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Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by kmeil on Saturday February 21, 2015 @12:02PM (#9086041)
The 'normal conference' (aka Startup School) does admit women.

I was admitted last year but couldn't attend. This event supports and encourages a community.

This will be my second and there isn't an event I went to last year (when I was starting my first company) that was more productive or helpful, including several I paid a lot of $$ for (this is also a free conference).

more here if you like: http://www.fastcompany.com/3042308/the-y-combinator-chronicl...

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:18PM (#9086295)
Or why do we have this separation?

One of the biggest issues women face is that most men will not talk to them unless they are hoping to bed them. Men sometimes do this out of the best of intentions -- not wanting a woman to think he is hitting on her or not wanting anyone to think there is an affair because he is "friendly" with her -- but it is a very serious obstacle to women being able to network and actually have meaty discussions of business. It's also generally helpful for minorities to see examples of someone "like them" in some important way who has done the thing they inspire to. One of the benefits of that is to see an example of what works, even if you don't know the right questions to ask about "what do I need to do differently to be successful at this, in spite of the fact that people like me are so seldom successful at this?" It can be helpful to see those examples even in cases where you do not think too deeply about what they are doing differently from others "like them." It can just give you a glimpse of a pattern you haven't seen before that you can emulate without fully analyzing.

I do what I can to make it possible for women to participate more equally on HN. I am sort of appalled that Jessica Livingston, the sole female among the YC founders and a presenter at this conference, does not see fit to participate more in discussion here. I think her absence on the forum is one of the reasons it is such a boyzone. But I am glad to see YC doing something to try to support women founders, even though I tend to be much more interested in finding a means to be inclusive of women in the "boys club" rather than in trying to segregate them. Nonetheless, segregation for women to help them get started seems to have a track record of success. From what I gather, women-only colleges have a decent track record of producing female leadership and female coding groups appear to also help women break in. So unless I can offer something definitively more effective and also ideologically more palatable, I see no reason to tear it down with criticism.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by DAddYE on Saturday February 21, 2015 @02:32PM (#9086552)
> I do what I can to make it possible for women to participate more equally on HN.

I think it is a good start, one more thing I highly suggest is to partecipate more in the opensource. I know it is a bit OT.

Trust me, there are men as you described but there are (probably more) who are just interested in your skills and abilities.

Why don't try to scale more this: https://github.com/trending/developers?since=weekly

Take for example: https://github.com/LeaVerou

We need more Lea Verou here, in internet, in hi-tech and life.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Saturday February 21, 2015 @04:45PM (#9087112)
Thank you for your comment. I did reply earlier, then thought better of it and deleted it and wrote an Ask. Please consider commenting there:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9087109

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by cbd1984 on Monday February 23, 2015 @05:27AM (#9093522)
> most men will not talk to them unless they are hoping to bed them.

This is just very, very sexist, and I'm surprised nobody has called you out on it.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Monday February 23, 2015 @01:10PM (#9095822)
It is a nutshell version of what I said here: http://micheleincalifornia.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-gray-zon...

That piece made the front page, so I suspect some folks here have context as to what I mean: That women have trouble getting men to engage them in a meaty way. Many men err on the side of caution, as I stated above. Heterosexual men have a tendency to engage women only superficially, unless they are looking for a romantic relationship. No, not all men do that. But a high percentage seem to and it's problematic.

I regret that it was probably not the best way to express it, but I'm not sure there is a good way to say it in brief.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by blueflow on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:34PM (#9086368)
One of the biggest issues women face is that most men will not talk to them unless they are hoping to bed them.

Do you have ideas how we could reduce this Problem in the future?

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by ncza on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:49PM (#9086418)
And can we get any source on that claim?
Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:59PM (#9086448)
Firsthand personal experience as a woman, plus observation of the world around me, including reading what other women write, many of whom are extremely angry about how men interact with them.
Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by ncza on Saturday February 21, 2015 @08:25PM (#9087795)
I am sorry but that sounds like an echochamber effect. It does not mirror my experiences at all which consist of mostly the same. Personal experiences are not a measure for all society.
Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Sunday February 22, 2015 @04:16PM (#9091137)
That cuts both ways: Your personal experiences do not dismiss the widespread experiences of a great many women.

If it isn't an issue for you, then you may be a statistical outlier. It seems to be a pretty typical experience for most women -- not all, of course, but it appears to be quite common. Even female founders* sometimes talk about the degree to which they have been treated like nothing but a piece of ass by men they were trying to make deals with, an issue men do not typically have to face when they are trying to launch a business.

* http://heidiroizen.tumblr.com/post/84530650750/its-different...

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by birdsareweird on Saturday February 21, 2015 @03:23PM (#9086744)
Meanwhile nobody still gives a shit about the way women treat men, or men's "lived experiences". You complain, people listen. We complain, we are told to suck it up.

For some reason, "observant" women keep denying it though.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Saturday February 21, 2015 @03:27PM (#9086764)
I am guessing you have never read any of my blog posts. Perhaps you should.
Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by birdsareweird on Sunday February 22, 2015 @04:07PM (#9091100)
No but you've pulled this exact same "do you know who I am???" spiel before. I remember the account name. Didn't care then either.

Hint: if you were relevant, you wouldn't need to remind people. And if you weren't stuck up, you'd have made a point here instead of acting sanctimonious.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by Mz on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:43PM (#9086391)
I occasionally blog about my thoughts on the topic. Some of those posts can be found here: http://micheleincalifornia.blogspot.com/p/hn-tools.html

The ones that might interest you most are The Gray Zone, Oh My God It's a Girl! and Glass Walls.

I also put some of the responsibility on women, which gets me into endless hot water and accused of "victim blaming." The post Nothing But a Bunch of Boobs takes that angle (but, then, so does Oh My God It's A Girl!, but it is a tad less controversial).

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by ripb on Saturday February 21, 2015 @12:57PM (#9086220)
>Or why do we have this separation?

Because it's easier to be a big fish in a small pond.

Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by pskittle on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:28PM (#9086341)
The separation exists because of the gap in the number of women starting companies I believe
Re:Female Founders Conference today at 1pm PT by mc32 on Saturday February 21, 2015 @01:37PM (#9086376)
Well, I see two things at play here. One, there could be a subset of topics which are by the nature of things of interest to women in particular, so they can dive into these kinds of things from a woman's perspective.

To add to the above, it somewhat, superficially at least, frees women from men's ideology. But again, exposing gender antagonism.

Two, it is what people expect, in a way, so why not take this as a marketing differentiator? Perception can matter more than reality. Basically exploiting 'gender antagonism', as it were. This is a prototypical Lacanian symptom.