I am a funny guy. I have been told multiple times by different people that I am the funniest person they have ever met. I have been told several times by different people in different contexts that I should be a stand-up comedian. All these were spontaneous and not said by anyone who wanted or needed anything from me.
I also used to be morbidly obese. Now I am in good shape.
The idea that funny is attractive in isolation (in the same way that a pretty face is on a woman) is, based on my experience, entirely, hilariously untrue.
Just one man's life :)
When you're just funny, there is a general lowering of respect for such people. People wanna hang out with you, but they don't respect you as much.
What you need to be is to add 'cockiness' to your personality. Again being just cocky is bad because then you just come out as a dick.
The killer combination is to get the right amount of cockiness + humor.
I suspect this to be true. Not in the sense that, from my experience, people see a comedian (pro or not) as somehow "lesser", but that some people only seem to joke. It becomes tiresome. I have a colleague like this. Interaction with him is a series of music references or jokes and poor accent imitations. Carrying on a serious conversation, as has happened sometimes, is great until he starts cutting up again.
One of the problems with being told "you're so ____" is that people often start trying to emphasize ____. You've already got that, now work on the rest of yourself. Autoflanderization should be avoided.
People laugh together to show group bonding. Naturally you are more likely to laugh at the jokes of somebody you want to be close to.
My gym has plenty of men with amazing physiques who are absolutely awful with women. It also has a pudgy guy who's amazing.
What does this mean?
Its kind of TRP dog whistle-ish, which is neither good nor bad.
Can you perform your joke or pickup line or whatever in an appealing manner with confidence and consistently without giggling or overreacting to your audience facial expression or generally looking anxious.
If you abstract out all the sex and the psychological rationalization behind it, its something like the audience would not find you flaky if you were presenting at a professional meeting. The presenter might be wrong or the audience might be completely uninterested, but they would describe it as presented well, by most common standards of presenting well. There's generally a side dish of smooth recovery from minor bumps in the road, which some people would consider a self evident part of the definition of "presenting well".
Originally, way back, the concept comes from the mix of the mental side of disciplined holding your frame of mind and the physical side of maintaining a strong frame when ballroom dancing or lifting.
I've witnessed women ignore a funny guy with a good personality or body for a boring "beta acting" guy with a highly attractive face.
The articles point is that the longer you know someone, the less their attractiveness matters. I suspect that slope starts rather quickly.
it's amazing how good looking your face becomes when you're in shape and have a decent amount of muscle mass with definition.
BULLSHIT. I was very self conscious of my big nose but Asian women love it! The first time I heard 'I like your nose! it's so nice' I couldn't believe it.
I had to turn off notifications for Tinder because it's so active after 11:00PM.
Many male models have huge or badly broken noses (see Stone Island campaigns for the latter). They're still considered handsome. I guy who lived on my street has an extraordinary long face, and he's a now D&G model.
Exercising and having good skin puts you in front of 90% of men. I'd agree algorithm might say smaller noses are, on the whole, more handsome, but you can still be considered handsome having a huge nose.
Self confidence plays a big role too, which goes with funny. Not "jerk self confidence", but "talk to you comfortably self confidence".
Also, I don't rely on online dating. I'm not a "player" by any stretch of the imagination, but life is too short to wonder what a woman would have said, so if I see a woman I like, I talk to her and ask her out if its appropriate. Politely and unintrusively. You risk nothing except rejection and stand to gain a whole lot more. Life gives to people who ask.