necessary to understand how you could even begin to help the scammer.
Is there anyone who can still empathize with her? Strategize with them to help her. Make them the goto person that talks about this topic with her while you are in the background.
One of the biggest lessons in my life that I've learned is if I can't empathize with someone, it is very unlikely that I can help them. Of course, this doesn't mean that I am at fault necessarily. But it doesn't matter who is at fault; the fact remains: if I can't empathize, I can't help (and most likely .
Since realizing this, I've found it much more productive to find someone who can empathize with that person. Often, this someone is a person who isn't as emotionally invested in the situation as you may be. It might be a friend of hers that she used to be close with a decade ago but has lost touch since. It might be her neighbor she loves talking to because he is always agreeable (so when he disagrees for once, she is more likely to listen.) I'd try to make a shortlist of such people in her life and enlist one or more of them to help your mother-in-law.
Is there anyone who can still empathize with her? Strategize with them to help her. Make them the goto person that talks about this topic with her while you are in the background.
One of the biggest lessons in my life that I've learned is if I can't empathize with someone, it is very unlikely that I can help them. Of course, this doesn't mean that I am at fault necessarily. But it doesn't matter who is at fault; the fact remains: if I can't empathize, I can't help (and most likely .
Since realizing this, I've found it much more productive to find someone who can empathize with that person. Often, this someone is a person who isn't as emotionally invested in the situation as you may be. It might be a friend of hers that she used to be close with a decade ago but has lost touch since. It might be her neighbor she loves talking to because he is always agreeable (so when he disagrees for once, she is more likely to listen.) I'd try to make a shortlist of such people in her life and enlist one or more of them to help your mother-in-law.